Would you feel obligated to forgive your spouse for cheating on you?
I know I vowed "for better and for worse" through"sickness and health" til"death do we part", but I just don’t believe I’d ever be able to forgive my spouse for cheating. I feel more like it would be the death of our relationship, so therefore we should part. Sorry, I just caught 5 minutes of Maury Povich, and it never cease to amaze me how many people put up with cheating. Am I the one who is in the minority here, or are these people just not representative of most married couples in America?
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SOMETIMES it depends on the situation.
if kids are involved it would be easier to say ‘okay ill TRY and forgive him for cheating.’
however if there are no attachments such as those i believe that if he cheats, he’s out.
also, one may THINK they will be able to forgive, but in the process may not be able to ‘let go’ of the fact that their spouse cheated and its going to constantly have an effect on the relationship as well, whether or not the person is honestly trying to ‘repair’ the damage they have done.
Some things are just unforgiveable.
My motto is… Cheat or Beat and I am out of here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It all depends how much she enjoyed it.
I would feel obligated to forgive my wife for cheating on me, because, years ago, she forgave me for cheating on her, and I remain grateful to this day. Hopefully, I’ll never have to though.
If I’m not #1 in my man’s life, I’m gone. I wouldn’t settle. Been there, done that and I learned my lesson well.
I would forgive my wife in a heartbeat. But then again, I tend to think that I can’t be all things at all times to my wife either.
nope i would not feel obligated at all. as a matter of fact if anyone iam with foolishly cheats on me GOODBYE BABY! you dont get a second chance here.
If he didn’t feel obligated to stay faithful, I am no longer obligated to do anything but divorce him.
absolutely not. If someone cheated on me that would be it. I couldn’t look at them the same. I deserve the best. not just a hand me down.
Statistically, 50% of those cheated on forgive and go on with the marriage. I did so. I didn’t feel obligated, I just didn’t think it had much to do with me. It was his bad choice. We went on to have ten more happy years together. We didn’t divorce over infidelity.
I would not feel obligated to forgive him, but I would try to .I love him, and I don’t want to ever lose him.And I took vows that I intend to honor.
I forgave 1x then 2x’s then 3x’s during 15yrs together and 3kids. Now we are separated because he wanted to continue to have relationship with his latest mistress. its been over 2yrs since I discovered this. If any woman is strong enough to NOT tolerate this I say get out fast.
I’ve taken so much and made so many sacrifices I don’t know where to be start regaining my life back
You are talking about two different things. No, you are not obligated to forgive your spouse. But if you are married, you did make an obligation to stay married. People should not put up with cheating. But again, people should also not get divorced over something that can be worked out. A marriage is more than just something you do when you love someone. It is a lifetime partnership that needs constant work. This is one of the things that couples could potentially face, so if a person doesn’t think they would be able to work this out in their marriage, then they should NOT get married in the first place. I don’t think people ever really pay attention to the wedding vows BEFORE they get married. Would you apply for a job without fully understanding the job requirements? If your job requirements said something about "May need to stand for great lengths at times", then you were required to be on your feet for a full 8 hours one day, would you quit? Or would you say, "I don’t like this, but I knew from the beginning this might happened, and this is what I signed up for"? Marriage is not "dating for life". It’s a job that can hurt, reward, infuriate, and bring joy. You should know this before you get married.
If he cheats, he goes against the vow he made, therefore, my vows are null and void and I am gone!
Absolutely not. I believe cheating breaks the vows of marriage. I don’t know if your religious or not, but in the bible it says if a man cheats on his wife she can divorce him. I know personally I wouldn’t be ok, and I may forgive him but I would not stay with him.
I agree with happy; it depends if there are kids involved or not.
I could forgive someone if they were honestly repentant and depending on the situation in which they compromised themselves. For example, was it emotional or just physical. Was it ongoing sneakiness or a one-time thing. Were they drunk or under the influence of drugs?
Anyone who goes on a talk show to air their dirty laundry has some communication and respect issues to start with IMHO.
I would hope that I am married to my best friend, and whilst no one person can be all things to all people, there should be no situation that we cannot confront head on as a couple; that’s part of for better or for worse.
My husband (who is wonderful in every OTHER way and the love of my life) recently cheated on me with my friend… he and I were the couple everyone wanted to be, we were completely great together. We were happy (so I thought), sexual, fun, partners. He was everything to me… and he says it was a stupid mistake (the "friend is a complete loser slut") and he regrets that he ever did it and wants so desperately to save the marriage and for me to learn to forgive him again. He’s going to therapy, he’s writing in his journal, he’s telling me every morning, afternoon, night how much he loves me, he cries when I cry, he says he’s a piece of crap, he says he has NO idea how he let himself get to this point, after he swore his entire life that he would never become that man. He tells me it had NOTHING to do with me or that there was ANYTHING I was NOT doing, he tells me I was a wonderful wife, that I am sexy (to him) and the love of HIS LIFE…
So now what??? Can you tell me what I am supposed to do? Do I stand a chance at EVER having what I had with this man again? I don’t think so. He cheated on me, he lied to me, and he broke the promise (vow) of marriage to remain faithful under the ultimate temptation. But I love him… and he loves me…. and we have a family… and we are great (really great) together… and I can’t imagine his or my life without that.
To anyone who has cheated or is thinking about cheating while reading this…. if you love your spouse, DON’T DO IT… it’s not worth it. TRUST ME.
Whew… that was a load off!
Its simple to say but very hard to implement, my fiance someone I love with all soul have just cheated on me. I have not been able to make any decision whether to forgive her or not. She cries and beg me day and night to forgive her and has refuse to be eating, her weigh has reduced drastically. She swears never to do such thing again. She has not given me any space breath. I am very confused.