My spouse accuses me of cheating what do I do or say?
I am a gay man and my boyfriend (the wife in the relationship) always thinks that I am talking to other guys. We have been together for 11 months now and I am still bothered by him still thinking I am cheating on him. Me and him have had our ups and downs in our relationship just like anyone else, but he takes his accusations to a whole nother level. I was signed onto AIM today and he was like "Tim, why are you on aim? Who do you talk to?" and I said my family mostly and he was like "right….how do I know that?, I don’t have your passwords for it" It’s bothering me! please help!
What are some things I can say to him that would make him think differently? or something good in my defense?
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i know that this is hard i went through the same thing with my ex boyfriend and what i said to him which helped was "in order to have a relationship you need to trust me and if you don’t trust me then you need to seriously consider why you are with me" the accusations dominantly decreased until i broke up with him cuz he just didn’t trust me even though he had cheated on me
Relationship should be about trust, this guy doesn’t trust you!! You really need to tell him how you feel and go from there. Sorry to say but it might be time to find someone else!!
People who have nothing to hide…hide nothing. be an open book. and remember…insecurity stems from themselves..very little do with you. good luck!
If you have nothing to hide give him your passwords. Computer chatting is very dangerous and the number one way of meeting to cheat. If you care about him then you would understand and you would make him feel comfortable.
Just imagine the rest of your life being played out like this! Tell him to trust you or be gone. Life is too short.
And BTW- typically the constant accuser is the guilty party.
Wow. Sorry but if someone was like that with me and he was only my bf I would move on. I would give him one last chance. Sit down, calmly let him know the type of person you are. If he doesn’t know it by now he never will. You shouldn’t have to defend and explain yourself over and over again. You want someone that will uplift you not suck your life away. If he can’t shape up then his worst fear will come true. You will leave.
It’s obvious that he is having some trust issues and insecurities…he has to deal with that himself. Just as long as you know you aren’t cheating on him then you don’t have to prove anything. If you try to go out your way to prove you are faithful he will only use that against you. Next time he accuses you just tell him you are sorry he feels that way, sorry he doesn’t trust you enough to know you wouldn’t do that to him and end the conversation right there. After he realizes you aren’t entertaining his behavior he will eventually stop.
Flip the script on him. Ask him if he’s cheating on you. What I’ve learned through my experiences with relationships, is that if your significant other is accusing you then most likely he’s the cheater.