I found out my girlfriend has been cheating on me?
I have been with my girlfriend since high school, we have been together for 5 years now. Ever since she started hanging out with a girlfriend from work she has changed into a different person. She broke down crying hysterically and told me that she has been so depressed and feels like a piece of shit because she was drunk and cheated on me 1 time. I know she has done it more than once and I want nothing to do with her. At the same time, I have been with her for almost 1/4 of my life, and obviously have some attachment issues and so on. I find that the only time I really ge upset about thinking about her having sex with this other guy, is only when I want to have sex. I am guessing this is because I would always have some type of sexual encounter with her every time I wanted to have sex. I do not want to get back with her at all. I need to move on, I need tips to forget about her so I can move on and stop thinking about her. I tried to get back together with her a few weeks ago, and whenever we would hang out she said she had her period and we couldn’t have sex. She is on birth control and gets her period for about 2 days a month, so I know for a fact she was avoiding having sex with me. She got screened for stds and was clean, I also just got my results back and am clean also, so i know she did not, or I did not, contract anything. What I really want to know is why she would want to avoid sex so much, I am guessing she is seeing someone else that someone tipped me off about. I honestly cannot be sure about anything thought because she revealed so many lies and cover ups that’s she has been involved in regarding myself. Any input is appreciated, thanks.
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1 - beer
2 - go and kiss some random girls while drunk
3 - take some time to be single (a few months at least) and develop your own personality
4 - maybe throw yourself into your job for a bit or take up some new hobbies / sports.
Best thing to get over her is to get a new gf. Start dating other people but, be prepared for her to start talking to you once she finds out there is someone else in your life. Move on with your life, like you said you wasted 1/4 of your life on this girl, thats quite enough!
When someone cheats, they don’t know they’ve done anything wrong untill they have lost the person they cheated on. Trying to forget about someone is really hard, and if you’ve been with them for a very long time - it’s not going to be easy. If she was trying to avoid having sex with you, there could be many reasons. Period would be my guess but then again, she might be with someone else. It’s really hard to get my point of view around and help you. All i can say is just move on. I got cheated on more than once and i had to move on, but couldn’t. The only way to do it is to stay clear of her. Don’t contact her and just keep away. Having your friends around you to help you get through this will also help, friends are a huge help and i found when i needed them, they weren’t there for me. Hold your head up high, think about something you have wanted to do for a while and go do it. Take your mind off of her and trust me, your be fine! Who knows, you might just find someone else along the way.
Hope I helped, sorry if i dragged on!
Hello there,
Really feeling your pain, and know what you going through. Must be tough but you have to do what is best for you, You have to ask yourself if this is something you are ready to deal with long term? Also try keeping busy, spending time with your friends and family and forget about her, break-up are not the easiest things in the world but time is the best healer. you will get over her And find someone that values you and loves you and appreciates you.
Best of Luck
break it off mate ..
i’m sorry, it must be hard for u, well i cought my fiance with a naked gal, but he insisted nothing happened n that i came just in time cos she was seducing him n all, he apologized,went 4 HIV test n even moved out of the apartment just to make me feel better, bought new bedding, came kneeling with flowers everyday. my point is, he made means n fought for us n eventualy i 4gave him & chose to believe him cos i knew that i still love him. if u feel that u still love her fight for ur relationship n try to talk to her n telll her how it makes u feel when she denies u sex n myb u both myt realise how much u love each other n mend things.
but what ever you do, do it for u, what makes U happy. if u c that it is too heavy 4 ur heart to bear then walk away. but it has to be what U realy want.
i had a similar experience.i found out my bf was cheating on me and he changed into a completely diff. person.he wouldnt even want to kiss me anymore let alone have sex with me anymore.i knew he was cheating b/c i saw how he looked at other girls(the ones he was cheating on me with but i didnt know at the time),he looked at them the way he used to look at me but no longer did.it killed me inside each time i seen him do that.he would lie and say it happend only once but i knew better but after that her face was all i could see when i looked at him,it disgusted me and what was worse was knowing that i still loved him(or so i thought at the time).i finally couldnt take the heartache anymore of knowing that the one person whom i took seriously only wanted to disrespect me and treat me as if i didnt deserve to be his only one.i finally realized that and i left him.i was sooo heartbroken,2 days after we broke up i found myself in the fetal possition under my sisters pool table,i cried for 3 hours straight( i cried like a baby and screamed as if i were going to die)at that point i wanted to die,i couldnt go on anymore,there was a dark tunnel and i wasnt sure if i would live to see the end of it.but i did,i went out (after i could control myself and the tears stopped)and met people,no one could ever hold a place in my heart like my former(or so i thought)but i was wrong,it wasnt til about 2 weeks when i met up again with my old childhood friend and i didnt go into meeting him with an open heart,i had trained myself to be coldhearted and not fall in love again,but even the most coldest of people let their guard down and i was one of them,it turned out my heart was true and i fell in love with the one man whom i should’ve been with along time ago,after that my former didnt even cross my mind anymore,my tears of sorrow b/c of him turned to tears of happiness with him b/c i couldnt believe i had finally found what i was searching for for so long.now two years later we are engaged and we r expecting our first baby (due next month).it just teaches one that even tho its hard to say goodbye and let go to someone who’s been untrue,it always gets better.it took awhile for me to learn but u deserve to be treated good and u need a girl whos going to be faithful the way u are to her.it may be hard to leave her for good but when u do and when the days when u cry for her end,u will find a better girl,one that is everything your former wasn’t(in a good way).just dont lose respect for yourself and dont lose your sense of self-worth,u deserve to know that truth not covered up lies.go out there and meet people,when she see’s that ur at ur happiest,its then when shes going to wanna come back to u but by then shes just going to be an old face,thats what happend to my former.i hope my storie helped a bit,i know it was long but if i could pass on my learned wisdom from my own experience,i’m going to.good luck with whatever u decide to do