Do you Cheat back after you cought your spouse cheated on you?
So far I haven’t caught my husband cheating on me, I just saw some phone numbers on his cellphone bills that I don’t recognized. I am assuming that those numbers are females because the conversations are alarming. I asked confronted him about it but he never want to admit. He will never admit no matter what I do. So, I was thinking maybe I should cheat back to teach him a lesson. I know it’s wrong but he betrayed me and lied to me so the trust is not there anymore. No matter what I do, I will never ever forgive him for what he did. Although I haven’t caught him in the act, the phone calls are enough evidence that he cheated and was talking to some girl. I don’t need to see him with another girl. Those phone calls are hard evidence that he cheated. The only way I can make myself feel better is to cheat back at him and make him feel what I’ve been through. We’ve been married for 8 yrs. We have a 4 yr old son. Divorce is not my option right now because I am totally dependant on him. I will stay married for the sake of our son but I will cheat on him as many times as I want to. He betrayed my trust and my feelings towards him will never be the same again.
I called the number but is now disconnected. The calls are VERY alarming…like 2, 3, 4 a.m. while he’s at work. And the phone bill was 0.80. He went to TX on Dec. 2007. The phone calls started after that and ended on Feb. 2008. But he still cheated!!
- Widgi Creek Golf Club, Bend, OR Widgi Creek Golf Club is located in: Bend, OR Phone: (541) 382-4449 Website: http://www.widgi.com/golf/hours.cfm Course History: This is a great place to stop if you will be in the Bend, OR area. We fell in love with this course and can't wait to go back. It is extremely beautiful and......
- Start Investing P2P Lending I have been investing in p2p lending on Prosper since July 06. I consider it an alternative asset class and orthgonal to the stock market. I am regularly asked if someone should invest in p2p lending... I think the answer is a loud and clear yes! But before you rush......
- Finally A Tennis Elbow Cure ! tinyurl.com While tennis elbow is currently incurable, there are countless ways of treating this common problem. Some opt for physical therapy and surgery, while others use braces and wraps made specifically for helping those who suffer from tennis elbow. Among the activities that can cause tennis elbow are tennis and......
- Monday Lotto AU 2million Today's Lotto looks the best prospect so far, for a narrow ANY 6 draw. All numbers should be derived from those of the previous 5 draws, if not, it will probably blow out and the next draw will be the tight one. The Saliu Filters look extremely favorable. This reduces......
- Law School Rankings If you are an aspiring law student and you are looking for the top law school around, you might already have a vague ides on what schools those are. But according to reports and according to the Top Law Schools website, here is the 2010 law school rankings: 2010......
- Powerball AU 9million Nice first prize, not so easy to predict result, with sum totals and ANY filters not showing much clear direction. Look for a predominance of small numbers possibly, with a couple coming from way back in the draws. Numbers running HOT: 1 5 12 29 39 40 42 44 Numbers......
- Tennis Game - Tennis Elbow 2009 v1.0c [Part 1 - HD] Gameplay of the tennis game "Tennis Elbow 2009" from www.managames.com . This video is there to show all the new stuff since the initial release of TE2009. Mainly new strikes, new leg animations, gestures, etc... I'm playing against a Defender with 100% in topspin, which is the hardest kind of......
Tagged with: cellphone • conversations • divorce • feelings • females • hard evidence • phone calls • phone numbers • Sake
Filed under: Catch A Cheater
Like this post? Subscribe to my RSS feed and get loads more!
There is an old saying…2 wrongs do not make a right.
you have no idea how immature you sound. you shouldn’t even be a wife if you think this way. if he cheats on you, you LEAVE and get a divorce. you don’t jump in bed and let some man get between your legs to solve the problem. you are VERY immature. there is no excuse for cheating.
Dont sink to his level if thats the situation. If he’s cheating, you leave his sorry a__, be the bigger person… dont cheat!
No!
Why? Two wrongs don’t make a right. Thank goodness my hubby did not resort to childish games when his ex wife cheated on him. Both of us never cheated in the 1st marriages on our ex’s, so we have no desire to do it now.
And your "revenge" will hurt no one but yourself. Think about your 4 yr old child - what exactly do you think your and your husband’s actions regarding cheating are teaching him????
To be completely honest with you, I do NOT suggest that you attempt cheating on him in revenge. That will cause so many more problems to your relationship. And instead of confronting him in an upfront, accusing way.. talk it out with him. Tell him to be honest about it, or you guys could go to therapy?
Also, if you haven’t already, you could always call the numbers you don’t recognize from a different phone number and actually hear for yourself if it’s someone he’s cheating with.
How did you hear the conversations from those numbers?
Well, he might not be cheating, you don’t have much evidence.
If he is, I don’t think cheating back is a good thing to do at all. Divorce is a good thing to do. Cheating back will make things much messier
Harriet
I agree, two wrongs don’t make a right. Look at it this way, you can hold it over his head that he cheated on you, but if you do it, you won’t have squat. Just be the bigger person and stop back biting. You don’t know for sure that he even cheated, phone calls are not hard evidence. If that is the way you think maybe you need a little help. He could be talking to new people at work. Jesus at least wait to see him in the act.
