Cheating Spouse?
If a spouse cheats, what should the other spouse do? What would be the Christian advice in this situation? Can they stay married?
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You may want to stay..and pray for your husband.. You will have to decide before the Lord what is best.. If you have children then it is more difficult..
Try to preserve the marriage if possible, talk to your Pastor..
Stay if you want, or go..it’s up to you.
They CAN stay married, but Jesus does give you an "out" for adultery in marriage.
Slap her in the mouth, then leave.
You are allowed to divorce if your spouse cheats…it’s totally up to you though…if you have faith that they won’t do it again and want to stay you can….if you don’t think it can work you..you can leave.
They can stay married, but it is not recommended because the marriage bond is broken. You will be far better to divorce if you can-even if you have children . Adultery never works out.
Agnostic’s point of view:
Yes they can, but it requires the following:
From the Cheater:
1. True remorse.
2. Full acceptance of their actions, no blaming anyone or anything else!
3. Willingness to atone for their actions.
4. They must seek forgiveness from their spouse.
5. They must be willing to do what the spouse requires in order to regain the spouse’s trust. The cheater must understand that it may be years of hard work before trust is fully restored between the two.
For the Cheated On:
1. Recognize 1-5 above (if they don’t, then they will never be able to fulfill the relationship).
2. Be willing to forgive the spouse.
3. Understand why the spouse cheated (so it won’t happen again).
4. Have a list of things the Cheater must do to restore trust in the relationship.
5. Have the courage, if required, to walk away from the relationship.
Depends, doesn’t it?
The preferred course of action is to remain married. Your remaining married is about you, not your spouse. It is about your commitment, not their’s.
However, God does apparently allow the offended spouse to divorce the offending spouse if they choose to do so.
The Biblical action would be to undergo counselling with your pastor. If that is not successful, then divorce by reason of adultery is permissable.
THe Bible says that fornication is the only grounds for divorce. CHeck out the circumstances and if the spouse wants forgiveness and doesn’t plan on cheating again. ONly then would I recommend working it out.
You can try counseling, forgiving and forgetting and it may be a good choice. If that is the path you choose your husband has a lot of work to do in order to earn trust again.
If he is a chronic cheater and a liar…..you must love yourself enough to let him go and find someone who will truly love you and respect the boundries of your marriage.
Personally I have 4 wives and three husbands and we all have loyalty to each other, we don’t consider it cheating when we are with each other in any combination but to go outside the union is not acceptable and the cheating spouse with my vote and one other can be exiled. LDS forever!!!
To remain married, with the provision the spouse at fault does repent. Divorce is apparently permissible, but God does hate divorce.
If it were you that were guilty, and were repentant, what would YOU want done to you? To be forgiven, or divorced?
Speaking personally, I forgave. In my case, she was NOT repentant. Then, she treated ME as if I had been the guilty party.
Divorce is a living death. Avoid it if you can.
You can stay if you choose but you can also leave a marriage that the spouse has deviled by sleeping with some one else. New Testament "For the cause of adultery a person may get a divorce
Matt.19:3,9
1Cor.7:10,11
! Cor.7:15,
Old Testament was Deut.24:11
Biblically speaking infidelity is the only reasonlisted for divorce, that I have read.. So, being a christian , my advice, if you can make your mariage work , I would try. but HE has to be willing to work at it too! This is no one way street… If you cannot, or if he is unwilling to try ( when that door is closed) then yes , I would file for a divorce..