Have you ever caught your spouse without their wedding ring/band on?
A recent question made be remember something about my ex. After I caught her cheating, I was going through some pictures of a girls trip to Cancun. We had been married 9 years, anyway. I looked on one of her friends photo bucket or something website, that I could still see at the time. Anyway I noticed her without her wedding ring on, it was a Ruby ring on her finger that I had not ever noticed before. I bought her jewelry often so I knew most of her collection. Anyway, I noticed on another GNO that she did not wear her ring. What sucks is that her friends covered her ash! They knew and were married too! Has this or something like this happen to anyone else?
If you do catch them, is the reason or location that may raise suspicion?
Oh, we are not married anymore as of last year.
Listen I not talking about work or washing your hands. I referring to someone that wears it everyday!
Well, like I said a recent queston made me remember. Hey, some people on here have there suspecions, this was a clue I missed.
me…..I thing your being sarcastic, but she always wore it everywhere we went. Parties, trips, dinners, events, out dancing. I just think if it is not normal of your spouse kind of like Ohio said…..somethings up.
me…..I thing your being sarcastic, but she always wore it everywhere we went. Parties, trips, dinners, events, out dancing. I just think if it is not normal of your spouse kind of like Ohio said…..somethings up.
I don’t think some people read my details. It’s about catching them in adnormal behavior. I have moved on and question made me remember this.
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Ok I completely agree with you on alot of what you have said about spouses who don’t wear thier rings when they normally do. I was in a situation recently that really made me evaluate every fiber of this though. My wedding ring was a gift from my husbands Grandmother (it was her and her husbands wedding ring…. he told her to give it to us right before he died…we were married in September and he died in November). I had the ring appraised before the wedding because we had to have it sized. I NEVER take it off, not even when I was pregnant. Then after my daughter was born I started to take it off and leave it off for days…not because I didn’t love my ring but because I would scratch my baby with it. My husband accused me of cheating on him because I wasn’t wearing it. I explained the situation to him and he was forgiving. However I have discovered in my experience that is something me and women who have been cheated on watch closely!
So very sorry to hear it happend to yet another fine gentelman.
Momma_Bear
That sucks man, she really did you wrong. But honestly, you can’t expect HER friends to snitch her out to you.
Not so much man. I would reconsider and try having a talk with her. I have had similar circumstances, but nothing that harsh.
I never wear mine. I hate rings. They are uncomfortable. I hold my fidelity in my heart.
i’ve busted my husband forgetting but usually when we run to the store or something like that and always when i’m with him. he’s never done it deliberately. it was only because we were newly married and he wasn’t used to wearing it. i’d be so pissed if he did it deliberately!
Usually a chick without the ring is a great sign something is going on.
Yes…Just about every day! He can’t wear jewelry at all where he works…He could lose a finger or more….
A ring is a symbol….Just because you are wearing a wedding ring doesn’t mean that you are married…and choosing not to wear your wedding ring…doesn’t mean that you aren’t married…
Dude, you’re not the first man to have your wife crap on you. And you won’t be the last one. Just don’t be the next one.
You’re now divorced from this scourge, so count yourself blessed. Move on, move up, change your selection criteria, and find a good, honest, wholesome woman who wouldn’t do this to you or anyone else.
It seems like your spouse want to send a message to others. It is something most people look at to see if you are married. She is up to something and friends know more than you wish to know.
They’re all 8itches, man. If you buy ‘em jewelry all the time they won’t respect you — because she knows she has you wrapped around her little finger and that she can do whatever she wants….. and you’ll just try harder to impress her.
Then you wonder why the guys that are "jerks" have women hanging all over them? because the women are the ones that are trying to "impress" or " accomodate"
If you ever get re-married, DON’T buy her jewelry, and don’t let her go on "girls" trips to places like Cancun. Girls nights can be going out for a few hours in your hometown, not a long trip away like that.
You know I’m going to be honest, perhaps that’s the reason your spouse did that but I don’t believe that it’s a sign of impending troubles or cheating.
