Does this war on Terror give soldiers male/female the right to cheat on their spouse?
I just read a question about a woman who’s deployed husband cheated on her and she is coming to grip’s figuring out how to survive this , 5 answers basically told her he is fighting for the good of man kind and protecting this and that so this indescrepancy should be over looked because of everything he is going through over in Iraq , Does this war give them the right to get into relationships with other people ? does it excuse the pain cheating causes ? would you forgive and forget if your spouse did this and why?
Me personally I couldnt my father cheated on my mother in Vietnam and I have a half brother in the world I’ll never meet , this was the beginning of the downfall for my parents , so why is it ok to cheat just because they dont know if they’ll survive and come home or die fighting the war against terror? they signed up voluntarily they werent forced like my father was just because he was 18 so what make ’s it ok and I’ll be checking names against the previous questions
So dont change your answers to get 10 points I am not the points fairy , say your peace and be honest.
Nichols you are so way out there if they loved their wives so much they would stay with their wedding vows and not cheat it just shows how weak they are and maybe they shouldnt be keeping the peace in another country if they cant keep the peace in their own marriage , dude your just way off I can smell ya from here.
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I may also have half brothers and sisters out there luckily for my family my father had not yet my mother until he came home.
However I have to say this is not a one sided issue, I had a friend who was convinced her husband was going to die in war so she found herself a boyfriend while he was out being our hero.
This is just as wrong and as horrible, when you say I DO, it means you commit every part of your body, life, health, money, and emotion to that person.
I know that we seem to take marriage on a trial basis or even a casual thing but its not meant to be that way, its meant to be a life long vow.
My hubby have been married 5 years and have never ever thought of leaving, straying or wanting out.
There are morons in the world who choose to excuse any bad behavior. Their views do not reflect reality or the views of most intelligent, mature people. Yes people make mistakes, but they still have to pay for them. They should not automatically be forgiven or excused. The only true excuse is mental illness that prevents one from knowing the difference between right and wrong. There are lots of ways to relieve stress other than cheating on your spouse. One could give the wife the same excuse.
No, I don’t going through lots of crap gives him the right to cheat on her. It’s like saying: since low class people are very poor and miserable, they should be allowed to steal, or we should at least ignore it.
Absolutely not.
thats terrorism in family and marriage.
No. swoosh
There is no justification for cheating. EVER.
A cheater is a cheater. these guys who cheat are scum they were scum before joining the service and they’ll be scum after they come home. There is never an excuse to cheat on your spouse. Any that says there is is simply making an excuse. So what the troop is fighting for America over there. He/She is fighting for their family by sleeping around over there they are just bastardizing the reason they are personally there.
They have obviously forgotten the vows of marriage!Forgiveness is not an option when adultery is adultery. No circumstances make adultery acceptable. In regards to the husband, he can’t stay faithful during the hardest times in the marriage so she shouldn’t expect him to later.
My husband is over there for the 2nd time. I hear stories of what goes on over there and with the access of the internet to so many over there, who knows what they are really doing over there on their down time. We are told over and over what we shouldn’t bother them with, they have a mission to do…I have heard it all before. No, it’s inexcusable for any infidenlity here and especially over there. The wives of so many are over here worrying for them and they’re over there thinking they won’t get caught or if something might happen, what difference does it make. NO, it doesn’t excuse them for their cheating. I’ve been married to my Marine for 18 years, before he joined. I hope he doesn’t think about cheating, it would break my heart to think here I am, waiting for him, enduring lonely days and nights and doing this single parenthood and taking care of everything while he is sent of to work and fight over there. I would hope his integrity would get the better of him.
Unfortunately, with their constant deployments, extensions of deployments…their rational thinking is out the window. So many marriages are strained because how can a marriage work with thousands of miles seperating them for such long periods of time.
Bottom line…NO FORGIVENESS…just because they are away from their spouses, doesn’t mean they aren’t married.
if you were going to be blown up in an hour and you could have a piece of tail how would right and wrong come into it
There is NEVER a reason to cheat–NEVER !! War?? How stupid—-thats the silliest excuse I ever heard of. A cheat is a creepy louse because he has no respect, dignity, integrity, self control, or sense of truth. Disease is a big issue–how nice of a cheater to risk bringing home some fatal disease—fighting men are not always the most moral men in the world–the excuses are just as lame as the ones our civilian cheaters use. The solution ??? Have his new sex partner meet him at the airport–or tell him to stay there and not to bother to come home—ooops–there won’t be a home to come home to !!
