Symptoms of bipolar disorder?
At the beginning of December, my neighbor started hitting on me big time. I tried to ignore it and shoot him down as often as I could and he’d apologize, say that he had let himself out of control and please don’t tell his wife. Eventually, I had to tell my sister (it’s her son’s grandpa) and she had to tell him to stay away from me. And he did. Until Saturday. We had a conversation about my husband’s mom’s vehicle that needs work…my neighbor is a mechanic. Out of nowhere, he asks to come over and play the wii. I lied and said it wasn’t here. He asked if we had other play systems he could play. I said no. He asked if he could come over and talk, I said no. Then he asked me to delete my text messages so he wouldn’t get in trouble. I said no simply for the fact that my phone broke last week and I’m using someone else’s until I can get a new one and I don’t know how to work this one very well. He told me to do a mass delete of all my text messages. Which I refused because there were some important ones that I need. This went on about ten times and then he started talking about all the people that would be hurt because I was being stubborn. I tried to ignore him and then he got nasty. He said (quote) "Well I wasn’t gonna say anything about what I know but we’ll see after this." Which in my book is a threat. I was completely confused about what he was talking about…what could he know about me that I don’t even know?
I sent my sister a message and told her what was going on. She talked to him and told him to stay away again or his wife would get involved. He told her that I would regret ever talking to him that night. Which trust me, I do. I called my husband up at work and told him what was going on, which I wanted to avoid as much as possible because he has a temper and I don’t want to feud with my neighbors.
The next day, my husband sent a message from his phone asking what the big secret was. It took three hours for a reply and the answer was, "Ask her." I had been worried that he’d make up some sort of an affair between me and someone else but at this point I figured it was just all empty threats. My husband replied back, "Obviously I have." And my neighbor went into a spew of how I had tried to come on to him at the beginning of the month and I had taken conversations with him too far. My husband replied back that he knew about what happened the first time cause he had already talked to my sister. So now my neighbor was caught in a lie. So he changed the story to my husband needs to keep an eye on me because I’m not faithful. But don’t worry, he’d never do anything with me. He values his marriage. Which again, my husband called out. I have 5 kids…if I was having an affair, I’m sure my 4 or 5 or 6 year would spill the beans.
Then my neighbor switched gears and said that the way I act on my computer (facebook) was proof of my lack of morals. Which I suppose meant when I updated my status (which has always been random things…baking cookies today, kids are fighting today, flu bug is in the house.) Anyway, my husband replied back saying that was easy for him to check because my pastor and his wife and half the church are my facebook friends. So once again, caught in a lie. Then he pulled out a doozy. "Well, every night when you go to work, Officer ***** is at your house and he stays until right before you get home." So there was the accusation I had expected. This officer being an old family friend my husband knew it was a lie. Not to mention the fact that they work similar shifts.
At this point in time, I sent a message to my neighbor’s wife saying we needed to talk. She instantly guessed why. Apparently every year in December this happens. He has actually cheated on his wife 5 times…and always with one of her friends. The doctors say it’s a part of his bipolar disorder…at least going out and having affairs is. Lucky for me his wife told my husband her husband was crazy and he made it all up. Problem is it doesn’t change what was said.
She apologized to me and so did her son but he hasn’t even tried. The way I understand it is he’s passing it off as okay because of his bipolar disorder.
I don’t know a lot about bipolar but it just sounds like an excuse…sure he tried to get me to let him come over, presumably so he could try to have an affair…but threatening me, and implying I’m a wh*re, and flat out naming someone that I was having an affair with!!! I don’t buy it. This could have done serious damage to the officer’s career!! It’s done serious damage to me because of an unpleasant past that I won’t mention here. So could someone explain?
I know he has meds for bipolar. His wife said that the doctor said this sort of behavior is caused by bipolar. I know she’s sick and tired of it. They were fighting all night last night.
My opinion was that he was just using it as an excuse to not get himself in trouble. Otherwise, why not apologize? The very least he could do is correct everything with my husband.
I’ve already contacted the police department so there is something on file. Next time he talks to me I was informed to file harrassment charges.
My husband knows me better than this but I’m sure it’d only take so many times of an accusation like this before he had second-guesses. He really wants to go over and handle things his way but he’s afraid he’d end up doing something stupid.
Our biggest problem is that, not only is this man our next door neighbor…he’s my nephew’s grandpa. Which my sister regrets deeply. And we’re trying to not put too much of a strain on our family.
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Wow, what a story. I hate that your neighbor is using his bipolar disorder as an excuse for cheating on his wife, making up stories that could get people in serious trouble, and trying to break apart marriages. I have bipolar disorder and I can tell you that we are NOT all like this, and the disorder cannot be blamed entirely.
Yes, sometimes people who are going through the severe mood swings of bipolar disorder can say and do things they don’t mean. They will end relationships, start fights, buy things they don’t need, and it can be very destructive. But for him to do this repeatedly, year after year, and to have no remorse about it whatsoever… that is a lot more than bipolar disorder. He clearly has no respect for his marriage or his wife, or his neighbors, or the honorable law enforcement officers who protect his community, or anybody but himself. I find that disgusting.
If he has known for years that he has bipolar disorder then he should be seeking TREATMENT for his disease. There is no cure for bipolar disorder but mood stabilizing medications can work wonders for someone who is bipolar. They can stop or at least decrease the intensity of the mood swings and keep the person much more stable and grounded. If he is not taking medication for his disease then he is just being irresponsible and showing a total lack of regard for himself and his wife.
I would strongly suggest you avoid this man as much as possible in the future. I know that is hard since he is your neighbor, but do the best you can. Don’t make eye contact with him when you see him outside of the house, and if he talks to you then just give him and nod and keep going about your business. Do not respond to any texts from him, and you may consider removing him as a friend on Facebook. He is unstable and a problem individual and you don’t need that in your life. I am just glad that your husband is so understanding and secure in your marriage that he knows better than to fall for any of this guy’s crap. You are a lucky woman!
Good luck!
Explain what?
This is completely ridiculous!
Bipolar disorder involves a condition
where the patient experiences extreme highs and lows.
Your neighbor is displaying symptoms of a pathological,
sociopath or multiple personality syndrome. Or better yet, he
is likely just a complete ***hole.. Whatever his problem is,
there isn’t an excuse for this behavior. I think his wife is a complete
moron blaming this on bipolar disorder. It only happens in december!?
Maybe you should make a complaint to your local police station.
This is harassment and it is illegal, any way you slice it.
Maybe write the newspaper, I think the entire neighborhood should know what he has done to you and your family. You would be protecting them and I bet he might become instantly
healed of all his issues when he realizes he has the reputation similar to that of a pedophile.
Good Luck.
Take action, don’t be a victim. Your husband need to be a bit more proactive about this as well. Uh, HELLO!!
THIS is ridiculous.
Report it as stalking because that is basically what it is.
He is using Bipolar as an excuse but there is a symptom of Bipolar called Hypersexuality….. it is not an excuse for cheating but the Bipolar person is overwhelmingly horny 24 hours a day when hypersexual…… still it is not an excuse to cheat (I have been hypersexual and not cheated)…. his other behavior was just the behavior of an a$$hole trying to keep himself out of trouble and is not necessarily a symptom of Bipolar…. it’s just because he is an a$$.