Signs of a Cheating Boyfriend?
When I first started dating my boyfriend I knew that there was a chance that some girl he slept with for the hell of it a year before we met might have had his kid, the test came back positive as his. Now, I’m having these serious doubts about his faithfulness. We share a cell phone plan and he’s had a lot of odd numbers that he says he can’t rember whose they are and he racked up some serious credit card debt in a couple months, but he has a really good paying job and I even help with the bills. I’m not sure he’s cheating, but he had just seemed to be really off the past several weeks and I like to know what I should look for. Especially, since we’re supposed to get married and I am pregnant now. I don’t want to marry a cheater.
The baby’s mother absolutely hates me. Also, she was never a gf she was just someone he slept with for the hell of it. I do know that he wants to sign away parental rights. One bc he doesn’t want his other kid’s bad manners to rub off on ours and two bc the child has being calling someone else Dad for almost two years. To put it nicely the mom is a hoe. She’s married, living with a guy (supposed to be engaged), and fools around with countless others. She is not even fit to be a mother and she’s getting ready to have her fourth child and all of them have different father’s. The only one she’s knows the father for is the third one which is my fiance’s and she wouldn’t have even known that if he didn’t force her to have a paternity test.
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You can confront him. Ask him if something is going on and ask about the numbers on the bill. You should be able to communicate with him on this if you are in a relationship. I’m sure he’s lying about "not remembering". You know he knows who the numbers are for. Maybe he thinks you’ll overreact or get mad if you find out who he’s calling, and he is trying to hide it to avoid an argument with you. Which means, it could be something bad, or something he sees as no big deal. He’s not doing anything wrong, he just doesn’t want to bring it to your attention because it might be a big deal to you & bring on a fight.
I hate this, when guys hide stuff to avoid fighting, when they don’t even know you’ll get mad in the first place. It’s the sneaky stuff, and lying that gets them in trouble!!!
Maybe the credit card stuff is wedding plans, baby stuff, engagement ring, honeymoon???? I guess you would see these things though.
Chances are the numbers are from the girl or her parents. I don’t know their relationship or his with the child. My guess is that’s what it is. I don’t know what kind of person she is, her feelings towards you two, your relationship, your new baby coming. But it could be him getting stuff for his baby, child support, but you would have to know about a court date, he could be calling her to make plans to spend time with his child. His being off could be her wanting him to spend more time with the kid, and him not want to, or him wanting to and her not letting him??? Maybe he is scared to bring it to your attention because he loves you, you’re getting married and having a baby, and he doesn’t want this girl to come off (to you) as more important than you, your baby and your life together.
I think it’s just that. Ask him about it. Tell him it’s ok, you will support him with whatever he decides to do. If it is about seeing his kid, and the calls are to the mom. You’re his partner, you’ll be there. It will be your step-child, if they even have a relationship. I don’t know. Maybe he is just overwhelmed about this other kid, you guys getting married, your baby. Just ask him. Be supportive, try not to freak out if it is the girl, you know he’ll have to talk to her throughout the childs life.
I can’t guess who the numbers are if it’s not the old gf. You have to ask him, if he lies, denies or won’t tell you, than he is not being honest with you and you deserve better. You can also be the crazy gf and call the numbers on the bill!!! Look them up on anywho.com.
Just sit down and talk to him, tell him how you feel, tell him you think he’s been acting strange and you want to know what’s going on.
Good luck to you both.
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I think you "gut" would tell you how you really feel about him, whether his being weird is actually cheating. If you’ve talked this through with him, and he is not cheating, and you believe that’s not what it is, (and I hope not) you can work through this woman being a problem. And if you’re right, his strangeness, could absolutely be the stress from this woman.
Well, it may be her, and she is just starting sh**. Trying to become a problem between you guys. Since she is how she is and you guys are stable. If she hates you, that could be it. She is jealous. Why can’t it be her instead of you with him. If she doesn’t like who she’s with, she just wants someone to take care of her kids, maybe she wanted it to be him. And, like I said, she just wants to start something, just to break you up. (she’s not happy, she doesn’t want anyone else to be??) Crazy as that may be… she just might like to start fights and surround herself with drama.
