Ending an extramarital affair?
I have been having an affair with a man for the past several months. I thought about leaving my husband for him, but decided not to. I am now trying to patch up my marriage with my husband.
The problem I’m having right now is getting the "other man" to accept the fact that it is over between us. He doesn’t want to let me go (and no, I don’t mean that in a psycho kinda way).
How do I get rid of him in the gentlest way possible?
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hmmm let him to fuck off , that you now realize that you made a mistake and want to repair what little dignity you have left. If he loves you then he would respect that and leave you alone to pick up the pieces of your marriage. was wondering does your hubby know about the affair and did you break it off because he found out or cuz you truly feel guilty about it ?
hehehe you no what? when you play you pay, you will never no when he might come in to the picture.
well tell him you chose your husband over him? oh no, you can’t tell this he might tell your husband.
tell him the truth
The gentlest way is to just say that it is over, and he needs to let you go if he cares, and that you will call him if you change your mind. Then don’t take his calls.
God will bless you for making this decision.
Well, in this case, I think you are going to have to be very blunt and tell him in no uncertain terms can you see him any more. Tell him you are trying to make a go of your marriage and the affair has to end. Don’t worry about being too gentle. He knew this was wrong from the start…..Good luck Honey. I give you a lot of credit for trying to make your marriage work out….
Fast and straight would be my advice to you. We guys are very very dense and take someone being considerate of our feeling for them having feelings for us.
Good luck to you.
What you should really be doing is ending both your marriage AND your affair. It’s the only fair thing to do to your husband, who deserves so much better then you.
Should have known there would have been a price to pay for the extra fun on the side.
All you can do is tell him, you want to work on your marriage and he cannot be part of the picture any longer. Then stick to your guns and stay away from him….. no phone calls (just wanted to hear your voice)
Why are you so worried about him tell him its over,and you might want to talk to your husband before he does…
There is no gentle way, you have just dragged another person into the drama, and now you have to let him down and you had better tell your husband the truth or you will pay for it ten fold. I dont say this to be self rightouse of religious, personal experience being the mistress so to speak…Yeah you made a mistake good for you trying to patch it up. But that choice of an affair will haunt your marrige and life forever, deal with it right and truthfully and it wont hurt as much.
Sometimes honesty is simply the best and most compassionate way. Just be direct and straight with him. It should be just as easy to get out of this as it was to get into it. If he is hurt, then sorry, but oh well… Of course he doesn’t want to loose his selfish pleasure. Just proves, it’s really all about him, isn’t it? Don’t be too kind or caring. Just cut the cord so everyone can part ways in a way where there is no misguided hopes or confusion.
Just tell him that there will no further contact……….that means: no calls, no emails, no IM’s……anything. You must walk away clean and with as much dignity as you can in this type of situation.
If he doesn’t want to let you go: then ask him to walk up to your husband and ask for your hand in marriage………(I am betting that he won’t put himself at risk)…..He is using you, and it’s fabulous that you are patching things up with your husband. I admire that.
Remember: don’t look back. And if he contacts you, tell your husband, the police, and his wife.
Best wishes!
Tell him you’ve switched sides and become a lesbian because he was so bad.
Tell him you have syphillis.
Tell him you cannot stop laughing inside at the size of his tool.
Tell him his dad did it better and lasted longer.
Tell him you don’t find a man with bigger breasts than you attractive.
Does he know that you’re married? I mean what did he think was going to come out of this. Just tell him it has to end, that you do not want to continue on the road you are going with him.
Gentlest? Can’t be done!
No matter what , NO CONTACT WITH HIM.
My husband told me..I called her husband and told him,he divorced her…
I suppose something like this: "I love you and it was wonderful, and it made me feel a lot better about myself, but I can’t continue it. I’m going to try to give my marriage a second chance. I can’t see you any more."
Who knows, he might be expecting it, and he might even be relieved that it’s over.
It may be painful, but I wish you well.
Tell him you need some space because you are going to have a nervous breakdown, and you are afraid that if you do, you are going to tell your husband everything, and then your husband will probably go after him!