When I first met my spouse (who was then a BF) I never wore jewerly, no rings, bracelets, necklaces and when we wed, I had a time of adjustment of not wearing it, He knows I don’t wear jewerly and to us it’s just a ring it doesn’t make the marriage. It’s a symbol and for us we don’t need a symbol to emphasize our love.
I know my answer is different that the other posters but this is my point of view and I know it may seem odd not to wear a ring 24-7 but I’m getting into the habit of it b/c some people just can’t let it go…I don’t wear it around the house but going out I do. I also don’t wear it running but you definately can tell I’m married b/c I have the two lined tan line–I’m sorry for your circumstances but myself and others I know don’t wear rings but it doesn’t mean anything is going bad in our marriage.
if i saw her out in public without it like you describe that would do it for me. there is only one reason men and women take thier rings off in public and that is to meet people that they dont want to know they are married. it isnt proof of cheating, but it is proof that she is open to something.
Well then that should answer your question when a woman takes her wedding ring off then you know she is looking!
y did u divorce? exactly. If it wasn’t a mutual agreement between both of you (that neglecting to wear your ring is ok) then something’s wrong with that picture! My ex was still "friends" with me when he got married & said how she was ok with him not wearing his ring…..he cheated on her (possibly more than once). I’m not saying everyone who rejects the ring idea is a lying loser, but it’s something to DEFINITLY be careful/concerned about. Unfortuntely, neither one of you can be "right" or "wrong" until you DO have evidence. Marriage is all about faith & trust & compromise! (& SHOULD be about desire, love….) not about some material object. Too many people see it as a contract & being on probation so feel the ring is constricting, at the same time a ring SHOULDN’T be needed, but it has to be mutual!!!!
No but I do take mine off all the time. I play guitar a lot and when I’ve got a guitar in my hands my ring bugs me and feels like it gets in the way so it goes in my pocket. I don’t always remember to put it back on right away either. I’ve gone almost an entire day before I realize I’m not wearing it and will even go run out places. Other than that I leave it on. My wife understands that too.
Now, as far as going on a trip without me and not wearing it, that’s a sign of trouble my friend.
Well I never wear mine my wife hates it. I’m a fire fighter and I can’t wear mine at work so I just got used to not wearing it. If your apart now I would not dwell on old things. Just move on and remember not all women OR men are the same. Trust the one your with!!!
yes my late husband used to take his off in the summer when the skin on his finger peeled …but he would wear it on his right hand
Good Morning,
The answer to your question would be, yes… I’ve seen my spouse without his ring before.
Actually, I’ve seen my husband without his wedding band on many times. And he has seen me without mine from time to time. I take mine off when I’m doing washing dishes, cleaning with chemicals, etc. I take it off when my hands are swollen because it hurts if I don’t. He takes his off for yard work, working on the car, assisting with house cleaning, etc. We also remove our rings when we’re at the gym. Do we get distracted and forget to put them immediately back on sometimes? Sure… Does this mean we’re cheating on each other? No.
The first time I noticed my husband didn’t have his ring on was while I was at work. And yes, I confronted him about it since he has a desk job. This has happened several times since then and the explanation was very common sense…as I mentioned above; and something would distract him.
Just because a person removes their ring does not mean they are being unfaithful. How very sad that someone would instantly think this and possibly throw their marriage away because of it. And how very sad that there is not any communication or trust between the couple.
I am sure that there are those out there who deceive and lie about their marital status but not everyone is behaving in a dishonest way.
I’m sorry that you were hurt in the past and yes, this is something that you will have to work through in order to move past it. However, with thoughts and questions such as this one that you have posted, I’d recommend that you not get into the dating game for a while as it would be unfair to the woman you ask out while you still have reservations and trust issues.
Just to clarify things for you perhaps - my first husband always wore his wedding band and still cheated. Several years later, husband # 2 wore his band but it stopped at the "I do". I said I don’t 4 months later after getting a fist thrown at me. Then met my present husband. And yes, he wears his all the time too, same as me. Difference is we communicate and know what is going on with each other. We trust and love each other. I understand exactly what you said in your original post as well as your updates on the additional details as well.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope that you will eventually meet someone who will love and cherish you for all the days of both your lives and that you can return the same love and affection to her with trust and communication between you for everything.
God Bless