She’s just trying to cause problems because she can’t get her life sorted out, whether she wants/likes him or not, she doesn’t want him to be happy. And could be using this kid as a pawn to stir things up. ???
did you ever figure out what the calls were?? You don’t sound distressed like he was cheating, so I hope you guys are cool. Concentrate on your baby, and your relationship, and making that stronger. He’s going to need a lawyer to deal with the other situation. (I don’t know what’s involved in giving up rights.) I think that might p*ss her off as well. I don’t know why she had the baby, (since she had many already, and was not with your bf) but that’s a whole other issue. I mean it’s too bad that kid won’t know his father (or doesn’t get a good one!), but I think your father is who raised you. Also, another issue. But not fair to those kids, that that is how she is. (would you two consider raising his baby from her?? Giving it two stable parents???)
You are going to be the one by his side. You and your baby are his future, so work on that, and you’ll have to work through all of this together. Again, best of luck.
i think he might be cheating. almost every ex boyfriend i’ve had has cheated on me. i even had one cheat on me at his best friends wedding with a bridesmaid. and another with an ex girlfriend that wound up being pregnant. just be careful. you are right. you dont want to end up marrying a cheater
Take him on Maury, embarrass the hell out of him, and have him take a lie detector test. Oh yea, and don’t forget to ask Maury to have a "sexy decoy" to distract him. Your boyfriend’s name, whatever that might be, spells "cheater."
Well call the numbers. My friend di it and they are al girls. Then if they are dump him.
Probably a cheater.
But why are you so harsh on her? So what if she’s had four different babies with four different men–you, my dear, are well on your way to being her. So you don’t want to marry a cheater, but you darn sure want to make a baby with one? With marriage at least there is divorce, with a child, you’ve got him in your life forever.
I think there could be an issue with the ex and the child. After all, he’s going to marry you and you will be that child’s stepmother. Maybe there’s a control issue there. (?) A former boss of mine was cheating on his wife. She caught him by wearing a wig and renting a car. She followed him. He never suspected a thing…wouldn’t he be on the look-out for HER car or a woman that LOOKED like his wife? So simple, it’s genius. He was a restaurant manager with 3 or so kids and had been sleeping with a bartender who was barely legal to drink. His wife left him and took the kids. He is now married to that girl he cheated with. Go figure. I pity you being stressed like this could harm your pregnancy. Get it out of your system the calmest way possible. Go to reverselookup.com and research the numbers. They won’t show up if they are cell numbers unless you pay extra but if they are homes, listed numbers, they’ll be there. Also, if you are on the credit cards with him, you can go online, check out the statements, highlight the charges one by one. Sometimes they offer a copy of the detailed bill. Good luck with your pregnancy. Also, babies are no reason to marry. Why be stuck with one you don’t trust. Wait it out if need be. Or, if he has any money, marry him, divorce him, and take it all….but only if he is a cheat. Otherwise, I seriously believe in marriage only for love for a lifetime. God Bless, Kiddo.
Staying out too late and later than normal.Private and blocked phone calls.phone calls in the middle of the night.Leaving the room to talk on the phone.Canceling out on planned activities.
What kind of man would sign over parental rights to a woman that’s as bad a mother as you say she is? Maybe your biggest concern should be how he’s gonna be as a father, not if he’s gonna cheat.
he sounds like a perfect candidate for Jerry Springer show
It doesn’t make sense to me why dad would want to sign parental rights over to his other baby. You say she’s a “hoe” and is not fit to be a mother. Why would any good man want to sign his parental rights over to someone like that in the first place? Yes. He’s cheating. Call the numbers. You’ll find out for yourself.
I think your wasting your time and he sounds like a asshole to me and is going to turn around and do the same shit to you…Why would any good man want to turn over there parental rights of his own child to be with someone who you described as a unfit mother and this is a sign to you that he is not the one for you….The one thing we female always say is that ” he was never like this when we met and he never showed this side of him” but God always show us a signs but we just fail to acknowledge them…And the answer to your question YES is ass is cheating…call all the numbers on the phone bill and you will be surprised of the shit you will find out… Before you call those numbers just know that your in for some heart ache.