Cheating Spouse?
If your spouse (my husband) cheated on you numerous amounts of times would you still be with them if they said they wanted to start all over? Now he wants to go to church, have god in his heart, and be committed to me but I don’t think it’ll last. I’ve never cheated on him and I don’t understand how some people can be so weak and an do that to the person they love or care for. Someone please give me some advice.
We’ve been married for a few year’s, have 1 child, and just recently he dropped the bomb on me and told me about these affairs. I don’t believe he’s told me the truth of how many there were and I may never know. It hurts me that I suspected he was doing this behind my back and yet I did not know….I should have hired a detective.
I haven’t given anyone a thumbs down….in regards to a message
We are in our early 30’s, not real financially well off, I supported him & our child with my paychecks throughout the marriage-even though he too had a job, but I guess his money was going to hotels & whores.
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You know he’s never going to change right? Please, do yourself a favor and leave him. My dad cheated on my mom for many years and with several women and he does not feel guilty about his behavior at all. My mom has turned into a bitter, angry old woman that hates him for being a pig and herself for not having the strength and courage to leave him a long time ago. Staying with him will only sour your outlook on life. You will only feel distrust, anger, sorrow and pain. Your husband cheats for numerous reasons. He may be a risk-taker, he may have a high libido, but mostly it’s because he can and has got away with it. It’s partly the thrill, the danger of having an affair that excites him. He should have just taken up sky-diving. Love to him is NOT a sacred bond between two people. It is a game of control and he is winning. Do yourself a favor and cut him out of your life before it is too late.
cheated once, shame on him cheated twice shame on you. let him go aperson that cheats will do it over and over againg
My husband of 13yrs recently left and did the same thing to me. It is so hard to forgive and forget and truly believe that they have changed. If he truly has changed then you will see the difference and feel it in your heart. But be careful of being weak stay strong and put your foot down
The only one to forgive him and he needs to have redemption from is GOD so if you love him and he loves you then give him that chance…If he cant stick with it for life then you need to move on because his day will come…
Cheating on someone is a choice, if he has cheated numerous times then he does not care about you or the consequences of his betrayal. He is probably using church and god as a last resort of what you need to hear to stay with him. Tell him if he is that committed to change then to change already and if you see the changes and wanna hang in there with him you will-don’t threaten him or do anything except take care of you (he obviously isn’t)..if the changes are real then you will see them.
I would be willing to give him a second chance…AND THAT IS IT! He cheats a second time …its "GOOD BYE TO YOU"…..You said yourself that you don’t think it would last…so why believe his bullchit? He doesn’t love you….if he did he would respect you and refrain from putting his pecker where it doesn’t belong.
nope i can’t be with someone who cheated on me
& once a cheater alway a cheater
its wise to dump him & move on
If you have the feeling that he’s not sincere and you don’t think it will work, then it won’t work {you know him, we don’t} In my lives experience once a cheat always a cheat.
I know your hurting but honestly the best thing you can do is to leave him far behind and start a new life for yourself and your child…Take it from people like me, you’ll get fed up eventually and when you look back the only thing you’ll see is the number of years you wasted on this person that never appreciated you!
People cheat for all kinds of reasons {one of the biggest being boredom} it has nothing to do with if you care about the person you are with.
Good luck to you and I hope you make the right decision for your life.
oh boy, toughie there! hmmm… since he says he will go to church… give him one last chance… and let him know that’s it… and if he does it again, he’s outta your life, and mean it… good luck! =) he obviously knows better now, since he wants to go to church and all… 1 last chance… good luck… if he blows it it’s goodbye… oh a child too… hmmm… if I were you I’d get tested for diseases… =(… sigh… and he needs to get tested too when your results come back if you have something… =(… get that taken care of…
i go to church three times a week, and there are people there who cheat and go to hookers that are my mates, what is his star sign, you can always look more into his characteristics.
check His phone statements if he has a nokia you can press the Right arrow on his phone and it will bring up deleted calls and msges if you are in contact book.
