signs of cheating spouse such as using cell phone and hanging up as soon as i get near?

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1. ravid says:

   July 31, 2009 at

   I had a similar situation with my ex. In stores he would abruptly end his call or just hang up without saying bye if he saw me. He even did that when he came over. He would say he is going to the store across the street or supposedly have bad phone reception and needed to go outside. If he saw me come out the house he would walk in an opposite direction or suddenly end the call. If that was not the first time your husband did that I would be suspicious. He is talking to someone or involved in something that he does not want you to hear about. Ask him about his abruptly ending calls to see his reaction. If he gets defensive that means he is hiding something. The only thing you can do is start to track him. Take note of how many times he allegedly goes to the store after work and how long he takes to come home. Also take note of any other odd behavior like the phone calls. Then confront him about it. It is the only way to find out.
2. Stephanie says:

   July 31, 2009 at

   As one of my friends says…"If it smells like shit, and looks like shit, than it must be shit."

   I’d probably be suspicious of him too. Yes, there are ways to see who he’s talking too…..and he’d never know it…..

   But what you should do to see is…first find out who it was he was talking too, take notes anytime you think he’s behaving strange, go back and compare things if you have to later on. Compare bills to the notes….

   Just follow your gut instinct……its usually right.

   I was going to email you, but I’ll just list it here…

   I don’t know what carrier he is, but I have cingular. You can log onto Cingular and go into your account. There is a listing of all calls made, the times they are made. Check out those numbers, especially if you don’t recognize them. If there are any numbers listed around the time that you were suspicious of him (Wal-mart) then call the numbers, or do a search. They are probably cell phone numbers too. I’m sure all the other carriers do the same thing….

   You have to remember, he can delete the call log from his phone, and he may be the one that gets the cell phone bill, and it may not be a detailed billing. If its not, call your carrier and have them change it over to a detailed billing and make sure you get the mail for a few months, to watch his cell phone activity.

   Good luck and I hope its all nothing more….than a dropped call from a buddy.
3. Nort says:

   July 31, 2009 at

   He was in the hunting section because he was hunting. It was not big game, just a little on the side. Demand to see his cell so you can see who he called. If he refuses, he is definately cheating
   I don’t know your situation, so I have no advice as to what to do if he is.
4. Allie says:

   July 31, 2009 at

   Well maybe his phone did drop, check it if you want. Just because he asks if you need things from the store doesn’t suggest cheating it suggests he is being thoughtful. As for ’smelling funny down there’, what does he usually smell like? I mean it can vary depending on what they eat. If you think you have something why haven’t you gone to the dr. yet? If you do and he gave it to you, then yes you have a serious problem.
5. your_uncle_dodge says:

   July 31, 2009 at

   Actually, did you call to find out who the guy was? It is not good that he would cover up with a guy there, meaning he thinks you’re pressuring him. But if he is cheating, you should be able to figure it out soon enough. Get yourself checked out for STDs asap so you can ease your conscience that little bit.

   If he’s NOT cheating and you come flying in with accusations, he would act distant like he is now. So if you’ve been unfairly pinging on him, he likely feels you’re too jealous. But let it go for a short while, then take a day off work when you think he’s getting a rendezvous down and see. If he’s a cheater, dump him like a Twinkie wrapper.
6. joan_of_freakin_arc says:

   July 31, 2009 at

   follow your woman’s intuition on this one. check the cell, and the numbers, call the number and if a woman answers he is probably cheating on u. my ex would answer his cell than go outside to talk on it. he also came home smelling a bit funny once, a month later he left me for her. i of course was in denial and did not quite pick up on it. never thought he was capable of such a deed.
7. kittymom28 says:

   July 31, 2009 at

   First of all I would get ahold of his phone bill or his cell phone and see if any of the calls are from a woman? Then if you to have a joint check account or even diffrent get a hold of them for the past few months and see if anything is diffrent. If he owns a car keep an eye for the milage is diffrent. If he is working out more using a new calone. If he is working late and you don’t see his paycheck going up. And the best thing of all is go with your gut instinct. It is usually correct.
8. nfgatcer says:

   July 31, 2009 at

   he might be planning your death, if he is a hunter…………..

