Why do people tell you not to tell the wife when you know he is cheating?

This includes family and friends. If I were in her shoes, I would want to know all of the facts. I may or may not stay, depending upon whether I could live with what was going on or I had a boyfriend myself ( just kidding). Anyway, why do people not tell you? It seems dishonest, exactly what the cheating spouse is.

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