How to tell my cheating husband i want a divorce & im pregnant? Advice?
I posted this question last week but i recently found out i am expecting his baby.I am 26 and i want to get a divorce from my husband of 2 years dated for 3. I found out almost 2 weeks ago through one of his drunken friends that he had a one night stand with two different women on different nights after getting ‘two drunk’ with the guys. When i found out it felt like someone had taken my heart out and ripped it to pieces. I haven’t spoken to him since the night he told me it was true and tried to make me stay, i left the house although he is doing everything to get me to see him i just cant look at him every time i think of him i want scream and make him feel the pain i feel. This guy was the man of my dreams, he made every dream i had come through, always tells me he loves me he always done everything perfect. When i met him he had a drug problem and anger issues, i helped him get his life back on track and away from the drugs but couldn’t really help with the anger although he would never put me in danger. His friends always told me that he idolized me and he always said he would never be able to imagine his life without me. I always said that if someone i loved cheat on me once let alone twice no matter how much i loved him i would never stand for it. I haven’t talked to anyone about me wanting a divorce and he doesn’t know yet but i have an appointment with my lawyer this week to file for one. I feel like my husband has broken me and i don’t know if i could ever forget what he put me through, he keeps sending me flowers or calls all the time and even comes over to try see me but i never let him in, i don’t wanna know him right now. I went to the doctor at the start of the week and i was told i am almost 8 weeks pregnant with our first child,i know it sound stupid but the first person i wanted was him. He & nobody know i am pregnant and im terrified i don’t know what im going to do? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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You can go two routes here.
1. If you still have feelings for him and if he still has feelings for you then isn’t that worth trying some counselling? You need to get serious now and make decisions not only for yourself, but your baby that is going to come into this world and rely completely on you two. Counselling will also give you the opportunity to work through your issues as a couple (and separately if you choose) so if you DO decide to part ways, it can be on neutral terms and you can work TOGETHER in the raising of your child. Don’t be left with the "what ifs" and better figure it out now than when the baby comes along.
2. If you really think there is nothing left with this guy and your life would be better without him in it, then you know what to do. Get your life together in your own place and learn how to make a life on your own (and in a bit with your baby.) Again, this is time to get serious and make some big life decisions. Time is going to fly by and before you know it you’re going to have a beautiful baby that will be precious, but also a handful.
No one on here can tell you what to do but whatever you choose, make sure it’s what will make you happiest long term. If you try counselling and can’t get passed his cheating then you can move on knowing full well you did everything you could to work it out.
Consider a divorce and an abortion.
i think u should u talk to him.and try to figure out what exactly happened that night
pls do not get an abortion ok keep the baby tell him that u want a divorce then when u get the divorce you’ll kinda be a single mom but. he’ll have to take care of it cuz its his baby 2 . so just tell him u want a divorce an dthat ur pregnant and again pls dont have an abortion
Do you want a baby to grow up with a father like that? What if you have a daughter and she learns that this is the way women are treated? The unknown is terrifying but the known is horrifying.
You are strong, young and smart and you can move ahead. The baby does not change the fact that you can’t live with that cheating bastard of a husband. The baby does not need a situation like that.
Leave him.
oNCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER. Don’t spend the rest of your precious life with this jerk. You can raise your child on your own. Do you have nice parents or loved ones that are around you? Get with them! Do you work? Can you get out and get your own place? Your own money? If not can loved ones help out?
Drugs and anger issues? Get the hell out of there! Drug addicts rarely get it together. Narcotics are highly addictive. No way you want to live for the rest of your life with this person!
There are lots of fish in the sea! I’ll keep you in my prayers!