Just caught my husband cheated on me - and I'm getting a divorce. advices?
I’m Thai and 27 yrs or, my soon to be my ex husband is 31.He asked me to marry him and move from Thailand to start our loving family here. We’ve been married for 2 years now and still living in Sacramento, CA. I found that he cheated me by his phone’s voice recorder - in action - having sex with a woman in his best friend’s wedding party not very long ago and he admitted it. His wedding ring is disappeared more than 5 week ago and he said that he couldn’t remember where it went(we promised each other that we will never take the ring off the finger). I’m feeling hurtful and anger and feel betrayed and all kind of emotionally. the hardest thing is that I trusted him and thought that I knew who he is but I really don’t. I wish that there is a way for him to pay me for what all he have done to me - for all my love and trust and he threw away.
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You are lucky to find out about his true nature so early on in the marriage. He has given you the perfect opportunity to find someone you love even more and who will treat you better! I know it will hurt for a while, but in time you will probably be glad to get away from him. The same thing happened to me and now I am in a much better relationship with a much more mature man who knows how to treat the woman he loves. You don’t have time for jerks who cheat on you!
there is no way for him to pay you back. that’s childish. look, whether you are thai, canadian, or mexican, first thing you need to do is get an attorney. keep in mind, that everything in your husband’s bank account is technically yours by legal agency. that means you can empty out his accounts if you want. if you don’t understand, get an attorney to explain that to you. at this point, missing wedding ring means almost nothing. it appears that you may have the more difficult issue of immigration status. know and understand what your legal rights are regarding visa status. good luck.
SO sorry to hear that!! Best advice I could give is that God will never give us anything we can’t handle! Obviously he was not good enough for you and maybe one day soon you’ll find someone who could treat you like you deserve…keep your head up=)
Would you marry me instead? I’m a 41 year old successful white male in a lousy marriage with two kids. If you marry me and have frequent sex, you can spend as much money as you like and you never need to work. You don’t even need to cook or clean, only have sex and whatever else you want to do.
Wow, that is every women worst fear!! Well mine anyway…all I can say is keep your chin up. YOu have done nothing wrong and don’t please don’t put yourself down for this. If you have children with this guy, he will pay for this for sure!!!
And the trust is now gone and I don’t think it will come back either so I suggest you leave or make him leave…..I would make him leave but that is your decision to make on what is better for your situation.
This is not the end of the road for you, this is just the beginning. This will make you a stronger person and stronger women on what you have to find in a man. Be positive and I wish all the luck in the world.
Wan Wisa is it…..i commend you on your english grammar skills…(i smell a troll)..anyway I say you cut your losses and move on.
Your lucky you live in California. First get a very good lawyer, the best money can buy. He asked you to move from Thailand and leave your family. In California wives are entitled to 50% of all earnings during the marriage. Do not let your husband talk you into a "do it yourself" divorce. You need a lawyer to get your fair share. Property needs to be split and cars. The way I see it, he’s the loser. ***Go to the bank and if you have joint accts, take out all the money right now before he gets to it****. You are entitled to that money. You are also entitled to the house, car and anything else he has. Go to the bank!!! Then get a lawyer!!!!
you see often at times in your life you feel u’ve found ur significant other…the only true love u could get but later in life when u realize it never was ur ur true soulmate.
u trusted him but he had other stuffs to do then keeping his words, so y shud u take the tension, why not let him suffer. take it as a fact that this was just a bad nerdy experience and there is someone waiting for you who’d come into ur life so exquisitely that all ur pains and negativity would be gone. still u can give him a chance if he ‘REALLY’ is sorry otherwise…..We all do mistakes which later compile up as experiences, it was a bad experience wait for happiness to once again spring out your life…
I PROMISE THE BEST OF YOUR PAST WOULD BE THE WORST OF YOUR FUTURE…ALL THE BEST OF LUCK! =)
I don’t blame you feeling this way towards your soon to be ex. the next horrible thing is he asked you to move from your home country to his & then he goes & cheats on you!
It’s just not fair in today’s world as it happens all too often these days!
Go ahead & start divorce proceedings, but first make him leave the home that you both share! Or if not then shift in with someone else who you know & would feel comfortable living with!
As I’m not familiar with the matrimonial laws of your country, best you seek advice of a lawyer to ask what your entitled to from the joint partnership of marriage. What ever you do, to get your own back on him for hurting you, Take him to the cleaners & by that I mean go for everything that your entitle too by law! Your lawyer should be able to tell you what your able to claim for & what you can’t.
All the best & remember that your ex chose the wrong person with his infidelity, co’s your the best he was likely to ever have!
Cheers & keep your head high & keep smiling!