Is my girlfriend cheating on me? help needed asap?
We have been together about 5 months and now get along really well but it has been rocky and i don’t know if she has cheated with her ex at some point and really want to find out the truth.
She is still friends with her ex, of a 2 year relationship and i met her about a month and a half after they split and she says that they would never get back together, because he is lazy and drives her mad, but whenever he comes round she is all over him, kissing him on the cheek, hugging him which is when im there so I hate it so much and can’t stand to be in the room sometimes but then i think if she does that while im in the same room what she does when im not there.
We have nearly broken up twice, before christmas and in the new year, each time her ex had been round hers a few nights before and slept over so obviously I think something has happened to make her want to split but i really don’t want to be right and keep quiet but it is always in the back of my head.
I also notice small things like underwear on the floor that wasn’t there before after he has been round.
She has said that she is still in love with him because the were together for 2 years and you don’t just stop loving someone (don’t know as a good friend or something more), and says that she won’t stop seeing him just because of me, and says that they have been through so much together and i sort of feel like I’m competing for her and losing because she seems to be all over him when i am around and sort of feel like (i hate to say it but) a third-wheel.
Also I found out she slept round his and lied to me and said she stayed round someone else, I got a friend to text her that I knew and we broke up for like a day and he told me that she did it because she thought I’d would be jealous and got back together that night, i was just glad she finally told me the truth.
She put a password on her phone but it was only a simple one and only took a few times looking at her typing it in to get it, found out that her ex-boyfriend is really jealous and misses her which makes me feel like something will happen if she lets him sleep round hers because i know that he still loves her even if she doesn’t want it to happen if that makes any sense to anyone :/
He came round the other day and asked her if he stayed over, she said no then said "oh wait no he did".
And found the toy that i bought for her birthday (from Ann Summers) on her desk, asked her if she had used it and she said no then asked a bit more and finally said she had. So felt a bit paranoid here because i know he was round a few nights before.
Then I did the only thing I could really and checked her computer history and found that he was on the computer minutes before someone was watching porn on the computer for 30 minutes+ and soon after she was looking and her stuff because I know the difference between the websites they both look at.
sorry if this doesn’t make any sense.
She still seemed the same, affectionate and normal but I really don’t know what to do.
Guess I’m waiting to catch them in the act or something just really need the hard evidence to give up someone I care so much about.
Any advice will be taken and thanks in advance 
x
Ok that is all i can think of at the moment but i really need to know if I should trust her and all this is in my head or that she is cheating and I should break it off.
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WOWWW!! Dudee!! I’m sry but it’s soo obvious that’s she’s cheating on you right in front of your face!!!!!! Get rid of her!! You deserve soooo much better !!!
Hope this helps!! : )
She is a piece alright. She is using you to get back at this guy and make him jealous. Wise up.
she is DEFINITELY cheating on you. Not even a question.
You’re fooling yourself and she is laughing at you.
And you now have hepatitis.
break up with her.
You derserve a better girl and you’ll find 1.
firstly… you shouldn’t allow her to disrespect you by kissing him RIGHT INFRONT OF YOU! come on! i dunno if she’s cheating but it sure seems like it.. but even if she’s not… you need to lose her anyways because she’s not worth it.
she’s deffinately cheating on you. she still loves him. she can’t be fully comitted to you and love him at the same time. she’s leaning towards him, but doesn’t want you to know it.
she’s kissing her ex in front of you.. that’s just too much. she shouldn’t be kissing him at all in the first place! only you. and if you feel like the third wheel, that shouldn’t be happening. HE should feel like the third wheel.
break up with her, and see what happens. she’ll probably go back to him.
You don’t trust her and by the sounds of things you shouldn’t, She is playing games with you trying to make you jealous ect and a good relationship wouldn’t have you doubting her. Break it off and find someone with less issues that likes you for you and not as a rebound
Wow….. How many more hints do you need? Seriously?? Even if she is not cheating on you she is making you look like a fool. If you are waiting to catch them I am pretty sure that you are wasting your time. Why do you want to be with someone anyway that you have to question ALL OF THE TIME????
She is not over her ex. She even admitted it herself. She needs time alone to get over him, sounds like you’re just being used for a rebound.
I think you should break it off, if she really cares for you, would she still be hanging around her ex like that? I mean I can see being friends, but him staying over? I think you can do better to find somebody who really cares for you like you do about them.
you’ll know when you walk in on her shining some other guys knob
It’s no really not my authority to accuse of girl of cheating. But you have caught her in several lies. If I were you, I would move on. You deserve to have a girl that can be straight up with you. You shouldn’t have to question yall’s relationship like this.
