My girlfriend cheated on me while intoxicated, Is it still cheating?
I been dating this girl for 1 year and a couple of months. She went to a party where she had a lil bit too much to drink and started to flirt with one of my friends and kissed another guy. The next day she didnt remember what had happened the night when all of that happened. Should this still be considered cheating? She cried and begged me not to leave her because of the fact that she was under the influence while she cheated on me. She cried a river and asked me to forgive her. Should I forgive her?
Thanks guys
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if she is truley sorry and she truley does not remember what had happened than i would say forgive her but just keep a close eye on her when inoxicated :/
Goodluck
Even if she had drinks, she still cheated or kissed another man.
If I were in that situation, I wouldn’t accept it.
yes forgive her it was a one time thing when she wasn’t in her normal mind set
its really up to you if you forgive her but the point of the matter is, it doesnt matter how drunk she was, its still cheating..
sometimes the truth comes out when you drink hey?
its your choice if you trust her enough to forgive her?
Its up to you and only you what can you live with and yes it still is cheating !
I wouldn’t forgive her, she cheated on you.
YES IT IS CHEATING AND…
DO NOT FORGIVE HER EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you forgive her, then it makes it okay.
Yes it is still cheating. Saying "oh it’s just because i was drunk" is the lamest excuse and i’ve heard it so many times. I don’t feel like anyone should be excused from the things they’ve done when they were drunk…that just means they obviously aren’t mature enough to know when to stop drinking. Should you forgive her? If you honestly believe it will never happen again and you want to be with her…sure. However, don’t let her sit there and blame it on being drunk. The only reason she was drunk was because she drunk enough alcohol to get herself that way…THAT makes whatever she does her responsibility.
Yes, that’s still considered cheating. Whether or not you forgive her should depend on your relationship. Do you think she’s sincere? Do you think it will happen again? Do you really like her? Do you trust her?
All of those questions should come into factor.
It’s your decision, bud.
cheating is cheating
Dear Steve…. Give her a chance and see. Nothing wrong in forgiving her. But if she does it again then you have to think about continuing with her.
It might had happen under the influence of liqueur, so forgive her and try to forget what had happened on past.
Keep smiling…… don’t ask suggestions from many they will confuse you.
Ask her if you can get drunk and kiss another girl. See what she says, and if it’ll be ok. If she says ok, then go do it, and forgive her.
Give her a second chance. She WAS drunk. But hey, if it happens again, let her go. And just to let you know, IF she does it again, dont think twice about letting her go. She needs to know that getting drunk isnt an excuse for kissing another guy.
When I was 16 I got way to drunk and kissed another guy that wasn’t my boyfriend. I do not feel like I cheated on him, because I was young and stupid and really didn’t know my limits. I didn’t even like the guy I felt pressured into it. I know being drunk isn’t an excuse, but I felt guilty about it forever. If your girlfriend feels like how I did after (terrible), I say give her another chance. If she does something like this again (which I have NOT done anything like that since, and me and my boyfriend have been together for over 4 years) then break up with her.
I’ve been in her place, and I didn’t cheat. I’ve seen other girls in her place, and they didn’t cheat. If it was because of the alcohol, then every drunk girl would cheat. But, the truth is, you have to be the type of person that cheats for that to even be an option. Alcohol makes every emotion stronger, so if you’re sad, you’ll be devastated. If you’re happy, you’ll be overjoyed. Alcohol doesn’t create feelings that aren’t there. It is absolutely cheating, and she knows it. Of course she feels bad, the feelings she didn’t want to come out did.
Well, it is cheating, but why not forgive her? Just, ask her to apologize!
Maybe she should drink less the next time.
I think you should tell her it was her first, last and only chance. Of course it is still cheating but she had no idea what she was doing at the time. If she is looking for forgiveness it means she still wants you. Give her another chance becuase now she knows what can happen when shes drunk. However tell her if it happens again you will break up with her adn not forgive her. Its not exactly fair to you, who sounds more sensible.
I’m going to tell you straight up, ‘I’ wouldn’t buy into it. I don’t know where this world gives the notion that if you were intoxicated while cheating, it’s not cheating and it’s ok or doesn’t count. Cheating is cheating and drinking is drinking.
You have two issues to address here. First, if you want to give her a second chance. Second, her drinking.
Now your first ties into the second because if she’s not mature enough to handle her own drinking limits, who’s to say what else she’ll do on the fly while you’re not there. Honestly, nobody here can answer for you if you should stay with her or leave. In fact, that’s not the question you asked so please disregard our opinions if you want. It’ll be your own decision in the end based on your love for her. My opinion: Ask for space, at least 2 weeks just to see how she reacts. Does she say f* you and start clubbing or does she start to loose weight? hehe. I know sounds stupid, but that’s just what I’d do. At this point, trust will have to be something built on and it will be up to her to pass the tests or to prove you without a doubt she is trust worthy again. But this she lost when she did that so if she stay’s she’ll have to start from ground zero.
But remember, there is NO grey area. Very very simple.. Drinking is drinking, cheating is cheating (.) Communication is key so if you’re willing to work it out, be sure to eventually talk to her about all your concerns and give her the opportunity to do the same.
Best wishes to the both of you. If it was meant to be it’ll work out, if not, than it is what it is. Peace.
tell her your not okay with it but still forgive her she seems like shes sorry.
forgive but dont forget
Well if its the first time she has blacked out from drinking, Id say give her a free pass… i have done it, and would never have been attracted to the guy if I hadn’t been blacked out drunk, and didn’t remember a thing, so I know where she is coming from but if she blacks out alot, but continues to drink, I would leave her before you get your heart broken anymore, cause these things tend to happen a lot to alcoholics!
Drop her Bro, there boundaries, she should have known that whether drunk or whatever.
If you keep her, she’ll get an excuse to always f**k around, can bet on that.
I know you love or really like her, but you’ll never trust her.
That’s not the kind of a relationship you wana be in.