how to forgive your spouse after he cheated.?
Caught my spouse cheating on me with an online hooker last April. He claimed he fell madly in love with her via web cam and send her a substantial amount of money overseas for about 1 year. Fortunately, he has never met her in person. Prior to this incident, he revealed he did webcam with other woman for approx. 5 yrs for self fulfillment. He has come clean and now goes to rehab and sex addicts meetings as well as 12 step. I don’t know if i can forgive him. we have 2 young kids and been together for 19 yrs. financially, I am self sufficient. he wants the marriage to work and claim he still loves me. I still love him but i don’t know if i can forgive or forget what he did. we’re both in counseling.
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It is possible to forgive your husband but it isn’t going to be easy or fast. As long as he is working his program and you continue to work on your side of the issue it is possible for your marriage to recover from this betrayal.
Good luck.
I divorced my first wife after she cheated . Then I forgave her. He will cheat again.
before u can forgive ask your self do u think this will happen again
My first wife got caught cheating, we divorced and we are now both far more happy and have moved on with our lives. there are 200 billion potential partners in this world…open your friggen eyes lady! move on…lifes to short to play games.. find someone better
dump the stuped saahole
Once a cheater always a cheater, dont waste anymore years on him, go get a man that will love you and JUST you!!
So far you’re doing everything you can to make this marriage work. It’s excellent that you are both in counseling, and him in his own program as well. It seems though that he has been having this problem for a very long time, consistently–it’s not like he’s cheated on you once for a one night stand.
You need to decide whether or not you have the love and patience to stick with him and wait for him to get better. If you don’t have it, let him go for a little while, separate–don’t divorce. If over that period of time being on your own you can’t muster enough love and patience let him go for good.
That said, if you do decide to stay with him and wait it out, keep a close eye–he could relapse and start spending money again, maybe even yours. And we don’t want him exposing that stuff to your kids, either.
To answer your question as truthfully as possible I would need to relate my own experience. My husband was a liar and a cheat but the only difference was it wasn’t cyber sex. He would bring women to our home whenever I wasn’t at home ( I was in college full-time and working part-time ). What I’m trying to say is the trust was gone and I
was never able to forgive him.
You should be more concerned about divorcing him.
Sometimes it’s hard to be a woman
giving all your love to just one man
You’ll have hard times
and he’ll have good times
doing things you don’t understand
But if you love him
you’ll forgive him
Even though he’s hard to understand
And if you love him
Oh, be proud of him
’cause after all he’s just a man
Stand by your man
give him two arms to cling to
and something warm to come to
when nights are cold and lonely…….
If you didn’t recognize it, those are the lyrics to Tammy Wynettes’ song Stand by your Man. My head spins every time I hear it. How absurd and crazy to think that a woman would stand by her man, be proud of him and love him after he cheats. The way Tammy describes it, he’s just a man and he can’t help it. I could puke!
I was just curious as to what lead up to the web cam affair? How was your sex life before the affair? Was he turning you away in the bedroom? Pushing the partner away is very common for addicts.
Forgiveness is a choice and takes time. He seems to be sorry because he’s working on the relationship by continuing treatment. You have to decide if you want to forgive him, continue with the relationship, and in doing so recognize and watch for the signs that he may be cheating again. You can be forgiving without being naive.