My bf recently admitted to cheating on me once months ago. Do u think there r different levels of cheating?
When I say levels, I mean there are people that cheat all the time, there are people who carry on a long lasting affairs, there are people who cheat with several different people and than there are people who allegedy cheat once. Do you think there are different levels of cheating and forgiveness? In my case, my boyfriend cheated once 9 months with an old fling when he went back to FL for a wedding and randomly admitted it to me because he says he couldnt keep it in anymore. He is trying everything to get us past this, but do you think all cheaters are the same?
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what makes you think he won’t do it again. He did it once now whats stopping him from cheating again I would dump his cheating *** now or never.
Cheating is cheating, no matter how many times or what the circumstances are.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
i think he needs a second chance, but if he does it again, dump him
i don’t know about levels, but if his willing to admit it and trying to fix the relationship that shows you he truely wants to work it out
All cheaters are almost same because they dont care about the people they are dating. But people who feel the guilt and tell their gf are different i think because they really love you. but if they love you they wouldnt cheat. so not all cheaters are the same
I agree with Grow A Set, cheating is cheating.
Dump his ass and find someone who wants you and only you.
They’re all not the same. Maybe forgive and see if it happens again. It’s good that he felt guilty about it and maybe it won’t happen again. (If it does you know what to do.) You know, all relationship ends so fast because people are not willing to give a second chance. Relationships don’t always go smoothly like it does in movies and books, ya know?
its like domestic abuse, they ssay they will never do it again untill that one unfortunate day comes.
Okay I’m not going as far as to say that all cheaters are the same. Sometimes things will work out. Sometimes you can work it out. But others are impossible to get behind you. but as for Cheating. Cheating is cheating and there’s nothing saying that he won’t cheat on you again. I’d say that he’d have to re earn some trust if it were me. But that’s just me.
He probably thinks so. His was one of opportunity. So, was he just gaging if he wanted to get back with her & decided not to. I think his is worse, cause he had had an emotional involvement with her. I could possibly forgive a drunken one-night-stand, but do you want to live with constant doubt.
Yeah I think there are different levels of cheating, someone who cheats for a long time are much different from those who only do it once, and some people cheat like at a party when they are drunk, as a one-off.
I think that he was good to tell you.
i say u give him one more chance….it was really good that he admitted it
No, I hate when people say "once a cheater, always a cheater".
I think that if he had the balls to tell you this than he is really sorry. if he didnt like you alot, he wouldnt have told you. you need to respect that and if forgive and forget. not all guys are the same. everyone makes mistakes.
in my opinion i think they are all the same because even though they say there sorry which they may be you should never under any circumstances cheat on anyone if you are that arrogant to do it once even though you feel bad you will probably do it again
once a cheater NOT always a cheater. he told you and wants to move forward… i say give it a chance try to forgive..if you cant, then you cant and dump him
once a cheater always a cheater… i don’t think there is such a thing as different levels of cheating there all the same they all put you trough pain
This is tricky, because if he cheated on you once, would he cheat again? Especially since he got away with it. You gotta be careful. It’s all about trust. If I were in your position, I would break up with my boyfriend because I have no tolerance for cheaters and the fact that he lied to me for months would really, really bother me. But that is just me and my opinion. You gotta do what you gotta do. I don’t know him or you.
Do a barrel roll.
Short answer: Yes, all cheaters are the same. He cheated on you because he could and it was easy not to get caught. He will eventually be in the same situation and do the same thing. It’s not impossible to get the genie back in the bottle, but almost. I hope everything works out for you.
their all the same…what difference does it make..?it doesnt matter how many times theyve done it it still happened and it can happen again their not to trust ask him how he would feel if u decided to go and cheat but do it only once because its ok since it wasnt going to happen again
It’s bull, he just wanted a quick faff about and thinks if he tells you because he ‘cant keep it in anymore’ (bless) that he’ll suddenly seem all honest and honorable. He’s a cheater, simple as. An opportunist one at that which is kinda worse really.
No. I think men are just that, MEN! Sometimes they can’t help it when their "little head" start to do the thinking. But if you believe that he only did it once and that he is completely tearing himself up with guilt, and he says that he was sorry so many times you feel like you are going to explode. I think you should forgive him. Not right away, he has to prove himself, earn your trust back. I think this guy really cares about you, and if you care about him that much as well, I don’t think you should let this one go. If worse comes to worse though you can always take a break and be friends for awhile.
Try it out but dont stoop down to his level by getting even.
Its way easier for a girl to get over a man cheating then it is for a man to get over a girl being a wh****
so be a queen show him that your not gonna let that get you down
guys when forgiving are like lil dogs that feel guilty and wont do it again
thats why he told you…he wants to be a real man not a dog
unless hes just some selfish horny person
which in that case break up with him or break hist heart the same exact way
because even if hes a player ….men hate to know their pu**y was being destroyed by another man lol thats the 100% truth
ONCE A DOG, ALWAYS A DOG.
No not all cheaters are the same, there are different levels of cheaters.
He seems like he is sincere and has a conscience and wants it to not happen again. It sounds like he wants to regain your trust. Work with him. Although if he does it again walk away.
I wish my ex boyfriend cared this much about me.
Well, He did cheat. If you guys are in Love tho, You can get though it. He did also keep it from you for a really long time. No. i do not believe all cheaters are the same. I don’t think he deserves your full trust though.
it defiantly brings up a trust question. but no, i think that some people do end up cheating and regretting it ALOT afterwords. but then i’m jaded as hell, i have ended alot of relationships simply because people i have dated didn’t like how close i was to some friends.
If you dump one cheat you meet another cheat, So whats the difference. Keep moving, life is a cheat itself.
Not all cheaters are the same. And there are often guys that will cheat only once. There are also many guys out there that don’t cheat at all. But if your boyfriend admitted that he cheated on you that must mean that he really loves you and he is truly sorry that he cheated. Your boyfriend made a mistake. And he only realized after going out with his old fling that it was a mistake. If your boyfriend didn’t love you then he wouldn’t be with you today. And because of his love for you it was tearing him apart that he had done this and that is why he couldn’t keep it in anymore. If your boyfriend was not in love with you then it wouldn’t bother him that he cheated on you and he wouldn’t have told you. But this was not the case.
Your boyfriend made a mistake. Now it’s up to you to forgive him. If you can’t forgive him then you may as well break up with him because if you can’t forgive then you won’t be able to forget. And if you decide to stay with him then that means you forgive and forget and you end it there. So that needs to be clear to you that if you forgive him then no more talks about his cheating. Just because your boyfriend made a huge mistake that doesn’t mean that he has to pay for the rest of his life because he made a mistake. We all make mistakes and us all want to be forgiven. It’s really up to you want you want to with this now that you know that he cheated on you. But if you love this guy then you would be a fool to leave him because you know that he also loves you. Your relationship is not doomed just because he cheated on you once.
Well I feel your pain its happend to me you have to remember not all guys are the same but he did have the guts to tell you even thow it was months later you have to remember that’s a lot of time for him to think no no time is a good time to receive news like that but he proble thought out the consiqenses. And you no in the bible it says turn the other cheek not saying even to let it happen agin but just a fair warning to him like I told my gf, it happens agin you are gone nthing more to say even thow I was hurt and couldn’t get the vision of my best friend out of my head I forgave because id rather her tell me than me have to come home and find out the hard way then id be hopeless because I really love her and it does take a lot to tell someone that. But you can’t ever get the thoughts out so if you can handle that and give him the time aday than a second chance won’t kill you.