Does love really blind you from the obvious or the truth?
I’ve read numerous questions regarding suspected cheating from both men and women. From what they tell us it’s very obvious as to what is happening. Is love really blind? Does it blind you from the truth? I’ve been in love and I am currently in love but if any of these things happened to me, I would not have to ask anyone if I felt my "loved one" was cheating on me. Would you know if your spouse was cheating on you without having to ask anyone?
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yes if u love someone, and if they never once cheated on u, than yes your really not going to recognize it, unless the signs are right up front to see. we put our spouses on pedestals, love them unconditionally, and sometimes fail to see the truth. especially if our life is full and busy, with kids, being a homemaker, caring for our elderly sick parents, we just don’t see it, doesn’t mean we are stupid, just means we haven’t had any experience with that particular thing, and unless we have, we certainly won’t be able to see it, cause cheating is usually done in secret, our spouses sometimes don’t display the signes right away, and unless u have experienced it before, u just aren’t going to recognize it, sometimes people have to ask others because we are so close to the person, and in denial that we are often unwilling to believe the person we trust and love would be capable of such an act.
I would know if my husband was cheating on me. I wouldn’t have to ask on here.
I think if you love someone you don’t want to believe they are doing the dirty on you,in your heart of hearts you know it,but cant accept it,because it would hurt too much,i don’t think you can ever say until you are in that situation how you would react
Sure, if you found out yourself
Or she told you…
I think there are a lof of ways to "know" that your spouse is cheating without asking anyone. I think that there are certain behaviors that are indicitive of cheating.
If a spouse suddenly switches their routine or they start coming home later or have repeated "business meetings" on a particular night of the week.
There are also practical ways of learning. If you think your spouse is cheating you can buy a keylogger online that will monitor every keystroke that is entered on to the computer. Unless your spouse is a computer savvy indiviual they will likely not know it’s there.
But to answer your original question I think that love does tend to "blind" us. I think when we’re in love we tend to overlook things that we shouldn’t such as a late night business meeting once a week.
yes love does blind you from the truth it did me any way. Most of the time u can tell but sometimes u have to go to another source.
When it comes to sex with one great love in bed…what do you think blinds you????
usually if you the one being cheating on you the last one to know is just how it is if you love someone you don’t want to get hurt so you twist the truth and choose to live on denial is just love****
Most already know…they just dont want to belive it and it’s not really love that blinds them…its stupidity!! I am not name calling because I have been stupid many of times myself …I was stupidly hiding behind my love for loser(s) You must realize self worth and not repeatedly let someone play you for a fool. Being this kind of stupid in this day and age can KILL you.
yes love is blind and ur more forgiving.If you dont trust now its all over..Trust goes hand in hand..May signs of cheating….not available,alays out,chatting,neer clothes especially underare..secrets,meetings,,,money spent,,cant look you in the eye…you feel it your usually right
Believe me to God love is indeed blind.When you are with someone that you truly loves world unending i tell you that you never seem to see all the bad things thats happening or all the wrong that the person is doing knowing that you deserve better.
You normally come to terms with the fact that this is bad after you have decided that you have had enough and it’s time to take a stand.
You may know but you tell yourself that they are going to change.
When you are in it you don’t see it, normally it’s people that is on the outside looking in that notices all the flaws.
Sometimes you know that something is not right but you tell yourself it’s going to get better, worst if you’re the type of person that fears change and don’t want to leave what you know to find something worst.(jump out a frying pan jump in a fire kinda situation).(it’s sticking to the evil you know).
You know but you hope the person will stop because you don’t want to leave because you love the person so much.
Most people who have suspicions about their spouse cheating already know the answers deep down. The just don’t want to believe it .
When you love someone there is a certain amount of denial that is built into the facing the fact that they would betray in such a way. Cheating as very hard & painful ot go through. A lot people rather deny it then face truth and the end of their relationship as they know it. Love is not blind. People choose to turn a blind eye to certain situations becuase they don’t want to lose that feeling , that dream of love.
umm denial, u can always fall in luv again. call cheaters n find out
Natalie …I have to agree with you….I knew when my ex spouse was cheating on me from the start….and even though you know what is happening at the time…. things get fuzzy because imagination can be a horrible thing when an affair is happening in your marriage. Until you are thrown into that situation of betrayal and deceit…no one in this forum can say what they would do until that time (hopefully never) arrives.
I think you can notice when your spouse is cheating on you. You can see a difference in that person’s attitude and the way they react to certain questions.
I don’t know. I actually think I probably would have ignored the subtle signs simply because it wouldn’t even cross my mind to suspect. The obvious signs such as not coming home for the night without an explanation, lipstick on the collar, and his clothes smelling of perfume would be impossible to ignore - but the signs are seldom THIS obvious.
I think love "blinds" you in a sense that it helps you emphacise the good qualities you see in the other person, while softening out the bad. Sometimes, it works in our favor - sometimes, it turns against us.
Yes love does blind you. Of course it all depends upon how guilty that spouse feels as to what they show. The real problem is when we love someone, and believe they love us, we find it very hard to believe they would betray us so we don’t even look. At least until they throw it in our face.
You are in love and believe you are loved and most men have been taught that if their is cheating going on it is usually the guy. Not true today.
I was married for 37 years and found out in the latter years that my wife had seven affairs early in our marriage. I would never have never thought it possible of her. Never. We married in our early 20’s and she had never dated in high school. During her 20’s and early 30’s she made up for lost time.
So Love is as blind as you let it be. If your not with someone 24/7 you have no idea what they are doing. And they can be the perfect wife and mother in every other way.
I am married again and feel sure that will not happen again…but.
Well they do say that love is blind.But from my point of view and friends that I have talked to on the subject,you are the first to know that something is just not right.All the signs are there,if he happens to talk in his sleep he’ll say her name,he begins to spend more time on errands,he pays more attention to his grooming and purchasing nice clothes.He picks up new catch- phrases that you had never heard him say before.I can go on but I’m not the list is too long.You just know way deep down inside,and most of the time everybody else knows too but they don’t want to get involved in your business.
Love does not blind you from the obvious neither it blinds you from the truth. In most cases, accepting the obvious and the truth its not easy. In the end. the victim will put the blame on themselves. Easy way out. For somone who had loved you once cheated on you, the brain won’t accept it, even if its obvious. They will try to reason their way out. If they could not get any reason, they will ask "what I have to gain and what I have to lose" if they intend to continue or discontinue the relationship. Either way the victim lose! Asking question sometimes does not mean you will get the answer, especially in cases of being unfaithful. No cheating spouse would admit they cheat unless they are caught red handed. Still, they might not admit it. They will try to get out of it. Even asking the person who knows about it does mean they will tell you the truth. Seldom anyone wants to be the grave digger!
Our intuitions usually lets us know and a red flag sticks up. When we’re in love we want to believe and we endure more than we normally do, so we protect ourselves by putting up a wall to deny the obvious when it presents itself. When the obvious is confirmed, then we need to face the truth and deal with it.
Love doesn’t blind us, I think we know what’s happening. it just keeps us from wanting to blow the cover off the lies. We don’t want the embarrassment, humiliation, or the reality that the other person has completely screwed us!! Our love for the other person causes us to make excuses for them, to remain in denial and try to avoid the inevitable breakdown of the relationship we would want to salvage and keep viable. We don’t really want the relationship to end…. but obviously the other person doesn’t care anymore. It’s really sad. I think that the love that is necessary to bring 2 people together is also responsible sometimes for keeping those same 2 people together (inappropriately) when one of them is clearly not showing love back. We know the truth…sometimes it’s just too hard to accept, so we avoid confronting the obvious.