   Why would he cheat? are you not worthy? or are you watching too many mystery theater? You must have some reason for thinking he would even cheat, your husband, the man who picked you for the rest of his life………….is this really who he is? not to respect you?…………………..then he is cheating, catch him in the act then take him to the cleaners! That will learn him!
9. coffee_lover says:

   July 31, 2009 at

   This type of odd behavior (unfortunately) does not give us answers, it’s perplexing. I went through this for almost two and a half years before he got caught. I hated it because I knew, I just couldn’t prove anything. It’s especially hard when they have a career where they travel, talk on the phone a lot, etc…

   I recommend calling him out on any bullsh*t that comes up, and letting him know that he is not slick. If you don’t say anything, it will cause him to think it’s okay or that you are oblivious to what’s happening. There’s only one problem with this…you have to be prepared to act if you catch him, or if he admits anything. Otherwise what’s the point? Good luck.
10. stergre1975 says:

    July 31, 2009 at

    Just ask him what’s going on and what you have been observing. Ask him what would he would do if you behave this way everytime you was on the cell and he came around.
11. family fan says:

    July 31, 2009 at

    well have your carrier of the phone send you a copy of the bill with all the calls on it and you will have the numbers or at night when hes asleep check his incomeing calls on his cell phone and his out going calls , it will have the numbers listed if he hasent deleted them but the bill will have every number to and from if you dont reconize the number than thats probley the number you need to call hope this helps
12. emtb9 says:

    July 31, 2009 at

    If you think he is cheating on you and he has given you reason to believe he is cheating, not to mention you think he has given you something, theres a good possibility he is. Can you get his cell phone and go back through his calls made, or calls recieved? I did this with my exhusband, I actually called the cell phone company, and asked them to search for one particular number, either calls made, or calls received on the bill… needless to say, the number was on there many times… part of the reason he is now my ex. Best of luck to you!
13. Lulu says:

    July 31, 2009 at

    If you feel it in your heart and gut that he is cheating then he is a woman intuition in never wrong. And cheaters always play this games, just get out before he does he give you some kind of decease even if you love him once a cheater always a cheater. Make a better life for yourself and your child. If it smells fishy its because it is. Just remember that many women go through so don’t feel bad there are good men out there and am sure there is one for you. Good luck
14. gina B says:

    July 31, 2009 at

    yes them are signs… if u think u got a disease go to the doctor to confirm it and then confront him… hes not to be trusted
15. ladrhiana says:

    July 31, 2009 at

    check and write down the numbers from the cell phone phone book, and who they’re listed as. also get his recently dialed numbers
    then look up the numbers on the internet and find out who they belong to.
    verify them all against his phone list.

    if you think he gave you something, go to the doctor…
    get diagnosed and treated

    do the all the common sense stuff, step by step.
    if he’s cheating, call him on it.
    tell him to stop the "walk away" phone calls
    tell him that he looks suspicious.
    if he just tries harder to hide it, then tell him that you KNOW he’s up to something - and it had better stop
    if it still keeps up, leave.
    if he comes to his senses, he’ll beg you back
    if not, you’re better off
16. Big C says:

    July 31, 2009 at

    Here is what Sherlock Holmes would do.

    1. You can get a copy of the cell phone bill. It will have the number and time of calls. You can go to the store or call the cell phone company. Now over the phone they might request a password so go to the store. Then if you call the phone number, call from a pay phone and ask for a guy if a girl answers. That way you will not alert your husband’s mistress.

    2. Check his underwear. After sex most guys are so dumb but see if he has any semen stains there. Check his underwear everyday and you can see that on the honest days his underwear will be clean.

    3. Smell his clothes too. If he said he was at the office all day and goes to a bar you can probably smell the cigarette smell in the clothes. Along with any perfume smells too.

    4, Check his odometer or mileage on the car. See the mileage each day. Then on the days he may stay late and supposedly comes straight home you can see if any mileage difference.

    5. On the suspicious days check the car out without him knowing like in the trunk so see if he has any change of clothes there.

    6. Check the credit card for charges to a motel room. or withdrawal from the checking account. You will have to match withdrawals for the days he acts strange.
17. KEISHA L says:

    July 31, 2009 at

    First off guys aren’t that smart about things like that.. But heres the problem.. If you start doing all of this and it’s nothing well your going to ruin the trust in your relationship. Just because your marriage to him does not mean you are entitled to hear everything he discuss with his friends. Privacy is what it is called.. and smelling funny down there? No one smells like roses believe me. Your private parts are covered up all day,so how you you think it smells? Now you have no proof he’s cheating right? Go to the doctor first,then worry about the rest later.Now answer these questions Does he work later alot? If so does his paycheck reflect it. Is he gone alot meaning going to the store and gone for hours? Do you know the friends he talks to? Has he ever cheated on you before? Are you a insecure person? Now after all these questions have been answered. Do the grown up thing and sit down and discuss this with him. The snooping crap has to be the last resort. Because if it’s just your mind playin tricks on you your husband will be hurt,pissed and may never forgive you… If he was cheating why would he be so dumb to answer or call her while you guys are at the store together. That is just plain dumb. Tell how your feeling how him being secertive first. If his behaviors gets worse then go with the looking through the cell bill
18. sweet granny 06 says:

    July 31, 2009 at

    he sounds like he’s cheating why else would he erase the call’s