I believe yes. This are my facts. These soldier and deployed away from there wifes, they don’t know there fates while they are there. The stress they go through everyday, thinking about there families, there wifes, yet it become a year or two away from there wives whom they used to have sex with, how would they bear to be without sex for a year when they are used to have each other day?Bear in mind that 75% of what a man think is sex related. Although you may argue that they are no execuses, how many women left behind becomes faithfull for two years without it. Let face the fact. if a woman cheats, that thing is so sleat and most of them they never revealed of there infidelity unless something goes wrong. Understand the situation they go through and the lack of services the lack from there wives. Infidelity among soldier is there. And whosever tell you he don’t do it, ask again. What wives should appreciate is if there husbands comes home alive and start rebuilding there lost trust which wasn’t there fault but they had no otherwise
No! It absolutely does not!
A war doesn’t give anyone the right to abandon morals.
I didn’t read that question yet, but it really surprises me that people would answer like that. It’s really pretty shameful.
It’s just another excuse a cheater uses. There are so many…and none of them are acceptable.
I don’t think anyone’s marriage vows said, "forsaking all others…unless in a combat zone".
As a former military man, I can only say that some people will use any reason to have an affair.
He is just not a loyal man when it comes to a relationship, and the war is not an excuse. She should just divorce him and look for a man who respects her and himself more.
My father also cheated on my mother when in Vietnam and I have 2 other siblings in this world that I will never meet. My father was just bragging about this very thing a few weeks ago, and I think that these men who may be brave for going to war, are cowards when it comes to facing the realities and hardships of marriage.
no.
patriotism is never an excuse nor a privilege.
For some reason, yes this war does give them the right to cheat. But it shouldn’t! No, it does not excuse the pain associated with cheating.
If my ex-hubby was genuinely sorry, and made just one ’slip up’ yeah I probably would have considered forgiving and forgetting, but he burned his bridges - he did it quite a lot and clearly wasn’t sorry.
I don’t think they cheat because they believe they won’t come home in one piece, when the soldiers go away on training exercises, they still cheat, and they haven’t even left the country.
Like your parents, my ex-hubby’s cheating did contribute to the demise of our marriage.
And yes I agree that they are brave and doing our country a good service, and I respect them for that, but if they can’t stay faithful to their partners, then my respect for them diminishes.
i read answers like that before many times (about deployments) and there is no way cheating is ok because he is risking his life. should i cheat now too because he may not come back too and its stressful for me?
I wouldn’t suggest it because someday some half white,half raghead kid might come knocking on the door looking for support money when this country is already spending too much money on them already.
Nothing gives anyone a good reason to cheat. What I think happens here is that all these men get together away from girlfriends and their spouse and entice one another. They do it because the war justifies in their mind that they may not see another day and ….. they back each other up with this excuse. Your wedding vows do not end because you choose to go to war! A spouse is either committed and keeps his word or he chooses not to! The war does not mean that you have the right to abandon your morals and your respect for the spouse waiting for you at home. Nothing in the world should give you reason to cheat because you always have the option of not doing it. Everything you do begins with a thought so to even think about doing it means that you can think not to.When you take a thought to act on something its a thought out plan and in my book never a mistake. A person cheats because he thinks to do it and because he wants to. If a person can work themselves up for temptation they can work themselves up to be faithful and thats the bottom line. Just because you forgive someone for cheating on you does not mean that it is forgotten. It means that you will try to put it someplace if you can but it doesn’t mean that it will stay there. Often when a spouse cheats on you its a battle within yourself for your own emotions and feelings of trust to remain grounded. Its not so much on how they choose not to look at you when they cheated its the way you you are looking and seeing them now. Your world is not the same and it says a lot about that persons character in how they value their morals and have respect for the one that they claim to love.
HELL NO! we, as wives, get so much crap for cheating while they are deployed…when the world doesnt know that the soldiers, \"HERO\’S\" cheat their happy asses off !!!!i am not speaking for all Soldiers, but it\’s the damn honest truth and light needs to be shed upon this already, esp after how many years of this war?! i have had 3…3!!! friends cheated on over there!!! where\’s the news coverage on this part?!?!?! it\’s b.s. bc we all get the hate over cheating when in reality there\’s female soldiers that go for it w our men, and vice-a-versa and all the civilian US workers over there. Hello America!!! Welcome to our, the real, world!!!!!!