How often is your instinct right about an unfaithful spouse?
Have any of you been right when it comes to having a gut feeling that your spouse is cheating? My husband cheated on me when we were dating- at the time, I had a feeling inside me that something wasn’t right, but he would never own up to anything, so I just ignored the feeling. He finally confessed to me and quit seeing the other girl. Well, we’ve been married for almost 5 years now, and I’ve got that feeling again. He’s also showing a lot of the same signs he was before. What’s really got me suspicious is that he’s very protective of his cell phone- he can’t stand for me to put my hands on it. If I do, he’ll immediately take it from me. Also- and yes, I know this was bad on my part, I tried to log into his email account to see if he had changed his password. He has. So now I no longer have access to it. My thinking is that why would he do that if he’s not hiding something? I need advice please.
I don’t want to stay in the marriage if he’s not going to remain faithful, but I also don’t want to accuse him of anything he’s not doing. I want to find out the truth.
I’m a little scared that the day’s coming when he walks out on me. He’s been really loose with all of our finances- telling me "Oh, take the credit card and buy yourself some clothes", "Yeah, go to the mall, that’s fine". He’s usually a tightwad with money, so I’m thinking he’s either feeling really guilty or he’s gonna leave me alone with all of the bills.
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Go back and read what you’ve posted. You’ve had this feeling before, and you were right. He’s showing all the signs as he’s done before. He’s over protective and he acts suspicion. Chances are..he cheating. Now you’ve just got to figure how to catch him and let him know you’re on to him with proof that will not allow him to lie his way out of.
Once a cheater always a cheater. Unfortunately, you knew the warnings before getting married to him.
my instinct is 100%.
you already know the truth. but if you need the evidence follow him. or have someone else follow him. hire a detective or contact cheater.com
Your gut is your best friend and will not lie to you no matter how much it hurts you. You will thank your gut later. Been there, done it.
when people show you who they are,
believe them the first time
Trust your instincts girl!
Sounds like he’s cheating. Hire a PI.
i believe u can always trust your instinct above anything else. a man will not hide anything if he isn’t guilty or trying to hide things. instinct is that feeling we get when we know something is terribly wrong, if your seeing some of the same signs as u did before u can bet he is up to no good. my instincts have always been correct, but most of the time i ignored them and denied them.
I tend to be a suspicious person so I avoid trusting my gut feeling. I think for most people though you should trust your intuition since it is your own way to protect yourself. I hate to say it, but it sounds to me like he is guilty. There are just too many signs. I would try to get some proof though since most likely he isn’t going to confess to anything. Can you get a copy of the cell phone bill or have him followed. Someone once told me that "a guilty mind needs no accuser"…how true that is! Sounds to me like he is GUILTY! Good luck, I feel for you!
wait until he falls asleep and then look at his cell phone log
Unfortunately for us women - our gut feel - the first kick we get - is usually 100% accurate. Best way is to get as much evidence that you can get your hands on - phone bills, receipts, credit card expenses you don’t know about - secure your finances, your house, your property and if you have kids - maybe secure their future as well. You have the option to turn a blind eye to your gut feel or take the lead and find out. Its easy to find out if he’s cheating. You’ll find a way, just get all your friends in on it and they’ll do the leg work for you. It worked for me and I caught my husband with his hand "in the cookie jar" and now he’s paying for every darn time he cheated on me by remaining in the house with his kids and taking every darn cent he owes me.
There are ways of checking the cell phone record without him knowing it… you can do it on line. if he is hiding things and be secretive about things then he has something to hide. Usually that gut instinct knows what its feeling. Sorry your going thru this. I don’t think you need answers, i think you already know the answer to what hes doing… you certainly deserve better. Good luck.
I been there, where my husband ( before we were married) had gone 2 weeks to truck driving school, and there was a strip club that they had always gone to. Well, I actually had a dream that he had took a stripper home, they got drunk, and that they kissed. When I told him about the dream, he got all on the offensive, and was telling me how stupid that was, so then I had to ask him why he got so angry, and if my dream was true, he later said that yes, but says they never had sex! I want to believe him, but my gut feeling tells me different. Anyways, sorry, for dragging on, but yeah, if he didn’t have anything to hide, he shouldn’t have changed his e-mail. Just confront him about it. If he gets all angry about you asking, then it could be that your instinct is right! Well, good luck
He is most likely cheating. He is being very secretive which means he is hiding something. Get out. I have been there, I married a cheater, thinking it wouldn’t happen again and it did. GET OUT!!! Tell him about your suspicions, if he gets angry, he’s cheating.
your instinct is your best friend
cheaters are the worst
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cheaters don’t deserve our love !
I will never ever tolerate cheating ever again !
Trust me on this, cheating is the most HORRIFYING thing I’ve ever had to face, I litterally wanted to die for months after I learned my boyfriend had been cheating on me for 6 months
Once a guy cheats on you he’ll probably do it again, if he cheated on a relationship prior to you it’s not as likely
cheating should be unforgivable
A person’s gut feeling is right 99% of the time. Go with your gut feeling, get the proof and surprise your husband.
oh yeah. always go with your gut. i knew something was up with my hubby when he started taking his cell phone EVERYWHERE with him.
ALWAYS, ALWAYS follow your gut instinct! That’s why we have the instinct- to warn us of danger or threats!!!
Anyone whose spouse has been unfaithful will want to read a book I just finished called “Love Tag” by Peter Shianna