boyfriend cheated on me… i'm pregnant?
My boyfriend just called me and told me that he had sex with one of his co-workers in AUS.. i’m in London and i was supposed to meet him in Australia next week but right now i dont think i want to. He told me that the girl kind of "forced" him to and he didn’t know why he did it but i feel like that kind of excuse doesn’t matter… i appreciate the fact that he told me the truth, but i’m just so shocked and hurt. i would have never expected this from my boyfriend, he’s always been so loyal. this girl is YEARS younger than him too. the strange part- he’s 17. the girl is 14. way too young, and it disgusts me. how do i deal with this..? He says he will never do it again and he just had to tell me because he felt guilty, but i feel like this is just too much to forgive right now. 
i’m a little over 23 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend has been with me the whole time, and we have loved eachother so much… he hasnt shown any signs of cheating, this happened so suddenly… how can i deal with this, do i leave him? what about the baby? please help has anyone else sort of had this situation?
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a 14 year old girl forced a 17 year old guy? wow - he really is full of it huh? if it’s not illegal it should be…i know 14 year old girls that haven’t hit puberty!
i was going to say see if you can work it out until i read the she’s 14 part…that’s sick and he doesn’t deserve you or your baby
you have no obligation to forgive him - i would not personally
is he trying to get rid of you by freaking you out so he won’t have to deal with the baby or break up with a pregnant girl? there’s something wrong with this guy!
get child support and custody - he can’t get out of this that easily…but he doesn’t deserve you or the baby
a baby is NOT a good reason to stay in a relationship - what if this is early pedophilia and he abuses your daughter?
no - a kid is better off with one loving dedicated parent than 2 when one is a bad person
LEAVE HIM
good luck!
Uh..No one forced him, he did that willingly. Leave him, whos to say he won’t do it again? You and your baby don’t need that sh*t.
Thats awful… How dare he do something like that to you, with you being pregnant. Hun, its up to you whether you want him to have another chance, maybe he will learn his lesson or maybe as they say, once a cheater always a cheater. Its never been done to me so I cant say I know how it feels but I can IMAGINE how hurt you are.
The baby is his right?
Maybe for the baby’s sake you guys can give it another go but he will have a lot of making up to do, a lot of grovelling and a lot of kissing-ass before he can regain your trust.
Good luck…
xx
***** Wow whats with the thumbs down……………….
For the sake of your baby, give him another chance, but tell him that if he messes up again, his loss!!
that’s horrible for one the girl is a child that’s the dirtyest part about it! and the fact that you are pregnant is even more horrible. i would not take him back! obviously you need to stay in touch for the baby and i would just wait till the baby is born make sure you get child support and if he wants to be involved with the baby let him. but if you forgive once it usually happens again and the fact hes so young proves he wasn’t ready to settle down. you dont usually stay wit your first love anyway its just a shame you got pregnant so young because now you will be tied to his loser till your child no longer needs looking after and is a grown up. dont let it get to you though and tr not to get too stressed for the sake of the baby.
Just leave him as long as you got family or friends to help with the baby that’s great, i am not with my baby’s dad, but my boyfriend now has been with me threw the whole pregnancy since i was 3months and been there when he was born and my baby is doing good and he is 2months. so i would leave him and later on if he wants to see the baby let him, my ex gave his rights to his parents he don’t want nothing to do with my baby so be careful
If his done it once then he’ll do it again.And the worst thing is his done it to you while your pregnant.You don’t need all this stress while your pregnant. His a selfish little boy and you and your baby will be better off without him. I think if you stay with him he’ll only cause you years of heartache. I’m so sorry this has happened to you x
Your boyfriend is a dirty lying pedo. Yuck.
Forced him did she? Only an idiot would beleive that.
Wow, that blows. I would be fuming, but mostly with sadness. I would forgive him, cause that’s just how I am. And I would want to give a second chance, cause I do believe in second chances, but I just don’t know if I could ever trust him again. That’s why I say I would WANT to give him another chance, but the truth is, I probably couldn’t. I would always be wondering when he’s with me, if he’s thinking about someone else, or when he was with me, who is he with, or if he’s cheating on me with any more girls. I don’t buy he was forced into it! Come on, he was forced by a 14yr old? You know that’s a load of crap! I can’t tell you what to do, only you can make that decision - and whatever you decide - just make sure you have support from your family and friends
I hope everything works out for you, make sure you know what you want - take some time and think about it - otherwise you might regret it for the rest of your life.