Phone calls are not enough evidence to prove he cheated. Sounds like you have bigger issues than finding some phone bills. You have trust issues! If he did cheat, why would you cheat back, that just means you sink to his level.
This section is for adults - please try the kiddies section!
Two wrongs don’t make a right. You are just looking for an excuse AND you are just as bad as he is (IF he cheated, and you don’t KNOW) because you are USING him.
Hello , honey
, I would kill him on the spot ..BUT , however that is just in theory because if it would happen , I would do nothing more than just , turn my back on him and never ever even waste ONE more sec on him …However , you mentioned , you are , dependant on him right now and are not able to .I SAY YOU ARE able to do whatever you wanttttttttttt!!!! Even though this will sound like such a cliche…That is a far cry from the hard reality…You can make it !! Congratulations on your son by the way , I can’t wait to have kids of my own.( But adopted LOL) …NOW…
Awwww , well , I am not married , nor have any kids for that matter but , I AM engaged to my wonderful fiancee who loves me more than anything …Not exactly the marriage experience but we’ve been through a lot ( I will tell you the more immature , version of what I would do if I found out he cheated me , which he never would no matter what…)
Step two : You kept repeating that , those phone calls were enough to make you ”realize ”’ that he IS cheating on you…Look , honey , I am NOT telling you to be the indulgent one here because I myself have STRONG feministic tendencies almost all the time…BUT , there is a BUT !…I do not know what it was that you heard on that voicemail..or whatever..But , if it was inconclusive , I wouldn’t jump to conclusions if I were you and I would let him explain himself..Not giving him ANY chance to explain himelf is NOT fair …And you know it …If you were 100% sure that he did , then you wouldn’t have posted this question in the first place…Just hear him out and if you will STILL not be convinced then you will have to take it from there which leads us to step three:
3: The part in which you mentioned , cheating back on him with all due respect ,
It’s a SENSELESS thing , you are being hasty and impulsive !!There is no such thing , as that..In THE CASE that he DID cheat..Then do you realize what this would mean !? It would mean using your BODY , which is SACRED for you ( or should be…) in order to give him attention and make HIM suffer ..HE IS NOT WORTH it if he cheated !! It would be a total lack of respect towards YOURSELF , your image , your body and , your DIGNITY !!!!!!!!!…If he did this then you will kick his sorry ass , out the window and there , done.!!
4: I don’t think there is NO way for you to liberate yourself from the guy if you truly want to !You have LEGS you have HANDS , and you are healthy I suppose…?! Then you can work , and get yourself OUT OF IT From there on you and your husband will find a way for joint custody and there must be SOME alternative for the child while you would be working and like this it would come to an end.So , don’t tell me it’s impossible !!!!
CAUSE IT AINT !!!
Hope this helped a little !!
G’day !
Ariel
P.S:( Don’t take this as an insult I can only imagine how it must feel , the humiliation and stuff , but GROW UP ! Shit happens honey !!And you have a son…It seems like you are more of a kid yourself..)HEY IT COULD HAVE BEEN 2000 $ too ! just hear him out !Just cause he talked a lot this month it does NOT mean that he was doing some chick on the phone…Jesus christ !!!!
I feel so sorry for your son.
First off, a phone bill is not hard evidence that he cheated. It may be the case, but it may not. Chances are, if you are so concerned about it than it might just be the case. Usually we have a reason for suspicions.
Secondly, cheating back is going to do nothing but make a bad/sticky situation worse. You may think it will allow you to feel vindicated will make him see what he’s done to you…but often, it just cause everything to blow up even more, and it’s YOUR SON who will be caught in the middle of this crazy mess.
If divorce is not an option for you, then honestly, I would advise you to do everything in your power to make this marriage as GREAT as possible. Do everything you can to be a wonderful, loving wife and mom. Then, even if things do go bad, you know it’s not your fault.
I would also try to get him talking about things. But, if you come out angry and accusatory, he’s just going to shut down. I know it’s hard, and it hurts, but you need to try to keep everything as close to normal as you can, for the sake of your son. And, if things absolutely cannot work out then you may need to consider divorce. It is often worse for children to have their parents stay together when they hate each other or fight all the time, or both of them are cheating on each other….My best friends husband HATES his father now, simply because his parents chose to stay together for the sake of the children. He says that he always wished his dad would have let years before he actually did. Because it was sooo much harder seeing them fight all the time.
I don’t think Evel Kinevel could have made the leap you just did. All you have are some bad phone numbers that doesn’t mean he cheated. If your going to confront him about it, fine, but don’t jump to conclusions before you have strong enough evidence.
Besides if he cheated and you cheat back your just as bad as he is.
If he didn’t cheat and you do who’s going to have egg on their face?
Really sorry to hear this, I know you are hurting and dont trust him anymore, but do you really think cheatin back will solve anything, say you do it and tell him, your just goin to add fuel the fire even more,, if he did or didnt do cheat, this will make give him even more reasons, The only person that will get hurt is your son at the end. This is a horrible marriage, you really need to find a way to end it, and move on, because life is to short, The risk of gettin a disease or something isnt worth it, move on dont stay in a loveless, marriage.