Later, after the affair has been going on awhile, he often starts finding fault with the wife as a defensive mechanism (i.e., to justify the affair in his mind).

Cheating husbands often lose interest in domestic activities, such as spending time with the kids, fixing up the house, lawn care, etc.

Cheating husbands may have a change in sexuality (i.e., more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.

The cheater’s relationship with his family will almost always change, that is, he will tend to become more distant, cold, or fault-finding (i.e., he starts to blame the family, especially the wife, for his behavior).

Financial changes may become noticeable. The wife may notice unexplained credit card charges or withdrawals from the family’s checking account.

Grooming habits change. A cheating husband may buy a new wardrobe or a lot of new clothes, or may just suddenly start to become more attentive to his personal appearance. The wife may notice frequent bathing, more careful grooming, a new cologne, a new exercise program, etc.

Physical clues to the affair may start appearing, such as lipstick on shirt collars, perfume odors on shirts or jackets, secretion stains on underwear. Or the wife may discover pieces of paper with notes or phone numbers, unexplained match books, receipts, condoms, etc.

The husband’s driving pattern may change. The wife may find the car needs gas more often than before or she may monitor the car’s odometer and find the husband is putting a lot of unexplained miles on the car. Brown recommends that suspicious wives keep track of the mileage on their husband’s car and even monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. "Keep a calendar and note the times," he says. "This should help establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime."

On occasion, the wife may notice her husband whispering into the phone. He may look alarmed when he sees her observing him and may hang up suddenly. There may be abrupt hang ups when she answers the phone herself. (Want to know who called? If you have touch tone dialing in most parts of the U.S. you can dial *69 to get the number.)

The wife may find unexplained, repetitive charges on her husband’s mobile phone bill. Often these will be calls her husband made right after leaving home in the morning and right before coming home in the evening. According to Brown and most other PI’s, the mobile telephone bill is one of the best ways to catch a cheating husband. The reason is that the bill for mobile services lists every single call made (unlike a bill for conventional phone services, which list only long distance charges). Thus, if you suspect your husband is cheating, and he doesn’t have a mobile phone, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to buy him one.

Come on sister…boys grow on trees and there are thousands just waiting for you to pick them. Don’t waste too much time on a guy that cheats on you.

Body language, the way he talks to you…. there’s a lot of changes.

My best advice is sit down and talk. tell him how you feel and what you would like to do.