Its not fair to say once a cheater always a cheater but htere is a good possibitity i wont tell you to leave or stay thats up to you but i will tell you one thing no matter what the decision make sure you let him know that he just risked his childs well being i am thirty one weeks pregnant and i have been asked at every doctors appointment if i am in a solid relationship because any stds that i can catch can be transfered to my baby at delivier or if it is a more serious disease like hiv threw my blood stream. Make sure if you stay with him odnt touch his a** till he goes to see a doctor weather he had used a condom or not dont risk you or your babys well being best of luck to you and i hope your baby comes healthy and happy dont let this stress get the better of you
He did wrong! Especially with you being pregnant. However, he was honest with you about it. Now it is up to you. Can you forgive him? If you want your relationship to work then you have to find it in you to forgive him. It’s not easy honey, I’ve been there. The easiest way is to tell your self, he’s human. As humans we all make mistakes. Even though we may think they are perfect, the truth is, no one is perfect. When my husband cheated on me I realized these things and I came to realize this, no he isn’t perfect, but he is perfect for me. And I couldn’t imagine going through life without him. I forgave him. Now comes the issue of trust. Do you trust him now, no you don’t. And he created that. He has to be willing to accept the fact that he lost that trust and only he can earn it back. Will it happen over night? No. Will you trust him again before your baby is here? Probably not. It’s been almost 2 years and I still don’t trust my husband 100%. However, I work really hard at it and he strives each and every day to earn my trust back. Love is forgiving honey. Love is realizing they are going to make mistakes. You will make mistakes in life. Perhaps not like this, but you will. You will both make mistakes as parents. That’s how we learn. I do feel him telling you so quickly and him feeling so bad about it does say one thing about him. He loves you and wanted to be honest. Now if you don’t think you can forgive him, then go your separate ways. However, let him be as much a part of your sons life as you are. And try to remain friends for your sons sake. All I know is this is a tough thing to deal with and you should not have to be dealing with it at this point, with the pregnancy and all. Do not let it get you down to much, it’s not good for your baby if your stressed. Stress can bring on pre term labor. I truly feel for you. I know how painful this is. And no one should have to go through this. Especially someone your age. You are having to grow up way to fast and it’s not fair, but this is life. You know him best, do you think he is being honest when he says he will never do it again? Are you willing to take the chance for your love and your baby to work through it? Remember this saying, "Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice shame on me." If you decide to work through this, then by all means work through it, seek couple therapy if you need to. If he does it to you again, then you think of yourself and baby only. By the way, all of these questions I’ve answered for you, I’m having to answer again, as my 17 year old daughter just found out she’s pregnant. Am I happy, I’m hurt. Do I resent her or am I mad at her? No. That’s part of parenting, the love is unconditional. We will make it through it just as you are. I’ve been giving her the same advice I give you. I’m allowing her to make her own decisions. I’m just there to guide her and to comfort her. You follow your heart honey. If you do not want to give him a second chance, then you move on. You CAN make it on your own with your son. You will need help from family, but again, being a parent the love is unconditional. We help them through anything they need help with, we are there for them. And you please do this for me, no matter what, you always be there for your son and love him no matter what mistakes he may make. Just do your best to guide him in the right direcftion. I wish you the best of luck on this one. If I were there, I would hug you.
Ok 1st off.. im pretty sure you have had the bby now im a little late but if you love this guy and you have a child by him by all means nessacary try nd make it work but on the other had.. im going thru the sam thing im prego, nd emotionally ii need him right now but if i continue to let my guard done he’s gone cont. to run over me nd use it to his advantage “OH SHE GONE FORGIVE ME ND TAKE ME BACK B/C IM HER BBY FATHER” he think he got me wrapped around his finger but honestly he dont ii just want to find away out as of now im not talking to him and im keeping my distance even thoe ii want him just for the sake of the bby.. but for futher more im just gone chill..
good luck with this
Congrats Nue Mommmy..
Keep yah head up even when the struggle gets hard KEEP IT UP..never look down cuhz then he knows yah weakness is him..
I know how you feel my boyfriend cheated on me while I was pregnant also and the girl was secretly living with him… and he told me he told her he loved her. Then had sex with another women a little later with a women in my house while i was here on many occasions. I felt like my world was up side down. Think about it before you take him back you dont want to be one of those women like me that dont think about it, take him back and almost 10 months later your still mad. Trust me you will be still angry.
I agree with b2b 5-2-10. that is sick. If my hubby ever did that to me i won’t even think about letting him back. I wouldn’t even want to see him at all. I would have someone talk to him for me for the child support.
I really do feel for you, I am 13 weeks pregnant and have been with my fiance for four years, on Tuesday i found out he had slept with his ex. She is claiming to be pregnant too! we were both virgins when we met and he says he had cold feet about marrying me when he’d never had sex with someone else! He also said he only used her for sex, there was chance for him to use protection but he didnt, because she said she had only 4 days previous finished her period, and that she had a morning after pill she would take after!
I cant believe he was so stupid and that he risked me and my baby catching something. I dodnt know whether to believe she’s pregnant because she said she came off her period 4 days before and also she said she found out just days ago when her next period is not even due for another week yet! He also said it was her who suggested sex and to not use a condom as she doesnt like them! (speaking as a woman you cant even tell if a guy wears one or not, so why not use one?. She even says she has her midwife appointment! she’s only 3 weeks gone! she also said when she went to the doctors they did a blood test? surly the doctor would have told her to wait for her period and come back if it doesnt start? does anyone else think something sounds dodgy? he had been so stupid but she has always been obssesed by him and she constantly has harrassed us texting and stuff. I think my fiance just thought one ‘last fling’ and she was just there. I pray to god that he is not the dad of her baby, if she is even pregnant? I have cancelled my wedding and me and my partner are going to councilling, i dont know if i can forgive him but i love him very much and this is so out of charicter also i have to give it a try for my baby’s sake. Wish me luck! i’m going to need it, what ever you do make sure you get councilling for you and your boyfriend you need to find out why this happened and if you can move on together or appart, i hope we both get our answers because we deserve much better than what our partners have given us. god bless