PLEASE HELP! SIGNS OF A CHEATING HUSBAND!?
Please help me! I have been married for over 5 years to a man I recently don’t know anymore. Yesterday, I was at his office and the phone rang. He picked up, and I could clearly hear a young female voice. She asked him if he could talk. He quickly said no. Then she asked if he still has her number. He said yes but had to go and hung up. Naturally, I confronted him who the mystery woman was. He told me that it was just a girl from his old bank. He wouldn’t give a name until 20 minutes later. He told me she was ugly and not to worry about it. A day later he tries to giver another excuse about her.
Lately, he has been funny with money. Snaps on me about anything.
If I cry during an argument, he doesn’t dry my tears. He has been working later than usual and also does sudden "errands".
May I also add, when I did confront him whether or not he has been having an affair. He said, "I am not currently having an affair."
I am a very young wife with two babies. I am afraid. Please help.
Btw . . . he use to work for a bank but now he runs his own financial firm. So I don’t see how he could be stressing over his job anymore. Esp., when he claims he is making good money.
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When a man is having an affair it is as if you hardly know them anymore because they don’t value you anymore or care about your feelings. and there is nothing at all you can do except go to an attorney and find out what your rights are, bottom line is this woman should not be calling your husband nor should he be encouraging it either. a man can love an ugly woman just the same as he can a beautiful one. If i were you i would hire a sitter and go meet him when he gets off work or have someone follow him and i bet it would lead you right to her house. I would also make sure i took out some money from the bank account because he could empty it and leave you in a mess. sounds as if he is having an affair, because a man will snap at his wife when he is seeing someone else, i assume because they no longer want to be with the wife.
You need to talk to a divorce lawyer and find out your rights. Everything you mentioned points to cheating. Don’t tell him you talked to a lawyer either. My guess is he is selfish and doesn’t like the idea of having the responsibility two babies. He wants to play and you are busy with the babies so he has found someone else. Don’t ask him again. Get his cell phone and check it.
Yeah, he’s cheating. He wasn’t "currently" when you asked, but that’s a strange comment to make.
Sulk a few days, pretend to buy his bull, then plant a gps and voice recording in his car. Do not show your hand until you’ve gathered your info, and do not reveal your sources. You may also want to look into an online support group. Good luck.
It does sound like he is hiding something. Since you have two babies, it would be impossible for you to "tail’" (i.e. follow) your husband.
You might have to hire a private investigator to follow him & determine if he’s cheating on you.
I have to say that does sound fishy. Um, about what to do to find out for sure, maybe one night have a friend pick you up and say you are staying with a friend for the night to think. Drive around the block and park somewhere by your house and see if he leaves or something then follow him!
Everything you said are all the earmarks of an affair. Sorry Hon, He is definitely cheating..
Confront him again. It’s obvious he’s keeping something from you. Just be prepared for the worst.
How in the HELL did you hear the conversation through his non-phone ear???
Yeah, I’m not "currently" having an affair, but keep pushing me and missing your Xanax doses and I’m going to consider it.
It’s kind of revealing to learn just how eager people are to condemn another person just based on the story told about him/her from a total stranger. I pray to God that none of you is on my jury, if they ever catch up to me, that is.
I would say he is cheating. Talk to a professional and if at all possible, don’t get to angry and try to work things out. If your just to sad and mad, just leave him.
Well, I would be very worried since he said "I am not CURRENTLY having an affair." Time to get some counseling if you want this to be saved. But you should be tested for all sexually transmitted diseases and so should he, before you have sex with him again. YOU heard the other woman on the phone. GO WITH YOUR GUT, IT’S USUALLY RIGHT. Get a lawyer and take him for all he’s worth. Get the other woman’s number off his cell phone and hire a private detective. Course, it could be he’s just stressed out with the sorry state of the economy and doesn’t wanna lose his job….MIght wanna get a job yourself so you are not penniless, even if it’s waitressing or something not paying so well, not a bad job but not well paying is all I meant by that. You gotta be prepared for the future. Stop stressing out and be more loving might be what he needs, who knows. Good luck.
dump his sorry @$$ and take him to the cleaners, that slut can have him
Maybe you are over-reacting, maybe not. What you have to decide is what do you want for the two of you. Do you want to work things out, and does he want to work things out. Just sit him down, and talk to him. Don’t get accusatory, don’t raise your voice, and try not to get emotional. Just tell him that you want to work towards making things better between the two of you. If he is cooperative, then reward him in a physical, pleasurable way.
well how many signs do you need? you can pretend that you don’t know if he’s cheating or not, but deep down..you know.
if you love him and wanna stay with him, give him and ultimatum… you and the kids or the bimbo. if he will choose you thatn try to make it work. if he choses her and does not want to talk about it…then your marriage is over. pack your bags and leave
good luck to you
You KNOW the story about the bank was NOT true. I never heard of anyone from a bank ask a question of that nature & nothing else was even said. I’m not one to "judge" w/o "cause", but from what you’ve stated, something just does NOT sound on the up & up. I caught my ex husband by following him, but w/two babies makes it a bit hard on being able to just pick up & go out the door at any given moment. I caught mine on a public phone calling "her". I also caught him using a g/f’s car that he was not familiar with. I’m sorry, honey, but the things he’s doing, does raise suspicion regardless of what he says. Don’t know IF you could "catch him" thru numbers on his cell phone. He no doubt would be smart enuf to delete things so they can’t be traced tho. Give him time tho, he’ll do something he can’t get out of & at some point in time you WILL "catch" him at his own little game. He also can be telling the truth in NOT "currently having an affair", but he’s doing something he doesn’t want you to find out about. You aren’t that dumb…try to hang in there the best you can, the truth WILL come about at some point in time…:)
Eva, I agree, these are the signs of a cheating husband… but I would suggest two things
1. confirm - hire a PD or use the services of friends to gain some ground (it may be a false alarm)
2. once confirmed - think whether you still want to give him a chance or not. if yes, a) think why he needed to cheat in the first place. remove the cause. after all you have the responsibility towards the kids who need both the parents (biological are always considered better). b) be stern in your reaction so that he never dares to repeat that again.
if no, then find your rights, plan your career and life ahead and say him goodbye in a way that he still shares the child care with you (if he is just a bad partner but a good father).
Best of luck.. you need all of it
It certainly sounds suspicious to me. You’ll not rest until you find out so hire a private detective to do the info gathering for you. You do have the name of the woman in question and you do know where she works. So have at it. One of those sudden errands will tell the tale.
When you find out the truth from the PI, change the locks and file for divorce. Child support and spousal support will make more appreciative of what he had back when he had a wife and family intact.