Should I tell my best friend (who is also my roommate) that her husband is cheating on her?
I have lived with my best friend of 15 years for 3 months now and have discovered that her husband is cheating on her.
Here’s the "evidence"…
1. I hear him talking to another girl all the time on his cell phone. It is ONLY when my friend isn’t home, and he ALWAYS goes outside or to another room when this girl is on the phone, unless I have my headphones in and he thinks I can’t hear his conversation (which has happened quite a few times). He is always concerned with where his phone is and gets a lot of texts that he seems to be really secretive about.
2. Today I heard him on the phone with this girl saying that he liked her a lot and heard him making plans to drop off his daughter with a friend and meet her at a coffee shop.
3. My friend works on the weekends and doesn’t get home until late at night, so he has asked me several times to watch his daughter while he goes out (which, by the way, he never says where it is that he is going). Whenever he asks me to babysit, it has always been right after he has talked to this other girl. He leaves the house freshly showered, dressed nicer than usual, and wearing cologne.
I know that he and my friend don’t have the best relationship, I live with them and hear their arguments with each other. I think she may have some suspicions that he might be doing something he shouldn’t, but I’m not really sure.
She did find him in bed with another girl a few years ago when they had briefly seperated, and he has even hit on me a few times, which has made me really uncomfortable. There is no doubt in my mind that he would want to do something with me if I let him.
I really feel like she needs to know what is going on, and I feel awful that I haven’t said anything to her yet. I know that she will be extremely hurt, and will not put up with him cheating on her. At the same time, I live with them (and wil be for the next month and a half), and I know things are going to be extremely bad around here (and very akward between her husband and I) if I tell her. But honestly, if the roles were reversed and I was in her situation I would definitely want her to tell me. If she knew and didnt tell me, i wouldnt believe she was a true friend.
What should I do?
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You answered your own question by saying that if it was you, you would want to know.
If she is such a good friend you probably owe it to her. Maybe you can simply tell her that you suspect what is going on and add the fact that he has hit on you.
Like you said, put yourself in her place.
Good luck. ….