If you STRONGLY suspect your mate of “cheating”, does it justify snooping?
If you think your GF or BF is not being true (sexting or worse), does it cancel out the fact that you snooped to get the information? Do the rules change if it’s your spouse?
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If you strongly feel he’s cheating, dont even bother……HE IS.
Here’s a short, sweet and to the point reply
YES!!!!!!!!
You have a right to the truth.
YES it’s justified.
You gotta do what you gotta do. Just don’t get busted unless you come up with the goods.
If you are married, there is NO SUCH thing as snooping.
On the day we were married, Mine and Yours became OURS…..how can I be "snooping" in MY own stuff?
All bets are off if you are up to no good.
I ALWAYS trusted my first husband….than one day, I got a "feeling"….guess what? He was cheating on me……I NEVER until that day went through ANYTHING in a "sneaky" way…..cheaters aren’t going to come out and tell you, you HAVE to almost always BUST them. Oh, and my ex told me I was "crazy" when I confronted him at first…they ALWAYS say that! LOL!
Yeah, it justifies it.
well, this reminds me of Civics class,
" The victim must be suspected of suspicious activity in order to be able to search them"
i say go for it, search him.. just don’t get caught
Yes, it does cancel out the fact of snooping, because someone can snoop and not find anything. There just should not have been anything to find. It makes the situation worse if it’s your spouse. GF, BF, or spouse, snooping still all the same. You need to know.
OUR GUT FEELINGS ARE ALWAYS TRUE FOR WE WOMEN…SNOOP ALL U WANT. HE IS CHEATING!
Yeah, I’d check his or her stuff to see if my suspicions are right then confront him or her. Do not accuse without any proof tho. Yes the rules def change when you are married. That is your husband or wife and you have more of a right to know.
If he is your boy friend he not your spouse. Spouse is for when you are married. If you are living together as man and wife, you have the right to find out what he is trying to hide from you. But, if you have a strong feeling he is cheating on you chances are your right. Evidently, you have seen enough red flags to give you that feeling.
It certainly doesn’t.
Getting the information you need to verify your doubts is not considered snooping. It is taking the blinders off and it is called self preservation.
You have the right to know the truth about your mate.
IF I even suspected my b/f or g/f were cheating on me, by ALL MEANS I would do ANYTHING in order to find out. If you love someone, are suppose to be true to one another, all rules are the same in cheating. The only difference would be that IF you did find out he was cheating & you were married, that would constitute if you want to go thu a divorce or not. Otherwise, you would just consider breaking off w/that person. So yes, there is a difference in a marriage or a b/f g/f situation. It’s a heck of a lot easier to "break off" then to decide if you want to break up a marriage or not…Best to you…:)
If you strongly suspect that your mate is cheating and that there are signs of it, or if your mate has given you any (GOOD) reason to suspect that they are cheating then they most likely are. Yes, you do have the right to gather information at that point. Just be careful about doing it. Because if they are not and you get caught snooping that will hurt them and show them that you do not trust them, and that would basically end your relationship.
I guess, but most of the postings here about "suspected" cheating are based on things like - I found a hair that wasn’t mine in the laundry or my husband works with a married female coworker and they go to lunch together sometimes…stuff that just doesn’t scream of shady cheating to me…
Snooping is justifiable for sure. I believe wholeheartedly that a person should be able to see alll the cards on the table and be able to make an informed decision whether to stay in the relationship, or leave and find one they are more comfortable with. I advise you to trust your intuition!
He snooped and thought I was cheating and was wrong!
But yeah in some cases it takes some snooping, because some people will lie till theyre blue in the face. Thats why private investigators earn so much.
yeah he’s a cheat.snoop away
yes
Snooping is when you want to find out something the other person doesn’t want you to see including your spouse. YES, THAT IS SNOOPING…HE WOULD HAVE USED THE SAME ACCOUNT IF HE WANTS YOU TO SEE IT.
I went through the same thing with my ex husband. We dated for about 7 months, then he started going out more and hiding his phone…. Well curiousity got the best of me and I started snooping…. Come to find out I was the mistress. He had been dating a girl before me for almost a year. I don’t care what the reason, a woman’s intuition is almost always right. If they have nothing to hide then they have nothing to hide.
I caught my girl friend chatting to other guys on a dating website and she says that I am a stalker!