possible infidelity or stupidity?
My husband left to go to training for a month for his job, and he left a little less that two weeks ago. He told me on the phone tonight that he "didn’t want me to worry," but he is "very sexually frustrated." He is starting to look at the other women there and thinking "hmmm." He said that he was talking to me about his "desires" and thoughts looking at other women because he "trusts me and thinks it is a good thing that we talk about these things." He cheated on his last wife, so it is within his capacity. He then says that he cheated on his last wife and doesn’t want this to happen with our relationship. He then says that sexual relations are not allowed among trainees there, and if people are caught doing it, they will be kicked out. If he is kicked out, then I’ll find out about it and leave him (his words). This sends up a red flag. Is my husband that stupid to think that it’s a matter of trust to talk about his lust, or is this a good warning sign of infidelity?
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…infidelity in the making, divorce him and be happy! if not it will forever be on your mind, and your lack of trust…good luck.
K!
It sounds very confusing. It’s a warning sign of something wrong with him and the marriage, at the least, and I hope you can get into marriage counseling and figure it out.
My wife and I have always said that if we ever felt tempted to have an affair, we’d take it as a warning sign that something was wrong in our marriage, and talk about how we felt and try to fix the marriage. And that we’d divorce before sleeping with someone else. But I have no reason to think that’s what your husband is or isn’t doing.
Great warning sign of infidelity! Ditch him now. Get all your stuff out before he returns!
Dude would be just stupid to get kicked all over for a piece of azz that wasn’t worth it when he gots a good woman like you at home that can handle them fukstrated moments he’s dealing with.What’s in da past is da past but he mess up & lose you then that was all on him & that 3rd leg he got he coulda waited.So Stupidity would be the thing…~1~!!!
Two weeks? Seriously? He cannot last two weeks without feeling that way? Thats not sexually frustrated. Thats trying to put reason on your actions. My husband has a good sex drive, and we have been separated for 18 months at a time without sex, and he never ever told me such things.
I would be concerned. And very upset for him to even thinking like that. He has a hand. It can last him for two months.
you know your hubby is a sleaze ball. But i imagine he’s somewhat charming and that’s what got your initial heart. The two often go together so he can have his cake (wife) and eat it too (possibly cheat again).
Sadly, he has the cheating mentality. Stripes don’t often turn to spots. I think he does care about you and has a little conscience but he’s still a low-life scumbag. His best is not good enough.
Girl, this guy is not what your loved ones would want for you. We all make mistakes and so much can be learned in the painful lessons. I want you to carry on with this man for now. Be firm for him to keep his vows and not be a weakling and do another love partner wrong! In the meantime, i want you to work on your body, mind and soul meditation, eating right and working out, your job, your passionate hobbies, and getting out meeting decent people, like at group meditation or something. When the mierda hits the fan you are going to be so fine and say adios and more likely have a much better life to go to. Keep your cool, you’re in a game, but you’re going to win (or have a smart battle) and go beyond a game to be in a real relationship. I hate scumbags like him! But don’t enable him but play smart. i want you to win. I can sense you’re a winner in there but need a little push. It will take some courage and patience and faith girl! DO IT!