I need relationship advice! NO ONE IS HELPING! Help please?
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Ok guys and girls, hang in there with me, i know this is very long but bare with me and try to help me out ok? Im desperate here!
Im a sweet girl and im very loveable and have alot of love to give, sometimes too much love 8o
Ok im 19 and my boyfriend is 17… i like younger guys what can i say lol…so anyways my boyfriend and i have been together for a lil over a year, at the beginning of our relationship i cheated on him, by dating him (D****) and other guy (M*****) at the same time 
i know that was really bad and sluttish but i didn’t have sex with neither of them at that time… so about 2 months into our relationship i told M***** (the other guy) that i wanted to just be friends with him because i was starting to fall in love wit my boyfriend (D****) and i didn’t want to lose my bf. i eventually told M***** the truth… he was devastated and upset…i felt guilty because i liked them both but i loved my boyfriend. After 5months of being with my boyfriend (D****) I told him about what i did and of course he was very angry with me and more importantly he was heartbroken, he was more upset that i didn’t tell him sooner and that i waited so long to tell him…but luckily he stayed with me because he loved me and didn’t want to lose me and i loved him so much… couple of months go by and we’re still together but our relationship was rocky (and still is) because he didn’t trust me (and i don’t blame him)… he would always make hurtful jokes about what i did and would tell me "now you see how i feel"
At one point he even told me "sometimes i feel like, since you cheated on me than it wouldn’t be so bad if i did the same thing to you" : (our relationship was sour and i got tired of him making me feel even worse about me cheating not to mention how he would always bring it up at the wrong times and wouldnt let it go… i got so tired that i ended up telling him that i needed a break so we "broke up" (in Oct. of 2008 to be exact) Than one day out of the blue he called me and flirted with and told me he wanted me back so we got back together and we’re still together till this day… he told me he has never cheated and he never will but that puzzles me because of the stuff he use to joke about… and he still brings up me cheating… i haven’t talked to my boyfriend in days and i don’t know what’s going on… the only talking we do is through texts and there only short hellos…but my questions are… do you think he might cheat on me if he already hasn’t? and since we haven’t really communicated in days, do you think he might be planning to break up with me? I know what i did was wrong but that was a while back and i still feel horrible about it but Ive learned my lessons and I’m not going to do it again… everybody makes mistakes.
And no im not "robbing the cradle" lol
And my bf would always ask me, "why did u do it? why would you do something like that to me, especially when you know i love you? i mean why me instead of him?"
I guess at the time i wanted both of them so i said yes to both of them when they asked me and after a while of doing it i started to become really depressed and all i did was cry when i was along. This hurt me just as much as it hurt my bf because i knew what i was doing was wrong, but i started falling in love with him, my connection with him was stronger because we were starting to think about having sex… i didnt want to have sex with him at that time because i was doing something wrong and he didnt know about it (yet).
your probably wondering why i waited so long to tell him, and it was because i felt like if i would have told him at the beginning, i wouldnt have him right now.
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if he loves you he wont cheat but if he hasn’t called you in days it could be he is planing on breaking up with you its happened to me.
Sorry. Too much to read. Too complicated to make sense.
i know exactly what you mean. i cheated on a boy i loved, not sex or anything. and we broke up and then got back together. and it was so rocky.
but honestly if he loves you, then he wont. But think about how you would feel if he did that to you.
I think you really need to talk to him in person about this. A nice long serious talk, and tell him to stop bringing it up cause its in the past.
Honestly?
He’s not going to get over this. You are both young and haven’t been heartbroken enough to learn how to either forgive or move on. Your best bet would be to be completely honest. Say something along the lines of, "I know I screwed up but if you can’t move past what happened and you keep treating me like this, I don’t see how we can be happy and functional."
After that it’s in his hands. If he can’t treat you with love and respect, he obviously doesn’t actually feel the same way you feel about him and it would be best to end it.
I don’t know if he would cheat on you or if he’s planning on breaking up with you. If you really love him, try to give him a call or send him and email to tell him that you do love him and you want to be together again.
ya what you did was wrong but it sounded like he forgave you and thats not fair that he rubbed it in your face about it.
dont assume he’s gonna break up with you you never know
maybe he’s just thinking
i take time to think A LOT
not in a bad way im just chill when i am
so dont stress
=) good luck
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Honestly I don’t know. It may be that while you guys were broken up he thought that he was over what happened in the past and it turns out that he wasn’t. But then he should be communicating with you. Just ask him straight up what’s going on. Maybe it’s just a tiny misunderstanding but it could get worse if no one clears the air. Talk to him. If you can’t be open in a relationship then you shouldn’t be in one.
Wow that is some deep stuff. just sit down one on one and talk out your problems. Without communication you don’t know what is really going though his mind. If he can’t get over the fact that you did cheated, than you need to let him go. like you said everybody make mistakes.
Psychology tells us that when someone becomes overly upset on a subject, even one that’s been way done and over with. Or they continue to bring up the past, it’s because they have something to hide. He wants your eyes off of him, because he fears being caught. Even if it’s something little and petty, like checking out another girl, some guys feel like they’ve done something terrible.
What you did was wrong, but not really all that bad. You weren’t honest, and you were leading on two guys at the same time. But you could’ve slept with both of them and fail to mention it, and that would’ve been worse.
We all make mistakes, and I’d tell your boyfriend that you guys need to talk. Sit down with him, and the both of you confess everything that you’ve never told the other, not holding anything back. That’s advice if you guys want to stay together. After your confessions you guys have to promise one another never to bring up the other’s one mistakes again. But my personal opinion would be, tell your bf that if he’s not honest with you, and if he doesn’t stop bringing up the past, you’re going to tell him goodbye.