Could you forgive a cheating spouse?
So I was watching the Tina Turner movie and was talking with a co-worker and got to the topic of would you forgive a good spouse that went stray? Me, I do not think I could do it, as much as I love my husband I would think that if he had the nerves to cheat he must not love me as much. What do you guys think?
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That is such a tough subject because no one really knows what they are going to do until they are in that situation. I could sit here and say I WOULD NEVER forgive my hubby if he cheated but I love him so much that if it did happen I would want to forgive him, it would be hard but I would want to forgive him because he is my best friend and father of my children. Sometimes, women/men stay for financial stability divorce wrecks havoc on your bank account, which is why I think it is so important for women to have their own income (whatever it is) and their own bank account so they do not feel like they NEED to stay if they think he is cheating because the love is gone. Would I forgive my husband, depending on the type of transgression I may stay with him but I know things would never be the same. I think emotional infidelity is worse than a drunken 1 night stand. But my husband does not drink so I don’t really have to worry about that!
I have.
My fiance cheated on me and I was heartbroken. I loved him, he was my first love and I was blind. I forgave him, and it was the biggest mistake ever.
I received heartbreak from the cheating then he dumped me the next day and started dating the chick a week later I got a whole other heartbreak. They have a baby together now.
I would NEVER again forgive a cheater.
Um, not really, but I have never been in that position to say. I guess MAYBE I could work things out if it was a one night stand and he was really drunk and some woman was hitting on him hard, but I can’t even imagine him doing that so I don’t know.
Yes i would forgive the reason i say this is because my husband cheated on me for more than half of our marriage and after i left his sorry butt i forgive him because he was just to stupid to know any better
i would when someone cheats it for excitement and sex not for a new blossoming relationship. so meh i wouldnt care.
No.
No, I think the betrayal would be too much for me to forgive or forget. Unfortunately I think my marriage would end from it.
I was able to forgive. I believe that if you truly love someone, its possible, we all make mistakes. BUT, if he/she continues doing so . . . then its time to move on, just depends on the person and the situation.
I know he would never do it but I think if it came down to it and he did cheat I would forgive him. (shhhh don’t tell him that) For better or for worse actually means something to me. I don’t see how he could go about doing anything that way in the first place but yes I would forgive him.
The term ‘Once a cheater always a cheater’ doesn’t necesarily apply to everyone. There are people that is true to their word of not doing any thing again. It takes commitment on their part to show their partner. But for the person that’s been cheated on, it is very hard to rebuild the trust. I know because I keep going back to the past and it puts a strain in our relationship. I think we all want to be in a relationship wherein both partners are committed to one another faithfully and still love one another.
Eventually I could…but not to work the marriage out. My ex husband cheated on me after 2 years of marriage the night our son was born. That was 11 years ago…and I have forgiven him. He has remarried (to the girl he cheated on me with) and we get along for the most part.
I would forgive him but I would not put myself in that position to be his wife, to be the wife that he so loved and cheated on!
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
A cheater is not a man of integrity.
I would have enough respect for myself to value myself enough to know I don’t deserve that and that I deserve better.
I would forgive her but would leave her. How can a marriage ever be the same when you break the most sacred of all trusts there would be an emptiness in your lives that could not be changed
I have and I did, and that was 18 years ago. We’re still together, and I’ve never once regretted forgiving her and moving on with our lives together. Cheating isn’t, usually, about a lack of love. It’s about (at least in her case) how she saw herself, and the fact that I simply wasn’t emotionally or physically available to her when she needed me.
My wife cheated on me a year ago, and I haven’t left her because I feel I made a commitment not just to her, but to God and our kids. She confessed to me about it and got some counseling. I think I forgave her, and am still trying to rebuild the trust. The hard thing recently is that she tosses aside my faithfulness like trash. She doesn’t care that I’ve been faithful and would be fine with me cheating. I think she is still avoiding some guilty feelings, and hasn’t faced up to everything she’s done. I hope she can figure things out before we have to end it. I’ve heard it can be done, and marriages can supposedly be stronger. In my experience, it’s been a hard road so far. I’ve heard divorce is awful too, especially with kids. I think the answer really depends on the situation and where each spouse is at, and what they choose going forward.
Definitely not. I’ve been both cheated on and a cheater. In the first case I immediately cut all ties with the ba$tard, in the 2nd case I wasn’t caught but if I had I wouldn’t have expected to be forgiven, honestly…. a cheater does not deserve that. They screw up, then they should pay the consequences.
It would depend. I could possibly understand and forgive a one night drunken mistake. It would be difficult, but possible. But, a longer term extra marital affair, is a different thing all together. A long term affair involves so much more than just the physical infidelity, there’s all the lies and excuses that are part of having an affair. Those would stay in my mind and would require a lobotomy to get rid of them.
Nope, I could NEVER forgive a cheating spouse…