Hypothetical? You catch your spouse cheating with a STRANGER in a motel or hotel….?
Are you more likely to take it out on the stranger who probably didn’t even know your spouse was married? Or do you take it out on your spouse, the one who is truly decieving you? I know that personally, I would be more likely to lash out at the person who hurt me, my spouse. Going ballistic on a total stranger makes no sense to me.
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getting angry would be my first response, i would be mad at both of them, however if something like this happens, its best to see it for what it is, a spouse who doesn’t love u, keep your dignity even if your burning inside, walk away and file for divorce, and never speak to that person again and u will have spoken volumes to them, and u never had to lower yourself to do a thing.
I agree. Even if the woman knew that he was married, I wouldn’t do anything to her because she doesn’t owe me anything.
Now if it were a friend or at least someone that knows me personally, ITS ON
I’m not taking anything out on anyone.
If my wife did not respect me and did this, I would be angry with her and very hurt. The few times in my relationship with my wife, when I was disregarded, hurt more than most anything I can think of.
The stranger has not pledged love and honor to me but my wife has.
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I know if my girlfriend catches me cheating, she’d probably stab me like 100 times all over my body. If I caught her, I know I’d take it out on her. Don’t really know what I’ll do but i know it will be her.
The stranger never made me any promises - it’s my husband that I have an issue with.
i’d probably hurt them both
I would be more inclined to take it out on my spouse…no good will come by taking it out on some stranger…..She may or may not know that he is married…But he damn sure does know!
well I figure it this way if he doesn’t love me enough to be faithful to me then we had nothing in the beginning
I wouldn’t go ballistic on either one of them. I would walk away and never come back.
Definitely the spouse…. if they are cheating with a total stranger, who doesn’t know me, then it is not like a personal vendetta thing. It is the spouse…….
If I caught my spouse….it would be a blind rage. Seriously I may know it is more his fault as he is the one who made a commitment to me but to see him with someone else I would simply lose it and anyone in same area would likely be in my path of destruction.
My first thought was to change the locks and wait it out. lol
I would have to wait it out…anger would not get me any where…then I would ….file for a divorce.
I know I tell others to see marriage counseling however I would have major trust issues forever…history or not.
It would not be healthy for either one of us to even try to work it out. Life wouldn’t be the same.
best wishes….good question
I totally agree! He, on the other hand would catch a serious beat down
Umm, I would be the next face on Americas Most Wanted.
They both would have to die.
When a woman spreads her legs, she is not innocent either, and why would they be at a hotel (if she wasn’t sneaking also).
I have to agree. Of course, if it would be someone you knew it would be both. But, I would kill him. Not really, would move the hell on with my life
I definatly would go off on my spouse however if the involved party KNEW that he was married they’re at fault and is deserving of a lashing also–too many people DON’T respect marriage anymore–what a pitty.
I would hold both of them captive at knifepoint until I get some answers. If she’s innocent, she gets to leave. He can leave too, but his balls stay at the motel.
The stranger is invited to leave. Hesitation gets him the beating of a lifetime ( for one of us).
Next, gets me domestic violence as well as assault with intent.
None of this helps and can only cost me bigtime but boy would I feel good for a while.
Hypothetically of course.
I would walk away without doing anything. I would get all her things and find the closest dumpster, including anything that reminded me of her. (excluding children)
Let her live with it and I would move on. Oh yeah, I’d tell her that if she was on fire, that I wouldn’t spit on her. And probably how worthless she was etc;. but I would leave her completely alone and not give her one second of my time ever again.
I would take my hypothetical 12 gauge and recon the room by fire.
Wouldn’t you blame yourself?
Well, I believe going ballistic at all would not do any good. If the one who is being cheated on has the means to leave, just leave and not look back. I know to some that is easier said than done. I use to be high strung, but through the years I have mellowed out alot and I see things different now. If the one being done wrong will allow it, all it will do is drive them crazy. The cheating party is not worth it. If they cheat they will most likely do it again. Lose them now!! Life is way too short to be miserable. If one loves the other enough, they would have never cheated in the first place. And I for one strongly believes, who wants to take a chance on catching something that you may never get rid of !!!!!!!
I’d take a picture(s) with my camera phone and tell her that she can keep him.
File for divorce that day. Since I have pictures, I get everything. She can have his broke a55.
I wouldn’t lash out on either. She’s a fool. He shows he doesn’t care by infidelity. Why should I waste my energy?
Move on.
I would go ballistic on both of them if it’s physically possible. But my spouse will feel my fury the most! Instictively, I wouldn’t probably care if the other person knows I exist or not but I think I’d probably lash out to both of them.
First of all Id make sure i had on my sneakers and no jewelry, and my hair was out of my face (pulled back with a tight rubber band) and my sweatpants because i dont want anything tight on, then id take my bat in the room and beat him f*cking a**! Then id get in her face to see if I knew her (Id better not know her and she best not be a friend) if she is she gonna get it worse!
I would kill myself because I must be a fat sloppy ass for my husband to cheat
id have to hurt both of em…him for obvious reasons and her so next time she might think before fucking a random guy at a hotel/motel that she knows could very well be married and out of town working or just plain up to no good.