How to catch a cheating spouse red-handed?
I think my husband is cheating one me. My cell phone bill has given me tons of evidence to support this, however, he denies it and so does she. I have already installed a keylogger on my computer, and so far it hasnt revealed much of anything, except my husband is obsessed with porn, but, yes, I have made mental notes of all passwords and will check his emails frequently. What I am looking for is for a sure fire way to catch him and confirm my suspicion or to ease my mind. If anyone has any ideas that have worked for them, please share. Oh, please avoid recommending buying books or downloadable advice you have to pay for. My husband keeps a strict budget and I would have to explain any out-of-the-ordinary expenses. I dont have my own stash of cash, we jointly share everything.
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I’m sorry; but to reveal such information is a major code violation in the Playa handbook.
best way is to hire a private det. but without spending money it’s hard to say - you could try following him, maybe in a friend’s car
follow him or hire a detective
get physical evidence (pictures or video)
this will help you in court a lot if you can catch him in the act
If you know who ’she’ is, go by her house and see if his car is there.
hire a PI
Get a phone recorder at Radio Shack, they sell one that’s self contained, and a box that you can plug a recorder into. Most of these devices can be put on any extension line in the house. Put it in line or a y adapter where he won’t see it. (assuming you have a land line phone.) Do not tell the clerk at radio shack what you want it for, or he can’t sell it to you. (that varies from state to state.)
You could see when he comes home if he smells like someone else, or have sex with him, if he doesn’t want to or can’t, or smells like sex that’s a pretty good indication.
So the cell phone records aren’t enough for you ? Talking to the girl isn’t enough for you ? Isn’t he already a cheat when he’s been talking to other women ?? Of course he’s going to deny it and now that he knows you know he will hide things better. The only thing you have left now is to show up places he’s supposed to be to see if he’s actually there or follow him after work one day or during his lunch break.
Sorry you are going through a rough time.
Try going through his pockets for receipts. I found 2 movie stubs and a business card for the other woman. I gave her a call and she denied it too, but I caught them both in a lie. Try e-mailing me for some other things you can do.
wow, you may not like my suggestion, but leave him…you obviously do not trust him at all, and what is love without trust? Whether he is or is not is irrelevant at this point.
well i have never had to go through this but i helped my sister catch her cheating dog. First we followed him and he went to this same house 2 times but we never saw a women. then we check the phone bill and saw a # i called it and said i was the cable company and i was checking on the cable in her area and needed to verify her address and c heck the spelling on her name. The one weekend he was supposedly going on a fishing trip so he would be miles away and out of reach so we thought we would have our chance to go confront her but to our surprise when we got there his truck was there. So instead or going to the door we call on-star and said we thought the car was stolen and needed to know they gave us the location then i called his cell and when he answered and i said hey Jess i think someone might have stolen your truck i saw it and someone in it and i know it was the truck so i called on-star for you within Min’s he came running out of the house with her right behind him and me and my sis met him at the car. He couldn’t talk his way out of that one and she caught him red handed. So my advice is get a best bud and do some investigative work and see what you come up with or tell him your going out of town for the weekend and hang around and see what hes up to. Good luck!!
Honey, the guy is already cheating–you KNOW it. So, start by protecting yourself. Make sure you have his SS number, all bank account numbers, any pension or stock info. Open your own checking account and start putting your paycheck into it. Then you will have money for a lawyer, PI, recording device, etc. The fact that HE controls the money is so you won’t get out of line and he can do what he wants.
Good luck and let us know what happens.
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I am going through the exact same scenario as you. However, I have heard my husband say to his “friend” “I love you too….” He did this right in front of myself and our sons. I was upset needless to say. When I asked, he stated it was like brotherly love. He had only been friends with her, well had worked with her for approximately 5 months prior to this being said. I have a guy friend I have been friends with for 3+ years and wouldn’t dream of saying I love him, especially in front of family. He no longer works with her, but works in the same town she lives in which is 45 miles from our home. He only talks to her when he’s not home - looked on our sprint call log….When I talked to my “guy pal” I always mentioned it to my husband and most the time waited til he was home so he wouldn’t think anything obvious. I can’t get the same respect - he will not talk about her to me period. Not that it mattered, we moved from Michigan to Florida so I don’t even see him at all - also my ex-coworker. He is obsessed with porn and plastic surgery these days. Mostly breast augmentation. I have not seen her, but as for me, I am a 38 D and gravity hasn’t totally taken hold yet lol anyways, I have never seen her so I am curious to know if he is checking those sites out for her. It will be a cold day in hell - or divorce court if I were to ever find out he is paying for surgery for someone else. Like you, I have a keylogger program and its only produced the plastic surgery and porn sites. He no longer logs into his email from home. I agree - every one usually suggests detectives and books - not helpful with out being able to spend money. Well good luck and hopefully things will turn around for people like us out there!!