How do i get over my husband cheating?
my husband cheated on me back in june.we’ve promised to move past this the best we can and try to go forward with our relationship.the only problem is me of course.its gone down a lot but i still cannot get the image of her and him out of my head.i didnt catch them or anything and maybe thats the problem.i know they slept together but i dont know exactly wat happened.do you think it would be a good idea to just ask him? maybe that will fill the gaps and ill know and then i can really move on? i dont know..obviously. ive become obsessed with her and i catch myself staring at her picture and its just really bad and i need some advise ..please..
and please only serious answers only im not trying to hear ignorant peoples b.s.
thank you
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What will knowing more do for you? Have the image you have of them become more vivid? Your imagination to be even wilder?
It is human nature to remember the bad & ignore the good. If you really want to make this work, you need to start thinking of the good in this relationship, not the bad.
If you feel that you will NEVER be able to get this out of your mind, I’d suggest that you separate with your husband for a while & figure out what your heart really wants.
What is the likelihood of this working out with you being half hearted with this obsession & your husband definitely being half hearted or heartless? If he wasn’t so, he wouldn’t have betrayed you. Are you sure you will ever get over that betrayal? You will remember this always. You will be reminded when you see women who look similar to her & will always be mindful of your husband’s actions. That’s very tiring. Think on it. No, feel on it. Do what is best for you. Good luck!
It’s been 9 months, and you’re still not over it. What makes you think you’ll ever get over it? Your husband went behind your back, slept with another woman and broke the trust. I guess you could ask him questions, because you have every right to know.
you should get with me ;] haah no just playin .. i think you should move on and go out and look for a man that can fill in those blank spots in your life i dont think you should talk to im cause all of your pain would just come back … since he’s moved on i think you should too
Maybe you should listen to your intuition.
This is going to bother you, forever. You can try to move past, but in the back of your mind you will always wonder ‘is he really where he says he is? Is he telling the truth?" over EVERYTHING. And it will never get better. He’s broke that trust. If you want to live with the constant pain, then be my guest, but if I were you, I’d be gone. Theres no reason to make yourself unhappy.
Well sorry to say, but it doesn’t sound like you are going to get over it. You feel betrayed and rightfully so. You should really be asking yourself this question, "what do YOU need to get over it?" Do you need to know the truth, do you need vindication (eye for an eye type thing) or do you need to move on…without him?
That fact that you stayed with him says a lot about you. If it was me, I would have left. But that is because I have been in your positon before, just not a marriage.
I know how you feel and what you are going thru. If you have talked about it before, and you agreed to move on, then you should try really hard to do so. I don’t thi
Granted I don’t know your entry situation but this is what I have for you. A wise man once told me no matter who you marry they will only fill 85% of you needs. When issues arise in marriage people often look for that 15% that you can’t fill for that person and cheating happens. From what it sounds like, you want to fill that 15% that your husband is looking for and in the pursuit you can’t understand what he saw in this other woman. It’s eating at you and you obsess over her but knowing every little detail is only going to make it worst. By asking to fill the gaps you are stabbing at the wound over and over. The focus of you and your husband’s conversations should be on what you are not giving each other and where you need to improve your relationship. I am sure that he is sorry for what he did or he would not be willing to stick this out with you. Temptation is a bitch and things like this do happen but it is how the both of you handle it that can make it a better and stronger marriage. This is the time to hit the conversation head on and find out what doesn’t make you happy in your relationship and change it. If you are able to fix these problems the cheating issue should work itself out. I hope this helps and good luck in your journey.
A better solution would be to find out what he saw in her . I suggest researching a little info and modifying your attitudes to accommodate. Whilst I do not condone what he did ,he obviously felt he was missing something on the home front. If you adjust you your attitudes to be more accommodating then he will have no need to stray .If he does it again after you have altered your attitudes for him then ditch him and find someone who cares for you because you are you. Unfortunately life brings us unwanted surprises; you can forgive him, but not forget the affair. Don’t necessarily bring it up in the course of arguements either as it will lead to the demise of the marriage. Sometimes mem think not with their big brain but with their little brain. It may also be possible that he was seduced by the charms of the other woman. So seduce him with your charms. Modify your bedroom behaviour so he can’t resist your advances and more importantly; realises what he stands to lose if he screws up again. good luck. ps It can be a very powerful feeling/stimulation to have control of your partners wants/ needs; and even more powerful a feeling to fulfill them.