Would it be considered cheating if your boyfriend is talking to another girl on the internet?
Okay, well my boyfriend and I had been together for at least a year and a half at the time when i went through his email and found 8 months worth of him talking to a girl who went to my school…that I didn’t know existed. She turned out to be his friend’s girlfriend-of-the-time, and he said he didn’t tell me because he knew I wouldn’t like it. Wouldn’t that be a sign to stop if he knew it wasn’t right?
He talked to her about our relationship problems and they talked about spending time together without me or her boyfriend there. He told her how he would pummel anyone who was even the slightest bit rude to her, about how he felt like he had no one to talk to, etc.
When I found these emails (Which he let me onto his email with his password while he was there) he tried to get me off the computer so I couldn’t look at them while he was there.
It’s been almost a year since this incident, and I’m in a severe depression. I try to get him to tell me a story that makes sense so I can at least pretend that I’m happy but he won’t.
What do I do?
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Put yourself in his shoes. If you had been talking to a boy who went to your school via email, would you consider it cheating?
There’s nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex. There’s nothing wrong with spending time in person with a friend of the opposite sex either.
If anything more than talking happened, I might consider it cheating.
If talking is all that happened, I would say no.
I know its hard, but leave him if what he is saying doesnt make sense and you can’t peice it together. Thats not right for him to discuss your guys problems with her, if he had an issue then he should have talked to you. If he also feels he has no one to talk to, then thats just rude. He doesnt deserve you, tell him you are leaving, he’ll feel like an ass.
If he wont even be honest with you and tell you the story of what happened, like you said then get rid of him. He went behind you back and talked to this girl, and now he cant even be honest with you. I think you should just dump him, he hasnt done any good for you.
He doesn’t think it’s a big deal, and you do.
It’s not evil for a boyfriend to have girl friends. Usually it’s only a huge problem for you when you’re feeling insecure about the way things are otherwise in the relationship. Are you guys happy? Is he sneaky or secretive, or would you say you guys generally communicate well and spend a lot of time together?
It sucks that he was talking to her in a way he doesn’t with you, and behind your back. Would you say you were always there for him? If you feel like you were, consider this - sometimes people have an easier time confiding with someone over emails or messaging because it’s more anonymous.
Severe depression? Is that extreme? Is your life revolving around your boyfriend? Don’t let it.
Yesss its cheating. There are different forms of cheating, maybe it wasn’t sexual but it was definitaly emotional cheating. And the idea that he would be so disprespectful to mention you alls relationship issues and that he has no one to talk to is very much cheating. If he has issues they need to be kept between you two and at the very least one of his GUY friends. God made men and women to be attracted to each other and therefore you shouldnt be getting that close to someone of the opposite sex knowing that emotions can progress. Plus it was his freaking guy friend’s girlfriend! AKA they werent even old friends. If he didnt feel comfortable with you knowing about this 8 month chat, then he shouldn’t have done it in the first place. He needs to have more respect for the relationship.