dump her cuz something is right i bet if u dump her she will be right back with but she is usuing b/c u do thing he wont so she has the best of both worlds
ok..i hate to be the breaker of bad news but this whole situation doesnt sound good. one of my best friends was cheating on her boyfriend and she told me i had to swear not to say anything and she was doing the same things your girlfriend is doing. she started locking her phone and computer cuz she was talking to this guy other than her boyfriend. and she always got really offended and upset whenever her boyfriend would question if she was being loyal and she swore up and down that she was being loyal, when that didnt end up being that case. that way your girlfriend is being sneaky and wont stop talking to her ex is most definitely a sign that something is going on. i think you need to break things off. you deserve a girl who isnt going to be focused on another guy other than you. hope it works out :/
Your girlfriend seems like shes toying around with you…you need to realize whats really going on and sit her down and talk to her. Shes low down dirty scum :O I say drop her like a bomb… but first, revenge >: ]
Sounds pretty suspicious…you wouldn’t know for sure but I guess you should really be more alert. 5 months isn’t much for u to trust too much. I don’t think…esp. with her bf still around. Remember she said she wouldn’t stop seeing u jsut bc of u so make sure u understand that…..as in like where u stand in the relationship. Srry if Im not much help but I think trusting is gotta be earned and from what I read, u shouldnt give it all…
IN my opinion. their is something fishy going around there.
i think she still has feelings for her ex but at the same time she really cares for you. but she has more sentimental feeling for him.
I think you should tell her how you feel to notify her and try to see whats going on.
but as others said. she maybe just using you to make her X jealous and just sees you as a good friend.
but TALK to her!!!
if half of what you stated is true, then i strongly urge you to reconsider remaining in a relationship with this girl. there are too many incidents that have you questioning her. fact is … if you don’t trust her, then you don’t need to be with her. am i saying she isn’t giving you reason not to trust her, no (her actions are definitely questionable). personally, the moment she told me she was still in love with her ex, i would have told her "Bye" & ended it right then & there. & my own "gut feeling" would be that she was lying & cheating. it is far easier on you to end this relationship, that is obviously hurting you, then to remain in it & continually feel hurt & distrustful of the one you’re suppose to be with. whatever decision you make, you must remain strong & resolved.
best of luck to you.
option # 1 well if your that certain shes cheating on you tell her that you don’t really like her spending all that time with her ex and eventually expand your conversation and say baby i feel like im being played i want the truth option #2 you could just wait to find them in the act that would be the best and you can end it right there and then and you will be certain .. if i were you i would go with option 2 catch them in the act hope this helped good luck
A hard
fact of life is that if you suspect it they are cheating. Women leave hints
or clues because they sort of want to be caught. This may be the way for them to end the relationship without saying so. Dump her and go on with your own life. You don’t need another to be happy but it may help you get over her faster. Good luck bro
shes cheatin on you why would she kiss him(even if its just the cheek) around you
no one should do that i think you should break up with her and find someone better
i mean inless you still like your ex you dont tell your boyfriend/girlfriend that you still love
your ex
You need to understand one thing only…. shes cheating… there is no doubt about it…. tell her to sling her hook and get gone!!
Man you have to LEAVE her!! Just do it, it will hurt now but it will hurt 100 times more if you wait to catch her in the act. She’s basically playing you. You will try to convince yourself that she’s not because you don’t want the relationship to end, but take it from everyone here, she is probably cheating on you. Hell in my book you have watched her cheat on you…..no girl worth your time will be all over and kissing an ex right in front of you.
Take your dignity while you still have it and leave this terrible girlfriend. If you wait to catch them, you will feel like a huge fool.
Leave her.
*****Oh yea, and please update us on how it all turns out, I am really curious and hope you end it. I’m also worried for you because I know this is a terrible situation to be in!*****
what a bummer,you should not be letting him stay over, no no .she is telling you she is still in love with this guy and you are to be o k with that..i think not. i would move on before you get hurt any worse.i really wish you the best
i cosign what slippyfist said
including the hepatitis Lol
Get rid of her, it might be hard at first than you realize EFF Dat TRAMP
From what I see, this girl or woman is very confused and I could easily tell that she is using you!! Like she said, she still loves her ex and her ex also loves her! It’s like this situation is only depressing you and it’s not bringing you anything good, it’s bad for you and them! The best thing you can do for yourself and them is to break up, because I don’t see that you have a part in this play, there’s no space for you, your just bothering them! You need to break up as soon as you can, and let her make her own mistakes, let her go back with her ex or whatever she wants. But, I don’t see that she loves you as much as you love her. And love is between TWO people and not! Just as confused you are with this situation, so is she! She is insecure and she doesn’t know what she wants because she is doing is playing around and lying to everyone around her! And like you said, your just a third person, you ain’t nobody in her, she DOESN’T LOVE you as much as you love her, she cheated on you, she lied to you and your still going out with her? Come on, OPEN YOUR EYES and realize that she ain’t no good to you and that you deserve someone way much better and honest and truthfulness than her. Your too good for fer and I see that she doesn’t value you as much as you do to her and that’s not fair. So PLEASE break up with her as soon as possible and look for someone who is more honest, and truthfulness than her!! I hope this helps you out, good luck my friend!! (=(=