Is it cheating if your spouse signs up with a nasty website online?
I recently found out that my husband signed up with a dirty website. I don’t like that at all and I would like to know if it is considered cheating. I am disturbed over this especially with him lying about it.
It’s a swingers website where he charged his credit card for a membership. This is a website where you can find local "friends."
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my husband did this ….
maybe you need to see a therapist so you keep your wits about you. Therapy will help you figure out what direction you want your life going into.
its fantasy
what kind of website? A porno website? A swinger website? Why not join him and share his fantasy?
I guess that would largely depend on what exactly he is doing on this website?
Well it is kind of cheating but if you see him with another woman that he met on the site then he would be cheating on you.
Its not cheating , the fact that he’s lying to you sucks though .
Its the start of it, he must have intentions to do something, but before you go of in one try to find out why hes doing it…maybe he just wants a change and if thats the case, change on him, make things different if you are very routine…dont let your emotions get in the way jus yet, jus find out why hes doing it, and if its for some sort of need, then you try and forfill it…
No, it is NOT cheating. Just get over it. Ask him if you can look at it together.
I don’t think is cheating, but it is disrespectful and offensive toward YOU. He shouldn’t have done that, he’s not a bachelor anymore, he is a MARRIED MAN! Why does he need to do that??? He’s acting like an inmature teenager, I’m sorry…
Porn? No. Get over yourself deary…porn is necessary in society. He doesn’t think less of you, he is just male. Get yourself some pics of hot guys and post them on your computer or something if you want to give him a piece of his own medicine. Fantasize yourself, it goes both ways deary.
Now, if it is a swingers website or a dating website…I might be more than a little concerned.
I would not consider it cheating. But I think you have a right to say something to him and let him know you do not approve of it.
Did he lie about it or just not tell you about it? Big difference.
You guys need to sit down and have a talk.
I don’t think it’s cheating, however, I do think it’s disrespectful to you. You need to have a serious talk with him and how he should only be looking at you. If it’s a dating website, that’s a different story. If it’s a dating website, than that’s cheating and you need to see a marriage counselor, ASAP, if you wanna stay together.
Anything that makes you uncomfortable could be consider cheating. Does your husband know how you feel? If not talk to him if he loves you he will respect your feelings.
The lying is and indication that he could be doing something he shouldn’t. Is he making dates with women? If he’s just browsing and he is willing to share his password and informaiton with you, then you shouldn’t be too worried.
I would not consider it to be cheating but if my husband did it often I would get concerned! If he is fantasizing about other woman from the websites, that may be considered Emotional infidellity! If u believe in God, pray about it! Good luck at least u have a husband!
He needs extra excitement better do something before is to late.
It’s not cheating, but if he has to lie to you about it, then it’s a problem for him and you.
I assume you mean a porno site ? No its not cheating its just gross and disgusting. I would be disturbed too but truth is this is the fate of most women. I would flip out that he is spending our money for some bs like that.
You already have your answer.If your husband didn’t think it was cheating,he wouldn’t feel the need to lie about it.Any type of sexual activity that deals with a woman or women other than you is cheating,no if’s,and’s or but’s about it.
But before you lose your composure,pull him up and try to talk about it,tell him how you feel about his joining a sex website.he will either see how much it hurts you and try to share his fantasies with you or he will continue to deny it.Just remember that joining a sex website could lead him to seek the real thing outside of your marriage,so it’s best to deal with this now.
You have my best wishes.
I can only speak from personal experience. When I was married, and I say was, I did the same thing and I tried to hide it. It turns out that it was not the only thing I was hiding. I was also having affairs. Of course this ultimately ended my marriage.
It’s not that he views sites like that you need to worry about it’s that he lie’s about it that you need to address.
It makes me wonder why he feels the need to lie, is it that he feels guilty because he is doing something that he thinks is inappropriate, or that you make him feel the need to hide it because you don’t allow him to be open with you.
My husband views sites like that and we talk about it, we don’t keep secrets. We have been together over 25 yrs. and have always been open and truthful with each other about everything.
Viewing sites like that is not cheating, it only becomes cheating if they take it to the next level.
There are two ways to cheat, physically and emotionally, as long as he is only viewing it’s only a fantasy, it’s not cheating.
And a little piece of advise from a Happily Married Wife, don’t make him feel the need to hide anything from you, keep an open mind and communicate openly with him. Marriage is hard enough you don’t need to put up road blocks!
I wouldn’t call it cheating but it is definitely an assault on your relationship. He apparently knew you did not like this type of thing since he "lied" about it.
The reality is that porn is hugely popular on the Internet and 90% of it is aimed at Hetero men. As a male it is very tempting to visit these sights. They are designed and marketed excellently to capture a mans attention and pull them in.
The question then becomes about you and your husband and your relationship. Is he frustrated? Is he just a "dirty old man"? or is this an occasional trip down fantasy lane for him, sort of like blowing off steam, which ALL sexually active men partake in from time to time, not saying it is right but it is fact.
If you love him and know he is at heart a good man, then letting something like this be the thing to drive a wedge between the two of you would be tragic.
If you love him, help him understand how it hurt you and work with him on ways to address urges that might cause him to want to visit a site like that.
Simply blowing up over the issue without handling it in a committed, mature way will help neither of you.
If it was just porn and dirty pictures, I would not be upset. But the fact that it is to seek other swinger "friends" means that he’s looking.