so many always believe in the "ex-is-crazy" story?
i read and hear so often that the new spouse usually says, his/her ex is crazy, no good, cheated, only wants money and so on. but when you ask, how they know, its usually: he/she told me all about it. now i am not saying you should doubt your partner, but arent there often two sides of the story? anyways, does it make the new spouse feel better about themselves to talk bad about the ex ? and cant they understand if they were left behind for someone else they might act exact the same way as the ex? opinions?
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I totally agree with you. but then my husband really doesnt talk bad about his ex’s…everything ends for a reason. But to answer the question, i think people do it if they are hurt by that person. its easier to say " the bitch was crazy" than " she really hurt me"
That is true, there are always two sides to every story. Thats good you clued in on that one
If you leave someone with a terrible temper, trust me they can act very crazy. Anyone who doesn’t think this is possible is being very short sighted.
My ex IS crazy! Yes, I’ve noticed most people say that. It’s pretty easy to tell if they are just saying that or if it’s true. One good way is to ask about previous partners. If he or she thinks all of their exes are "psycho", it’s probably not true and I wouldn’t be in a hurry to be the next person they say that about.
It does make them feel better to speak about thier EX’s that way.
They even start to believe the ‘stories’ they have made up about thier EX’s also…sad, huh ?
I personally think that there are three sides to every story: one person’s story, the other person’s story and the truth!! Chances are the people that dwell on those kinds of things are just bitter and will make up any excuse in their mind to tell themselves it wasn’t their fault at all. I think and ex is an ex and if you can’t leave it in the past then you shouldn’t be having relationships…. no one wants to hear those stories anyway!!
I get along with my man’s ex….he can’t stand her, she can’t stand him…he was younger then, as they broke up over 10 years ago, but from what I hear, he was an azzhole to her….he was NOT perfect by any means.
He is good to me though. Some people just aren’t meant to be together…that is all…..
yes it’s true. But, in my case it was good to tell people about my problems with my ex. It just lifted all the weight off my chest that once people knew the truth of what a loser she really was. Don’t take me the wrong way, she really was crazy and schyco! There was enough evidence before me and her dated that supported it. But then there’s that old saying "Love is blind!". It was a phase that I’m sure everyone goes through. After a while you just kinda forget about them and find better stuff to talk about. But it does take time!
Actually- my husband’s ex is crazy! I have heard this from him but also from several neutral parties- mutual friends that they had while they were together. I have also experienced this first hand. Really, I honestly think she does have some psych. problems. She did cheat and I have seen the pictures to prove it. She does only want money- check out her Yahoo Personals page- she’ll tell you! She also made that clear when she ran up $17,000 in debt on my husband’s credit cards. He did his own share of creating the bills, but he worked 2 jobs and thought those bills were being paid- I guess he was at fault for trusting her?
My husband was the one left behind, she cheated ran him into debt that he thought he was paying off and then she packed up and left after he caught her. So, yes he understands wanting to act crazy, but he’s the bigger person and doesn’t!
She may not be crazy in every aspect of her life but when it comes to my husband, she really shows her crazy side.
Everyone reacts differently to past relationships, maybe this is just her way of acting on how she feels about this one.
i think everyone has that kind of relationship once in there life (the crazy ex) i know my ex was CRAZY lol usualy when people say it they meen it, they are obiviously a ex for a reason and not their wife or husband…i think your reading way to much into this.
I wonder how many people have referred to me as the crazy ex…
If we say an ex is crazy, it may be true but other than a case of true mental instability, it may just be a way of saying other things – "She wouldn’t – or he wouldn’t – move out of the house so that I can have it to raise the kids!" "He or she did nothing but watch sports on tv" He or She couldn’t cater to my every whim" and so on. Remember when you hear someone called crazy, unless there is a real physical or mental reason for that, they may simply be joining the ranks of others who have been called or considered crazy, like Christopher Columbus, Aristotle, and Jesus Christ himself.
my ex isn’t crazy-just too old!
my husbands’ 2 exes ARE crazy because i have seen and heard enough from too many ppl to not believe them!i just avoid them when possible.