Do you think it is possible to have a friendship with an ex-spouse who cheated on you repeatedly while married?
I was married to a man for 9 years who repeatedly cheated on me. The last time was too much. He had two women at the same time, one of which called me to let me know that he was cheating on her with another woman and she was through with him. We have since divorced, and after some time we have developed a sort of friendship. We go to ball games and shopping and such. I am dating another person and I suspect he is seeing other women. I still have feelings for him as I think he has for me, but I don’t know if a friendship is healthy for either of us. What do you think?
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Its probably great for him, he’s added you back on his list of women, I doubt its going to do you much good though. How could you be friends with someone who obviously has no respect for you at all.
I think you’re mad to be friends with someone who obviously has absolutely no respect for you. He’s treated you like a piece of dirt on his shoe and that was when you were supposed to be the most important person in his life. What are you even thinking wanting to be friends with him, get some self respect girl, you’re giving women a bad name.
I wouldn’t waste any time with an asshole like him. He doesn’t DESERVE your friendship, and he deserves to die a lonely, bitter old man.
No not really. Do yourself a favour and just make a clean break of it all. but if you must just never bring alcohol into the equation, it fucks everything up lol
NO DONT HAVE A FRIENDSHIP WITH HIM ONCE THAT HAPPENS YOU WILL START LIKING EACH OTHER AND THEREFORE YOU WILL MOST LIKELY GET HURT AGAIN…
No, why would you wanna be with a pig like that? The fact that you are now questioning what you are doing shows you don’t really think it is right for you.
How could you ever forgive that? Every relationship needs some sort of trust to work. I don’t see how that would be possible.
Don’t set yourself up for more hurt/
dear, that depends on your strength, and your heart. If you trust and know he will not do it again and your willing to give him a second chance, thats up to you. Don’t worry about your friends they will get over it if they love you. If you love him then try. The important thing to remember is that the first time is his fault the second time is yours.
No No No and NO. DUH> Btw, did I say no?
If I were in your shoes I would be wondering what he was up to. He is the type who is angling for something. I would not respect nor want to keep a friend who cheated repeatedly on their spouse, much less the ex who did it to me.
"i suspect he is seeing other women" errrr wait a min. if you’re divorced, you shouldn’t be suspecting. you should either know or dont even care. i think its time you part ways with him. atleast for a few years until you get over him and start a healthy relation with a nice guy. then maybe you can all be friends together with his new wife or gf. right now it seems like you are still attracted to him.
If you still have feelings for each other then I would think not. Not only would there be a problem explaining your friendship to future partners, but eventually one of you may want to ‘try again’ and the other might not.
no it is not. move on he will only hurt you, run fast to the good life
It’s not healthy. You divorced because he was unfaithful to you. Given the opportunity, he could do it again.
Here’s the problem with dating your ex (and don’t fool yourself, if you have feelings for each other and you are hanging out together, then you are dating). You don’t want to officially get back together with this man, because you know he will cheat on you again. That is who he is, you can’t change him. Therefore any time you spend with him is a distraction from someone else who is a better choice for you.
It all depends on your life goals. If you don’t mind him cheating on you, and if you don’t want a committed relationship with anyone, ever, then he sounds like a great buddy for you. If you ultimately want to end up in a committed relationship with someone, then you shouldn’t waste valuable time hanging out with him.
have some respect for yourself! move on!
thank God 4 d divorce .so 4get about him once a cheater always a cheater
Find another friend…you are probably having sex with him too right? This will only put your health in jeopardy and your self esteem will continue to decrease which leads you to accepting this kind of person in your life. You likely will not take the advice that we are all giving but I’ll say it again–stay away!
i will never stay friends if we get divorced, because i do not like him as a person.