what is the deal with these nasty cheating military spouses?
i am a new army wife of course.but my man has been gone for almost over a year.visited for only 3 weeks while on d and d.i have never thought about another man or being with him ever while he was gone.our men are military and we know that when we marry them or when they sign up if already married.so why do these nasty spouses use the excuse of their man or woman being gone too long,and they are all alone and/or a single parent and needed someone to be there for them?they knew when the war started what would happen eventually,DEPLOYMENT!!!they are told what that words means in clear definition and what it means completely.being a wife, and not just military means commiting to your vows,respecting each other, and loving each other through it all.(not cheating or abuse).so why would they even cross their spouse and do that while they are out risking their lives in a foreign country?they could get hurt or die at any moment and all your nasty spouses can think of is sex,being a single mom, and whatever other dumb excuse you have!that angers me alot to see and hear about that each day from people i know.obviously you nasty spouses have no respect for your marriage and the military lifestyle.if you cannot handle it or the marriage,leave before it gets to the point of cheating.be a man or woman and tell that person you do not want them,instead of letting them get a world away and decide this.i love my husband and couldnt imagine me hurting him or him hurting me in that kind of way.being a supportive spouse means supporting each other in every way possible.you are not taking that task on by cheating while they are gone or even leaves the house each day.(for the women who cheat when the husbands go to work or on training for a while).what do you get out of cheating?a std,a baby you didnt want,a one time deal, or hope that you spouse can see your point?cause none of them are worth cheating and getting or showing out of the deal.
people please help me understand what is wrong with these spouses?spouses speak out if you have cheated on your while they were gone.tell me what is the point.maybe i dont not see what you see.or the spouses that were deployed and got cheated on while you were gone tell me the stupid excuses you heard for them doing it.maybe someone can shed the light on not honoring your vows,military lifestyle,and hurting your spouse cause they were gone not willingly?i would love to find out the reasoning for this nasty,scanless,and dirty way spouses are as soon as their man/woman leaves for deployment!
thanks for the help!and lets put this nasty folks on blast all the way.speak your mind!!
for the record i work full time and go to school full time for the haters who putting bad stuff on here.dont get mad at me cause u sit your lazy but at home and have babies and chose not to work or go to school to better your future financially like i did.u are adults and make your own decisions.that is why there are jobs and child care.!!give up the excuses for cheating or for someone like me not understanding.u cheating spouses are nasty and thats all to it!!
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You are going to have a lot of people try to soften this reality, there going to say it gets tough stick around xx years down the road you will change your mind blah blah. That is Bull! I am an Army Infantry mans wife who was a Ranger with 2/75 for years. He is now 51 yrs old and we have been married for 27 years. All 27 years I have been an Army wife we have 2 children and 2 grandchildren. My husband is currently in Afghanistan and will retire when he gets home. I have been away from him more than with him BUT I have always loved him and he has always loved me. It is possible to not cheat. I lived on post a long time and the single soldiers and even some married ones hit on me quite often. But I never put myself in the position to cheat! I believed in our marriage. Am I patting myself on the back? You Damn right I am. I am very Proud to say that since marriage he’s been the only one. Here’s a clue I gave to a friend of mine who had a deployed husband in our unit. The guys were deployed and we were going out for a drink for her B- day. She was getting ready at my house and it was mid winter and cold. She asked if I had any baby oil so she could shave her bikini area and not get ugly bumps. I told her, "if you are worried about how you look without your clothes on your subconscious has something more than a drink with me in mind!" Needless to say our friendship didn’t last. Hang in there and don’t let what other people concern you. Be supportive to your man and be involved in his life. Send him boxes keep your marriage alive. I always felt like the luckiest woman alive I got another honeymoon after every deployment. Ya know, I wonder what these cheaters would do if there new husband was diagnosed with an illness or was in a bad accident and for several months could not "be there for her, or service her" I don’t think they even know what real love is.
