How do I prepare to do battle with my cheating spouse?
I caught my wife cheating on me about 1 year ago. She met some guy at the gym. I found out about it while checking our cell phone bill online. At first she said he was just a friend. I just like to talk to him, thats all there is to it, she said. I know where that leads, and it did. I caught her coming home from his house several times. She would say that they were just watching TV. I’m so stupid that I believed her. Not really, but I wanted to. Then there came the abrupt end to our physical relations. Her stomach always hurt, she had a headache etc… I planted a voice recorder in her car and found out that everything I had feared was true. There was 2 hours of trashing me and sex talk. Now she has made this all my fault. We have 2 small children that she has tried to turn against me. They don’t respect me, especially when she is home. She is doing all kinds of things behind my back. She has tried to trash me with all her friends and family. What can I do to fight back?
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Do you still have the voice recordings? If so, take ‘em to divorce court.
And plant that recorder BACK into her car.,…….you may get custody.
Wow, I am so sorry you married a whorebag!
Honestly, just walk away. Get a good lawyer for visitation with your kids and walk away from this mess.
Divorce her for adultery..
Try to get custody of the kids..
Keep the house & all property..
Get a lawyer and let them hear your tape of her and this guy. Let them tell you what is the way to handle this.
C.O.U.R.T
hope you still have the tape, take it to the lawyer with other proof of her adultery,and kick her butt out
I agree with Ade. However, for the sake of the children, when you talk with an attorney on this divorce ask about getting custody of the children. One thing, I hope your state has, is the For Kid’s SkeParenting Seminar that all divorcing couples with children are required by law to participate in (separately-one goes one time, the other another time). In that seminar, it is taught that the children are each a part of both parents, and not to put them in hte middle. Any tapes you have, share with your attorney. I wish you and your children the best. Take care.
Take the kids, they shouldn’t be around a mother who is acting worse than a toddler. She’s selfish (that’s the nature of a cheater) and she’s in a fantasy world right now that You can’t shake her out of, but yuo can protect the children. Because she’s an adulteress you will most likely get custody. Since she is trying to sabotage your relationship with your children while she is CHEATING and LYING then she shouldn’t have her children unsupervised until she gets out of this destructive and immature phase.
I’m so sorry for you. but do what you can for the children foremost.
File for divorce, and fight for the kids… she is committing adultery. If the car you planted this device in is in both of your names, I think that you could actually use that tape in court as proof. If its her car then you might not be able to. Pitting your kids against you is crossing the line, the marriage may have been over but the kids don’t need to think their parents hate each other. They will do poorly in school and socially if they are put in the middle of this battle. NO MATTER WHAT NEVER BASH YOUR WIFE TO THEM!! Be a bigger person than she is.
get a laywer asap.
Don’t fight at all. The best revenge in this case (and the best for your family) is to just grant permission for this, kiss her on the cheek and wish her the best of luck in finding a man that suits her. My wife had an affair, and the biggest mistake I made was getting all emotional and argumentative…when I just gave up, backed off and said good luck to her, she suddenly lost her safety net…and her future then became with this guy she didn’t actually get along with all that well. It hurt like hell, don’t get me wrong…but the more you fight, the uglier this well get.
you dont do anything but be the better person. get a lawyer
and battle with her in court. she the one that cheated. so
dont let her make this your fault, you deserve to be happy
time to move on.
get proofs and save them pictures, your recording times and dates at her alleged boyfriend pictures of her car parked in front of his house your phone statements hairs left in her car or items left there by him cigarettes butts with his DNA on it when is time for you to go to court you have ample facts his man matter left on her underpants with his DNA on it
This isn’t what you want to hear but the best thing to do is don’t fight back.Stand your ground and don’t say anything negative about her to any of your friends or family.Usually the truth comes out on it’s own.If someone ask you about the split tell them only the facts and add nothing personal to it.It will make you look better if you don’t trash her reputation.She has already done this herself.To keep your reputation up take care of yourself.When going out dress as if you were going out to dinner.Smile and be cheerful to people.Try to avoid conversations about her in public because you never know who will be listening. All these things are hard to do but it will show that you are taking control of your life and what she did will not drag you down.It will also show her that you are a better person for not playing her game.
Divorce and court are the first steps that need to be taken…also, just don’t beat yourself up about what you don’t think you have to please her…in my opinion, concerning the children, she is very selfish…especially if all this was going on while you are at home with them…waiting for her…and manitpulating their perspective. she isn’t just betraying your marriage as a wife…she is betraying the family….as a mother. If her heart was in the right place she would put the children’s needs before her own…
Your wife has the morality of a flea. Sadly many women today are like that. You need to divorce her ASAP before it get worse.
Divorce her and try to get custody of the kids. Your better off without her.
Dump her. Cheating in itself is bad enough, but the fact that she is doing this is unexcusable. You deserve much better than her. Be sure to get a good lawyer in the divorce. Hang in there bro!