i would frame him set him up with a girl if you know who the other girl may be you can get separate Sim card and change her number in your phone to this number keep it under the same name. and he will be texting you instead and you can reply then you can frame Him that way too.
church makes no difference. but if he is honest and realizes he has made a mistake then give it a go. but watch him because he will slip up.
its harder than death to get over , depends how you are because every fight it emerges. time will tell but its the trust eg : 2or 3 years down the track if she/hes ever late or things don’t add up the thought is always their but you will forgive because life is the blink of an eyelid . happy home &good luck on bothsides.. intervenequizenexx
As your husband has cheated on more than one occasion, he either will re offend or you will be driven to distraction waiting for him to cheat again. Either way your marriage was over long ago.
You must know you deserve much better and take steps towards this, however before kicking him out see a lawyer to establish what you need to do, bank accounts retaining bank statements of transactions that could be used if things become dirty etc.
Remember you are the victim and you need to be able to make sure you have a exit plan that allows you to take control of your life again.
You have to do what u want noone can answer this for u, numerous amts of time? I honestly don’t believe he’ll change but I also don’t know him…I do believe someone can cheat once and change but now numerous times…Once can be a mistake but numerous is more like intentional.Be careful he may be throwing god in the mix to possibly get u 2 believe him… Having someone cheat on u is vry rough and vry hard to get over. U will constantly think about what he did and the pain ur feeling right now will never leave it may get better but it will always be there, coming from someone who has been cheated on it seriously sucks but I do believe they can change its up to u if u wanna stick it out and if u believe he’s actually sincere about what he did. If u honestly don’t believe him then leave him, why waste anymore of ur time when there is a good guy who will treat u right out there waiting for u…
Don’t be a doormat to him NO man is worth it!!
Good luck 2 u and I hope everything works out for u
I noticed your giving everyone that has a logical answer a thumbs down, so what do you want us to say about it, keep him? If so be ready for him to cheat again, on the other hand when you get tired of it you’ll do something about it won’t you?
When I was young I thought a woman who stayed with a cheating husband was absolutely crazy. Same goes for a man who stayed married to a cheating wife. Now that I’m officially an old lady, I’ve changed my mind on this subject.
Many of the "cheaters" finally do change their ways. They realize they have a perfectly wonderful spouse who loves them. They develop health problems or money problems and find out the husband/wife they’ve treated so badly is the only one who stands by them. Their grown children know the whole story but continue to love them. Love of family, religious beliefs or whatever….. some people do change and become so much different than when they were young.
You are the only one who can decide if your husband deserves one more chance. You don’t mention his age, if you have children, your financial situation or how many years you’ve devoted to this marriage. You would be wise to prepare yourself for life without him. Your own independence, even while staying married to him, can give you a lot of peace of mind.
Good luck and God Bless.
There is no such thing as cheating. You married him for better or worse. He just wants sex with other women…so what. He comes home to you and takes care of you and your child. You should stay with him.
cheater once - cheater forever.
let him go, and be happy. Find someone who truly oves you and deserves you.
GOOD LUCK
I cheated once. She forgave me and I never did it again. Once may be a slip but more than that is a habit that will break up your marriage.
Many people have addictions. That may be his. Not much you can do about it.
You should be asking yourself whether or not you will be able to forgive him and move on. If you truly can’t see yourself trusting him in the future, get out now. He must have been pretty sly in the past, do you think you will recognize this behavior if it starts happening again? I had a man cheat on me years ago. I told him I got over it and trusted him. In my heart, that wasn’t true. I was so distracted about whether or not he was sneaking around that our relationship got progressively worse. I finally got rid of him. It wasn’t worth the trouble. People say a lot of things, but do you really believe in his heart he has changed? Why did he tell you all of this if he was going to correct his bahavior? Why did he feel the need to bring you down too? Is he wanting you to leave him…that way he won’t be the bad guy who initiated the divorce? Think about all this and trust your instincts, I am sure you already have the answer in your heart.
i wouldn’t stay with them. if he’s done it over and over sounds like he’s just trying to pave his way