It is only the republicans that cheat,
Life of a spouse is a rough one to get thru. Stick around a while, and you will understand how rough it can be. Every other year, being alone for an additional 12 to 15 months. I dont condone the activities of these spouses. I think after ten or so years, your attitude will change and understanding will come, left with sadness. Its sad that the army has to have their spouses gone for this long, when the air force and marines are doing 3 to 6 month tours. Its the process that needs to be fixed. I know the military didnt issue these people spouses, but its normal for humans to want to be in loving relationships, and should in theory make better soldiers. Putting them in situations over and over that ruin families and relationship just is not a good policy. Hope that some fairness comes along. The last 6 years have been REALLY rough!
Cheaters cheat no matter where they are - in the military cheaters have more opportunities to do so because of deployments, school and training that separates them from their spouse.
I am not married, but was. Look you can tell people until you are blue in the face what something is like, and they can agree that they will like it or can handle it. Until they actually experience it, they cannot honestly say this. Ok like this…have you ever seen the movie unleashed? Well she tries to explain to the guy that vanilla ice cream is good and it is very cold. She tells him to lick it slowly. He takes a huge bite and guess what…yup…brain freeze. She explained to him, but because he had never experienced it before he just jumped in. Not the best analogy, but I’m kinda tired, sorry.
LoL Well you took the darn words right out of my mouth! I feel the SAME EXACT WAY!!!!!!!
I see this crap happen ALL THE TIME!
My hubs is currently ‘over there’ as well and it’s been a year now and still has a few months to go. I can not even begin to think about another man, ever! We have 4 wonderful kids together and I wouldn’t change our life for anything in the world.
I am NOT a single mom just because he is deployed! I am not single in any way! I am simply a mom and a wife and my husband is there for our kids even thousands of miles away. He is there for me even when he isn’t physically here. Our connection and our relationship is very strong in every possible way.
It is so sad because I talk to my hubs everyday and he tells me that pretty much all of his soldiers are going through divorces. Their wives have either cheated on them while they have been over there, figured out that being an army wife ‘isn’t for them’, or they just want to be whores and party all the time. I can not understand this crap! I just want to get those b*tches by their hair and b*tch slap them over and over and hope that I can knock some sense into them!
It is SOOOO frustrating that so many people think that ALL military wives are like that. Well that is SO not the case. I am one of THE MOST faithful and committed army wives out there!
They are putting their lives on the line for you, me, and their children. THE VERY LEAST we can do as military wives is be true to our husbands!!!!!
It’s a combination of lack of respect and selflessness in conjunction with a love for the penis/vagina.
K i know this isn’t help to your questions. but I just have to say that I agree totally and completely 100% with you. It boggles my brain so bad. I too don’t get it at all. So while others will answer and make excuses for why they did it and why it happened just know that there are others who agree with you and feel the same way!
WHOA "new army wife" this is not just deployed soldiers, this is couples EVERYWHERE, in EVERY profession, and soldiers do it too. So don’t just lump all military spouses into one category just because you’re one now.
I know!!! There are so many skank "wives" in my husbands battalion it is ridiculous. I cant stand whores.
I have been a military wife for ten years and have never cheated or thought about it. However, people cheat whether they are in the military or not. You are new to the military life. It is not an easy one and you should never judge other wives just because you would never do it. Husband down range cheat also, it is not just the wives. The military has the highest divorce rates, most marriages last only five years. The loneliness takes a toll on everyone, it is how you deal with it that makes you the person you are. I just hope you don’t end up eating your words later on in life.
You cannot change other people, only yourself. This is obviously bugging you…maybe you could work extra hours if you are lucky enough to have a job in this economy or volunteer. I bet the Family Support Center or USO would love to have you and you’d meet other people with the same goals and values you have.
people cheat regardless if they are in the military, or a spouse. Some, it’s in their nature or they are just not happy
I was one of those Marines who found out his wife was cheating on him while I was ‘over there’, as you put it. My neighbor took some pictures of her and another on my front doorstep kissing…deeply, with his hand down her….nevermind. You get the idea.
It was hard to endure for sure, but I don’t hate her for it. I had been gone 18 months on deployment. When I got home, I handed her the pictures, walked into the bedroom, packed up and moved back into the barracks. Filed for divorce and tried to get on with my life.
The entire ordeal left a scar on me, but the ‘freedom to choose’ is one thing I stood for as a U.S. Marine. Choose your destiny, good or bad. So, maybe it was partly my fault too. I don’t know.