Comments on: I snooped through my husbands email….and don’t like what I found PART 2?

By: Christy24

Christy24 — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:17:31 +0000

You should have a talk with him in a non-confrontational manner. If he is the good husband you say he is then he shouldn’t get mad but want to hear your concerns that you have. He probably just wanted his privacy but still in the end he shouldn’t have had a problem with you reading those letters, your his wife now and that’s what matters the most. However, maybe he just didn’t want you to read too much into the letters and get mad at him! Believe me the only way you will find peace with this is if you have a talk with him and tell him what you found.

By: The Smart Guy

The Smart Guy — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:17:31 +0000

You’re just paranoid because men have cheated on you in the past

Could you please answer mine?
http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090305181114AA3XTsJ&r=w

By: ArmyWife

ArmyWife — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:17:31 +0000

You should try to forget about it for now and focus on being a great wife and treating him well… just make a little extra effort to making him happy. See how he acts for a while, if he acts like he is trying to hide something then i think you should confront him

By: Sasha's Mommy

Sasha's Mommy — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:17:31 +0000

I really don’t think you have anything to worry about at this point. He probably lied to you about the one girl, saying he cut off contact with her because of her boyfriend, because he was embarassed to tell you of his own behavior.

One thing to remember is that he did choose you to marry. It doesn’t matter that you got pregnant. There’s no law that says if you knock a woman up that you have to marry her. Lots of people who have children together don’t get married. He made the choice to make you his wife. Have a little faith until a day comes where he proves to you that you shouldn’t. Don’t borrow trouble!

Good luck to you!

By: Jen D

Jen D — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:17:31 +0000

First of all I think that a lot of the mistrust comes from your past history of cheating on people and so therefore you might think that the same thing can happen to you as well. If he isn’t doing anything that is giving you a reason to suspect him doing something wrong then I would just work really hard on trying to have a little faith in him. I know that you said you have been cheated on before so I can see where you have trust issues but try to work on this together. You love him right? Okay so start to have a little trust in him and you also have to show that you are trustworthy as well.

By: popeyetcj

popeyetcj — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:17:31 +0000

He is not them. the sooner you realize that, the better you are.

By: Teresa T

Teresa T — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:17:31 +0000

I didn’t read your first posting, but if you two have a good relationship it would be a good start to let your husband know about your fears. Not accusing him, but just to let him know that it’s "your issue" that you are dealing with. Talking about your issue with him will let you feel better in not hiding it from him, and it will also let him know that you aren’t blaming him or accusing him of anything. It’s difficult being pregnant because there are sometimes self-esteem issues to start with-so just sit down with him and have a heart-to-heart with him. Most of all, if you truly feel it’s your issue you can talk to him about possibly going and talking to a professional about it-that will show him that you aware it’s you and not anything that he’s done.

By: Petunia

Petunia — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:17:31 +0000

Get out… If he is unfaithful now, Before the baby.. whats next after it.

By: Aussiemum

Aussiemum — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:17:31 +0000

What he did before he met you is none of you business.

You have ambushed this man into having a baby and marriage. You only met this man online in September, and personally in December……………..3 MONTHS!!!!!!!!!

If you keep this behaviour up, you will eventually lose him!

By: xoxo-gina!

xoxo-gina! — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:17:31 +0000

it’s natural for a female to feel this way, ecspecially the way you quickly fell in love you are yet to know more about him. But just because a few guys were dogs doesn’t mean they all are, don’t ruin somthing good because of that. Hes a guy if he didn’t want to be with you he would have said so pregnant or not he would have left if he wanted to! "if a guy is in love with a women nothing can keep him away and if hes not nothing can keep him there."
I know its also hard having him in the military and gone all the time, but you have to try and be sane and not think so negative there is always a chance of somthing in any thing in life but thinking it only makes life miserable, be happy! also whats in his past should stay there, its a waste of time worrying about it, i mean if hes been good so far and there arent good reason treat him right, i’m sure he’ll do the same if he carea about you. Try to fix this problem you get about being upset over this because when the baby comes you dont want him/her in a unstable life, with screaming, arguing and lies. Find the urge to stop snooping it might help your relationship and your worries, did you try talking to him about trust and tell him how you feel? he might need a littl reassurance after all this.
Talk to each other get to know each other more, go out on happy dates believe me when the little one gets here youd wished you went on wayy more.