Should Cheating Spouse Be Allowed Contact With Partner?
I no the answer to this already, BUT my husband thinks I am either being a b*tch about it or unreasonable and I want to show him how crazy he is to think he can cheat on me and think he can still be friends with the woman he did it with.
To give you background my husband got involved in March with another married woman that lived far away from us which they were able to hook up a few times and talked to each other non stop daily. I saw the signs and figured it out and he admitted to it. After much anger, heartbreak, and everything, he encourages her to stay with her husband and he will remain with me regardless of how miserable he is as we have 2 kids together. Things since then have been calm and nonconfrontational but I hear his phone chime every day with messages from her & even though she claims she has comitted to her hubby 100% she sure spends a lot of time talking to mine.
I told my husband the other day that i’ve had enough of her texting, calling or whatever and he asks me why can’t he be friends with her. No brainer for the rest of us, but he wants to have and eat his cake too. So I would like some very valid reasons to why he should never talk to her again and nothing else please as much as he may deserve it.
Yes, I know I should divorce him but I am a stay at home mom with no close, helpful, family so until I get a job it’s not an option. But in the meantime I would like this to stop. So please your words of wisdom.
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in my long life i have found that they really don’t leave the other woman, they just find a way to still be in touch. he should cut all ties unless he has an agenda, this woman is no friend to u or him, and she is a threat to your marriage.i can’t believe that he is still in touch with her, if he is than he has no intentions of ending it, and he is telling u a story. he seems calm and collective because he thinks he can have u and her too.
the valid reason he should never talk to her again is because he has had his dick inside her. If he can’t see why he shouldn’t still be talking to her, then you really should get a divorce. There are such things as alimony and child support for a reason.
You could always divorce him and steal half of everything he has earned from his job, as well as anything he will earn in the future from alimony/CS & steal his pension and retirement to make him work longer than he originally intended.
I personally think it’s funny when men have to work longer just because they got married, especially if the breadwinning spouse cheated. But if the spouse was a faithful loving provider, it’s still funny to see them destroyed and ravaged in divorce only for the sheer irony of it.
You can’t control him or his feelings! You should divorce him and file for child support. It’s not worth it to stay together for the kids or anything else.
Just like there is physical and emotional abuse, there is physical and emotional cheating. He’s still cheating.
He shouldnt have to stay with you if he is miserable, just because you guys have kids doesnt mean its the end of the world. I hope he knows he isnt stuck with you. If he wanted to stop speaking to her he would but he obviously has chosen to continue it. This is what he wants….
EDIT: See this is why women staying @ home is no good. You depend on him for tissue to whipe your azz, how much more dependant can you be? Now your stuck because you have no money, and no job!
Go to counseling. you need validation from another adult that his treatment of you is disrespectful and inconsiderate. In the words of my counselor, "quit being a doormat!" He will behave how you let him.
Why don’t you have his phone number changed? Tell him not to give it to her. Or call her husband and tell him what is going on. I am sure it will stop then.
wow, i am really sorry to hear this. you must be a very strong person to have been put upon like this..
the painful truth is they need to be together. you will for a very long time to come keep fighting to "break them up". her husband will leave her and then she is free to aggressively press on after your "loser" husband. i would get my ducks in a row and get some sort of plan.
i was on my own with 2 little ones at one time in my life. i wish it on no one, but you will be ok..
I think your best bet is telling her husband. I can’t see him putting up with his wife sleeping around. If she’s sleeping with your husband what makes you think that he is the only one she is cheating with ? And what kind of example is this for the kids to see ? I don’t care if they are little or not this is not a good scenario for anyone. Get a clergyman involved if you have one.unless he wants to move to Utah & be a Mormon.
He has already had the physical affair and he is now having an emotional affair. Some men NEVER get it! Sorry to say I think you have one of those men. As long as you put up with the crap he will continue to do as he pleases. If you need to stay with the idiot I encourage you to get an education and job. When you can stand on your own two feet, get you and your kids the hell out of that situation. In the mean time ask your husband if the roles were reversed would he put up with it? Also as a precaution get tested for STDs and no matter what he says(lies) to you, make him wear a condom!!! Good Luck.