i forgave my husband from cheating but how do I forget?
my husband cheated on me and had a little girl. I forgave him and still with him, but I’m having a hard time move on with my life I can’t forget what happened and don’t know what to do. I have a shield around my heart and am afraid of being hurt again. any advice?
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I am going through the same thing with my husband currently and it has been sooo hard. I have been taking it one day at a time. I have warned my husband that 1 chance is all he gets any future slip ups, accidents, whatever and i’m gone. Rebuilding the trust will be hard and your husband has to want to make it work. He should be doing all he can to be accountable for his actions, checking in with you, always telling you where he is, no contact with the other woman unless its related to child support for the kid he made ect.. It will be hard but marital counseling has really helped my husband and i, it helps me validate my feeling and i leave every session feeling better about myself and it helps my husband too. I highly reccommend counseling if you can do it.
You can’t forget. That’s just there. Anyway, if you forgave him, the other part shouldn’t be too difficult to do.
you are a bigger person than I. I never would forgive him ever.
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sleep with someone else.
Your feelings are normal, as you must protect yourself. It always takes time to fully trust again. If you are in love, and care about each other, healing will eventually occur.
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the memory will always be there. but if you truly forgive him the memory should fade away.
The little girl will always be there, so I don’t think you’re gonna forget. You need to learn to live with it.
You sound like you have not forgiven him yet but you are willing to and that is the first step. You obviously want to try and make it work and if he is willing, you can get there. He has alot of ground to make up to regain your trust but it can be done. Just remember, if you feel like you can’t trust him again, end it. It will only make you both unhappy.
Good luck mate, stay strong!
You won’t but it is kind of like grief..it can get easier to bear with time, but that is only if he does not cheat again. HE is the one that has to do some work to gain your trust again. If he is not willing to do that, then maybe he is just not worthy of your love. Get couples counseling.
my dad had the same problem, he cheated on his girlfriend when he got really drunk, and now i have a half sister…luckily she forgave him and now they are happier than ever…just let time go by, its going to take a long time for "forget" it (u will probably never completely forget about it)
Sorry, but that’s something you’ll never forget…
I dont believe there is any forgetting.
You may have difficulty forgetting. Time will make it easier, but it will always be in the back of your mind. Once the trust is broken, it’s very difficult to recapture it again. You may need to decide whether or not it’s worth it.
The old expression "forgive and forget" is total B.S. You don’t forget. And what do you mean that you forgave him? Forgiveness is not something you do to alleviate the guilt of another person, and I have a feeling that’s what forgiveness means to you. Forgiveness is something you do for YOURSELF so the situation doesn’t continue to be toxic in your life. This situation is still poisoning you (you are having a hard time moving on with your life, you have a "shield" around your heart, you are fearful of being hurt again, etc.). Let’s be totally candid and honest here. His affair and the fact that he fathered a child with the other woman has destroyed something in you that will probably never come back. Why do you want to stay with someone who has damaged you, someone you obviously can’t trust anymore?
play on it use it that’s what you women do take back the guy but use it to control the relationship. If you can’t handle it then leave or make him leave.
U can never forget,the memories will always be there"memories from Africa"My wife cheated on me 5x with a married man and confessed to it 10years later after i got a small tip from her sister.She confessed to every detail.I stick in there for my kids and made it point blank to her that she is no more my wife and if she gives me sex it will be like a free sex from an unpaid prostitute.I am sleeping in the couch till my 3kids will grow and boot out.I hv forgiven her but can never forget.For my kids i will do all.i dont wanna see them selling drugs on the streets.Remmember the story of OBAMA?his mon did it as i am doing.I will continue sleeping in the couch till time is up.I am not legally divorced but i am not married as far as my wife and i are concerned.My KIDS comes firs and they r 3 little ones
You WILL never forget. But, time is the only thing that will help. Time will heal all wounds. My husband cheated on me too and that was like 5 years ago and I still can remember the incident like it was yesterday. But, we have 5 children together so I like you also forgave him. Time has made it easier to deal with the situation. And I don’t think about it as much. So my advice to you would be to just give it more time.
Hope this helps you,
You really won’t forget, there is a child. He has to earn your trust back, see you gave it blindly in the beginning. You have to give yourself time to truly heal. Voice your pain, calmly to a shrink, pastor, trusted friend or even him.
I’m wishing you the best.
you never forget,and with his daughter,you won’t…some can forgive,but if they still remember it’s hard…time eases..just like a death.
forgetting is going to take, much much longer than forgiving. the hard part is going to be not bringing it up when you get into an argument with him, it’s almost like that "secret weapon" that he has NO defense for. time will help you forget, but you need to constantly ask yourself, "have I really forgiven him?" if you’re tempted to use his cheating as a weapon, then you probably really have forgiven him.
You won’t forget. You will just remember the opportunities you had to cheat that you passed up because you were a bigger person than he was and now you don’t know if that chance would come again and if you would take it because you still are a bigger person than he is.
You won’t forget. Ever. This is something that has eroded your trust forever. It is something you will have burning in your mind forever. It is better to know for sure he has someon else forever than to think he is with you when he isn’t really. The only way, the only thing that can help you forget is him. He has to work for you to be able to erase that memory from your mind by doting on you 100 percent. I honestly doubt any man is capable of erasing that. However, there is one other thing that you can do that might bring you some solace.
Have a fling. Use protection. Why not try a sexy woman even? Now there is a thought that can comfort you in an hour of worry. I wish I did.